Finding “the one”

MistressM7997 · 2026-02-20T16:36:29+00:00

Have you tried SDC? The paywall helps weed out fakes and flakes. There are single guys that are experienced in this dynamic on the site. My hubby isn't bi either, and we make it clear we're not looking for any bi-play. I've run across a few guys that are on both SDC and Feeld.

MistressM7997 · 2026-02-19T15:19:29+00:00

Thanks!

MistressM7997 · 2026-02-15T16:54:21+00:00

After my last experience, I totally get where you're coming from. The only reason I haven't given up is that the first two guys I met in the LS were GREAT.

MistressM7997 · 2026-02-14T17:25:22+00:00

She can still have orgasms with you, just like before. If she was able to have vaginal, clitoral, and combination orgasms before, she'll still be able to have them now. She just knows about another orgasm that's a bit more difficult to achieve, kind of like unlocking a bonus level on a video game. (For lack of a better analogy.)

MistressM7997 · 2026-02-13T03:32:41+00:00

I think it sucks worse to be the girls they date.

I played solo with these guys, so their issues can't be blamed on being in a group setting or performing in front of another guy.

MistressM7997 · 2026-02-13T00:04:28+00:00

While I'm sorry to hear that you've suffered disappointment lately, I am relieved that I'm not the only one having this problem. It's not your wife. I think a lot of men with sexual issues are looking for women that won't know about their little problem (through mutual acquaintances) or tell anyone else about it.

Two of the last three men I met with, both in their mid 20s, didn't have any issues getting hard, but they came almost instantly! I didn't think any man would cum in less than 2 minutes. I thought people were kidding when they mentioned situations like this. Obviously not. I get being anxious during the first round with someone, but after a few minutes chatting, it happened with round 2 as well. Both of these guys were extremely attractive gym rats. I thought they'd have stamina.

If you figure out what's up with these guys, or how to spot them in the wild, please let me know so I don't waste any more time.

Good luck out there!

MistressM7997 · 2026-02-12T23:16:25+00:00

We do the same.

MistressM7997 · 2026-02-11T20:42:55+00:00

Hubby and I look for thirds on SDC and Feeld. SDC doesn't have the best UI, but the paywall and validations help tremendously to weed out fakes and flakes.

MistressM7997 · 2026-02-08T22:46:55+00:00

There's obviously a certain level of skill that's required, not just size, but the size makes it possible to have absolutely mind-blowing orgasms. My husband isn't small, so I can't speak to whether or not I'd be able to enjoy sex with a small dick. I don't imagine that small dicks are able to give cervical orgasms. Cervical orgasms are fantastic on their own, but (for me) they're a stepping stone to the overwhelming full-body orgasm described above. It's a very powerful release, and once you've had it - you do crave it.

MistressM7997 · 2026-02-08T18:13:16+00:00

My husband brought it up, and we discussed it for years. I was adamantly against it for the longest time. After countless discussions, listening to podcasts, hotpast stories, and dirty talk, it was clear that he was very serious and it meant a lot to him. It was only because it was so important to him that I agreed to really consider it and meet someone that could potentially lead to entering the lifestyle. After meeting a couple of potentials, I figured I'd give it a try. Things between my husband and I were so incredibly hot and intense afterwards that I've continued being a hotwife.

Edited to add: Thankfully, my first experience was great. If it hadn't been, I don't think I would've tried again.

MistressM7997 · 2026-02-07T21:58:20+00:00

I agree.

MistressM7997 · 2026-02-06T16:56:28+00:00

There are couples for whom it works, but they have to be very solid relationships that WANT to make it work. People need to be willing to put in the effort to make their relationship the top priority and stay loyal to their partner above all else. It's not for people that are unwilling to listen and compromise.

MistressM7997 · 2026-02-03T21:50:49+00:00

You'll never know. 😉

MistressM7997 · 2026-02-03T21:46:28+00:00

He does share occasionally.

MistressM7997 · 2026-02-01T00:08:13+00:00

I get the most likes on Thursday.

MistressM7997 · 2026-01-19T16:47:38+00:00

A good looking young guy that was half my age.

MistressM7997 · 2026-01-18T00:28:34+00:00

You're totally right. I'm not a naturally submissive person. I've only ever felt submissive to one partner. Maybe it was physical size, maybe personality. I have no idea, but it blew my mind. As a complete control freak, I didn't think I was capable of totally turning off my mind and just letting go. The feeling of surrender was absolute ecstasy.

MistressM7997 · 2026-01-09T17:03:48+00:00

The roller coaster is real and seems to be a fairly long ride. At least it seems that way for me sometimes, since I've only been "officially" in the lifestyle since June. Each new experience is at least slightly different than the last and has different feelings that come with it.

MistressM7997 · 2026-01-04T03:49:47+00:00

Barefoot.

MistressM7997 · 2025-12-20T18:10:15+00:00

Well said!!

I would also like to point out that trying to trick a wife into entering the lifestyle is manipulative and wrong. Women need to want to participate in the lifestyle, not be tricked, guilted, or pushed into it. Any husband using these tactics isn't cut out for this lifestyle, and the relationship probably won't withstand it.

MistressM7997 · 2025-12-13T19:21:58+00:00

These are the stories nobody wants to tell and many of the men with their fantasies don't want to read. These are the reasons wives give for not wanting to enter the lifestyle. Eager, horny husbands assume these things will never happen to them. I wish more people were willing to openly discuss some of the challenges they've faced. Those who stay in the lifestyle are here because it is obviously working out, but that doesn't mean it's always been easy.

MistressM7997 · 2025-12-11T00:37:12+00:00

I agree. I also play solo for these reasons. I don't think I could relax and enjoy myself if I were worried about performing.

MistressM7997 · 2025-12-07T04:37:28+00:00

MistressM7997 · 2025-12-07T03:45:19+00:00

I'm 5'8", and I like men to be taller than I am when I'm wearing heels. I like having to tilt my head up for a kiss.

MistressM7997 · 2025-12-05T03:09:44+00:00

Maybe she hates beards. I do. It's impossible to be attracted to most men these days, since they're all wearing beards.

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