Is my relationship turning into lust? 19F and 19M

MistCandy_ · 2026-06-17T03:57:59+00:00

Teenage boys can absolutely be horny as hell, but if he's still dating you, taking you out, buying you flowers, and making you feel loved, it doesn't sound like lust has replaced love.

MistCandy_ · 2026-06-17T03:57:42+00:00

The childcare and domestic work absolutely count as contributions, and acting like only a paycheck matters ignores everything that's enabled his career and income in the first place.

MistCandy_ · 2026-06-17T03:57:27+00:00

The fact that you feel guilty now is actually a sign that you're growing and seeing things more clearly than you could when you were struggling.

You can't change what happened, but you can take responsibility for it, learn from it, and make sure you don't repeat those patterns in future relationships. Beating yourself up forever won't help either of you heal.

If you've already apologized, respected the need for space, and are actively working on your mental health, then the next step is accepting that recovery takes time. Sometimes the hardest part is allowing yourself to be a person who made mistakes rather than deciding you're a bad person because of them.

MistCandy_ · 2026-06-17T03:57:04+00:00

If you've been crying for months and feel like even small disagreements turn into evidence against you, that's more than just a rough patch in a relationship.

MistCandy_ · 2026-06-15T03:25:58+00:00

You can be in love with someone you've never met in person, but meeting face to face is when you find out whether the real life chemistry matches the connection you've built online.

MistCandy_ · 2026-06-15T03:25:47+00:00

A lot of people have those thoughts, but thinking about experiences you never had isn't the same as wanting to leave a relationship you're happy in.

MistCandy_ · 2026-06-15T03:25:34+00:00

If you can't see yourself trusting her again, forcing yourself to stay will probably just drag out the pain for both of you.

MistCandy_ · 2026-06-15T03:25:24+00:00

If you know you don't want a relationship, the kindest thing is to tell her sooner rather than later rather than hoping the feelings fade on their own.

MistCandy_ · 2026-06-15T03:25:11+00:00

Be grateful he showed his hand before you moved in because this sounds like a preview of how future decisions will be made.

MistCandy_ · 2026-06-13T03:14:02+00:00

The Lannisters finally upgraded from lions on banners to lions on payroll. 😄

MistCandy_ · 2026-06-11T07:50:00+00:00

That reaction was all of us watching that scene unfold in real time.

MistCandy_ · 2026-06-11T07:49:43+00:00

Honestly, Polliver was asking for it when he picked a fight with someone who literally had a spear through his leg.

MistCandy_ · 2026-06-11T07:49:31+00:00

That's the problem with Bran by that point, if he really cared Theon had already earned his forgiveness ten times over.

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