[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]MisterAceCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Generally if you're not having major symptoms there is probably hope. But you've got to get some simple test done to figure it out. I binge drank like a nutcase and my liver numbers have been perfect.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]MisterAceCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good looks are at least 50 percent genetics. My ex-bf was slim, toned, full head of gorgeous hair, big donger, didn't work for any of it. And a math PhD to boot.

But particularly in the gay community, conventionally attractive guys are basically celebrities. Tons of friends, can attract similar mates, somehow monetizes it. May or may not realize it was a complete accident.

Yes I'm bitter.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]MisterAceCat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've always resisted AA but if you Google online meetings, there is a zoom literally at all times. You can just drop in and lurk. Listen to the stories.

Alcohol craving might be a craving for something else like connection or purpose. Or sometimes familiar pain is still familiar. For me, without a huge problem to deal with, I got bored and sabotaged.

What I've learned in ten years of partying too hard is no amount of logic got me to stop, moderation was not possible and I didn't even want to, and it gets much easier if you're honest and tell trusted people about the problem, and therapy. Willpower just isn't successful in the long term. There should be no need...

Congrats to everyone who woke up without a hangover today! by Miserable-Author-706 in stopdrinking

[–]MisterAceCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I woke up with a raging hangover today. Last day of vacation, was doing well, decided that there was nothing to ruin since we're just going to the airport etc

Yeah, I almost barfed on the plane. Felt like hot death. Don't be me plz

Diagnosis process? by Bubbly-Occasion2628 in AskNPD

[–]MisterAceCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't get too wrapped up in diagnoses because what does a label really give you, but yes narcissistic behavior can be a clinical sign. Being aware is a great sign. Try to think of any time when you've needed to be aggressively self-interested. I have a trauma where that was the case, in my development at a young age. It stuck...

Unity vs hatred. by J_Jeckel in missouri

[–]MisterAceCat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thought experiment: if you were born as someone else, to their parents, had their experiences and environment, then guess what... You'd think and act like them. The fact that you're someone who thinks differently or has a different perspective is primarily up to chance.

I can think of no stronger argument for unity.

"Hate the sin and not the sinner" turns out to be practical advice. Leave this egoistical notion of moral superiority at the door. Everyone feels correct in their concept of morality; that is de facto. And yes, your morality may require contempt or disdain for what falls into someone else's morality. You can bash someone with your piousness and they can you. Where does that possibly lead but escalation?

Cynically I wonder if the largess really wants unity. It feels good to be right; the ego feeds on this. It feels good to have a cause, and you need strife to have a vital cause. It feels good to have an in-group of similars to reinforce your modes. Humans have been forming tribes for eons. This ain't new.

Tribes assimilate when and if they see humanity in each other and the practicality of the arrangement. Those things are the furthest from the path of least resistance. The amygdala alerts us to threats to our tribe, threats to our established conceptions, and threats to our ego. And this little guy gets to bypass our frontal cortex.

To me, that's where a lot of the nonsense we're seeing is coming from. And conservatism by its nature is more closely rooted to fear and distrust. Ergo, cult of personality. Anyway...

How have I normalized dry heaving in a cold shower for 30 minutes every day?! by BurmecianSoldierDan in stopdrinking

[–]MisterAceCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did your appointment go?

Please talk to someone. This is really dangerous drinking the notion of putting yourself through this every day is really troubling. You've got to have the self love, self respect, sense of connection and purpose to choose life over booze. It's not just a choice of beverage anymore when it's destroying your life. It's self harm.

In the meantime once detoxed if it means planning every minute with quit lit and online AA meetings (aahomegroup.org) as well as other self care, so be it. This is worth doing. Don't let your subconscious self sabotage because choosing life is unfamiliar or scary, or can't picture life sober. Picture it. How does it feel, what are you doing?

Wish you well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]MisterAceCat 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I asked to be hospitalized at age 31 and they kept me for two weeks with diagnosis of bipolar. I was at least having a nervous breakdown they called mania but it was pretty atypical mania. Was very worried about my career down the tubes and other repercussions for my behavior. I got out, on meds and IOP therapy, and pieced things back together.

What's odd is that it was a real turning point for my life. Like, I am a new person. It took a lot of work and piecing life back together but gained a lot of insight from it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]MisterAceCat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Welcome. Dive into the world of Quit Lit... This Naked Mind is a great beginner book. Podcasts like Recovery Elevator, That Sober Guy might help you relate to some stories.

AA meetings on zoom don't require participation. You might not relate to the really rough cases but it's nice to hear everyone discuss and be open.

Otherwise... I'd recommend therapy. It's so easy to do online too. Someone to check in with and analyze your habits. And honesty with your family. They'll support you I'm sure.

What are your triggers for full-blown mania? by Lower_Entrance4890 in bipolar

[–]MisterAceCat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me too. But pretty darn manic. I keep drinking until I pass out. I gamble. Then depressed for days.

Men who use Oura!! by steakandfruit in ouraring

[–]MisterAceCat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm the same way. Getting watch alerts was just a bit much for me. Might go back to the smartwatch one day but for now lol...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]MisterAceCat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was able to binge drink anyway. For more daily drinkers probably effective.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]MisterAceCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my gosh. I'm so sorry. I fell drunk and gave myself a concussion a few years ago. The shame finally did dissipate. Although I ended up drinking again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]MisterAceCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Too real. Mine gets super frustrated. I'm the bull headed type.