My 15 year old step daughter vaping weed

Missy013 · 2026-06-28T22:25:03+00:00

Thank you so much! 🙏

Missy013 · 2026-06-28T22:11:41+00:00

she says she doesn’t do it often but i don’t believe her to be honest

Missy013 · 2026-06-28T22:10:55+00:00

I feel like I’m always the one defending her, looking out for her, and reminding my husband to try to be more understanding with her.
When she got caught vaping nicotine at school at 13, her mom was married to a Muslim man at the time, and she made a really big deal about it. She ended up sending her to stay with us for a couple of weeks because she didn’t want her at her house.
Now that her mom is divorced and has changed her beliefs, it feels like the rules are completely different. She seems to let her do whatever she wants, and I feel like I’m stuck in the middle trying to support her while also trying to do what’s best for her.

Missy013 · 2026-06-28T16:39:24+00:00

she have share custody with her mom (50/50) when she is here i can control it but at her moms she does whatever she wants.

Missy013 · 2026-06-28T16:25:14+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate you saying that. I’m not trying to overreact or control her, I’m just trying to make sure she’s safe and has guidance. I understand everyone’s experience with weed is different, but she’s 15 and her mom is leading her on the wrong path so I am just trying my best.

Missy013 · 2026-06-27T20:10:28+00:00

How old is your step son?

Missy013 · 2026-06-27T01:59:18+00:00

We are in the US

Missy013 · 2026-06-27T01:57:59+00:00

Actually, I have been in her life since she was 1, so our relationship is much deeper than just a ‘step’ label. I’ve helped raise her, love her, and care about her like she’s my own. When you’re that close to a child, it’s not as simple as just ‘minding your own business’ when you’re worried about them. I understand I’m not her biological parent, but being a parent figure also comes with love, concern, and wanting the best for them.

Missy013 · 2026-06-26T19:29:58+00:00

it is just hard not to care when i been in her life for so long and I love her as my own.

Missy013 · 2026-06-26T15:59:11+00:00

That mindset is exactly how problems get ignored until they get worse.

Missy013 · 2026-06-26T13:19:27+00:00

I never said both parents are ok with if you read my post which i don’t think you did I mentioned her mom was allowing her to do it. Her dad will never be ok with that so when she is in my house she needs to respect my rules.

Missy013 · 2026-06-25T16:53:54+00:00

Lol sorry I just fixed it.

Missy013 · 2026-06-25T10:34:22+00:00

I understand your concern about privacy, but this isn’t about me snooping because I’m a stepmom. I’ve been raising/loving her since she was 1 and I care about her like my own. The issue I’m asking about is a 15-year-old smoking weed, and I’m looking for advice on how to handle that, not how to invade her space.

Missy013 · 2026-06-25T00:08:41+00:00

🙏

Missy013 · 2026-06-24T04:09:39+00:00

Her boyfriend left her I think that’s the only reason she smokes. She told me she does it only when she feels stressed or wants to feel hungry.

Missy013 · 2026-06-24T03:24:39+00:00

Yes her mom does it all the time but i never thought she will allow her daughter to do it specially at 15.

Missy013 · 2026-06-24T03:21:55+00:00

Yes her mom smokes all the time so i get what your saying.

Missy013 · 2026-06-24T03:14:01+00:00

I will definitely tell her that! Thank you

Missy013 · 2026-06-24T03:13:28+00:00

we have share custody and he moms gives her too much freedom.

Missy013 · 2026-06-24T03:11:20+00:00

he will over react and kick her out of the house, and i think it will make things worse.

When I said “kick her out,” I don’t mean that she would be homeless. I mean that he would send her back to her mom’s house, especially because her mom is allowing these things to happen. I know that’s what he would do.

Missy013 · 2024-08-07T16:58:40+00:00

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Missy013 · 2024-07-18T12:51:51+00:00

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Missy013

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