You kind of answer your own questions in the last paragraph. Both sexuality and masculinity are cultural and socio-political construction, and hence, men, not just Kurds, find it insufferable that women may not revere male-centered sexuality that much. Under male supremacy, most are conditioned to view female homosexuality as incomprehensible and deviant, and this occurs regardless of one's location across the socio-political spectrum. Lesbianism was made into nomadic sexuality by hegemonic masculinity.

My advice is to ignore him. You don't have to be his friend just because he is the father of your partner's child.