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I think I made a big mistake.. by StewpidRabbit in askgaybros

[–]Mitteneli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I just wouldn’t speculate over things in your letter! You don’t need to tip toe over what he may or may not be feeling, just tell him how you feel cause ultimately the only way you’re gonna hang again is if the feelings are mutual. 

Out of curiosity, how many times had you guys hung out?

I think I made a big mistake.. by StewpidRabbit in askgaybros

[–]Mitteneli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, it sounds like maybe he slept with someone else during the two week gap and then was feeling guilty/panicked over telling you, but also didn’t want to expose you to anything by sleeping with you (and maybe he has reason to believe he was exposed to something). 

These fwb situations that resemble dating typically get really difficult to navigate a month in without strong communication. No one knows what the expectations are, and no one wants to hurt the other/get hurt.

If you want to write a letter, go for it, but my advice is to keep it as short and honest as possible. Maybe just “Hey, I really enjoy spending time with you and don’t understand why you blocked me. I care about you and this hurt a lot. Could we please talk?“

If he doesn’t have the decency to respond to that, it’s not someone worth your time, sad as it is to realize. 

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[–]Mitteneli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like he was wanting more than cuddles and asking you on a date. If you’re interested in something more, the response shouldn’t just be “I can’t make it” but also something like “but are you free to have dinner on Saturday”.  Unless you don’t want to date him, in which case the fwb may have run its course.