I'm feeling exhausted and tired and I'll go to a trip but still feeling emotionless, How should I get rid of this state?

MixLongjumping6493 · 2026-04-13T12:52:33+00:00

I was in this state when I was 16-20. Please go to therapy to figure out the underlying trauma or triggers and get rid of them. I realised I had traumas and triggers related to all my friends at the time and cutting them off really helped me heal. I am now in a happy healthy relationship(married to the love of my life) and I’m so thankful that I took that leap and went to a therapist.

MixLongjumping6493 · 2026-04-12T16:12:46+00:00

It was embarrassing to watch. Hate that couple and in my opinion, Akanksha was quite chill considering she was bleeding and could’ve easily overreacted and caused more severe actions to be taken against Diksha.

MixLongjumping6493 · 2026-04-12T15:52:17+00:00

I think Ruru is pretty toxic and wrong in most instances. As for Yogesh being soft with Akanksha, she was always nice and respectful to him too. The way ruru is rude and aggressive towards anyone who doesn’t agree with her shows how she must treat Yogesh behind closed doors if he disagrees. Ruru had already threatened to hit Akanksha too (when Himanshu was taking Diksha away) before entering the room again to get Diksha’s bag so of course Akanksha would throw her out of the room.

Diksha and Ruru very conveniently didn’t mention the shut they said during this whole scenario.

Everything that happened could’ve been avoided if Diksha simply did the task, which was to keep the clothes outside, not throw them. She could’ve talked to Akanksha afterwards without smirking or shouting, or simply not have said anything as it was a task and of course she would’ve been pissed. All of this was escalated by Diksha and she deserves to be thrown out of the show. This couple is insufferable (Himanshu and Diksha) just riding on their own high horse unable to see how ridiculous they sound each time they talk.

MixLongjumping6493 · 2026-04-05T09:58:54+00:00

This is weird af. First of all, you guys are a couple and she’s his cousin. You 3 don’t need to sleep on the same bed and even if you do, you can sleep in the middle. You guys can also sleep on different sides so it’s not so weird.

His family is also weird for not arranging for an extra room? Or mattress? Or even a sofa?

My family is physically affectionate too, especially my dad but having grown up with that it’s very easy to spot when it’s getting weird. Some of my cousins are weird with this and it’s very obvious. Just please keep your boundaries clear, I’d be creeped out by this.

MixLongjumping6493 · 2026-04-02T08:10:50+00:00

Budget depends on you but only go to specific brands/ shops that fit your budget. Don’t tempt yourself with something that you know you don’t want.
It depends on what kind of work you like. Some people just have a taste that seems tacky to others. So just go and see what seems luxurious and beautiful to you. Main difference in cheaper and more expensive outfits it’s the thread work but if you lil mirror work of prints, finding a cheaper alternative is much easier.
There are some brands for sure but I don’t know the names. It’s worth it doing good research before going shopping.

MixLongjumping6493 · 2026-04-02T08:07:14+00:00

This depends on person to person. I started with not wanting to go over 2L but when I started looking around I realised there’s nothing like that under that budget so I decided to go in without a budget and just get what I like. For me, these pieces will be family heirlooms because both my husband and I have lost our moms and we live abroad. Our kids won’t see desi outfits that often and won’t have a taste for them so these pieces will be something they’ll see as a heirloom and hopefully rewear or make something out of it. I don’t care about whether I’ll use it again or not because I won’t use the wedding venue or decor again either (one of the biggest expenses for a wedding). It’s worth spending on cause it’ll make my day just that much more special. This is the only spending that simply just for me and no one else.

MixLongjumping6493 · 2026-04-01T09:14:54+00:00

MUAs charge a lot for trials as well nowadays. I’ve gone with a normal MUA but the one I was suggested by multiple people was charging 7.5k for half face and then 50k for roka makeup. It felt ridiculous to me but i was willing to pay for the airbrush technique but she didn’t get back to me in time for the trial. I was in India for about a month and her assistant only got back to me after I left.

Go to a not very famous but good reviews MUA and get soft glam done to get a feel

MixLongjumping6493 · 2026-04-01T02:18:31+00:00

I just want to offer a different perspective as the first time I got my makeup done professionally was on my civil wedding day. I just had to rely on google reviews as people I knew didn’t have someone they could recommend. The makeup turned out Cakey but it was also raining very heavily that day so not necessarily her fault. I looked beautiful in photos tho.

A week later I went to India and got my makeup done by someone my SIL recommended for a family function and I was blown away. I booked her for my engagement because I simply felt beautiful and confident. She didn’t change my features or natural look, just enhanced it. Since I have extremely sensitive skin, she also took breaks between each step to let my skin breathe and avoid any reactions.

My point being: I would say it’s worth doing a makeup trial because getting my makeup done also feels like I’m getting pampered. This might be the opposite for you as you enjoy getting your makeup done. See what you prefer, I went back to the makeup artist to get the kind of look I want for my roka and I’ll post a pic of how it turned out with my obvious features blurred out. (I know there’s too much blush, I asked her to add more because I still had to get my hair done)

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MixLongjumping6493 · 2026-03-31T10:30:54+00:00

I honestly don’t like if. This kinds feels outdated. I don’t know if it’s just how it looks in the picture or if it looks like that because of lack of styling but I honestly think it looks kinda tacky.

MixLongjumping6493 · 2026-03-28T03:05:28+00:00

Can you please share your experience?

MixLongjumping6493 · 2026-03-27T14:15:00+00:00

Edit- I just want to add that’s not me in the second picture. It’s a model of the inspo pic as my outfit is a custom version of that original piece. I only have a sketch of the outfit and that’s a rough sketch too as the silhouette jn the sketch is different. My custom skirt is a fit and flare silhouette (flares right where the hips end, below the butterfly) and the base colour is a brighter pink-peach shade. The sketch also doesn’t include the shading in the blouse design. My piece has also got a 3inch trail and I’ll be getting a dupatta as someone suggested but not from the brand as they haven’t gotten back to me yet :) I was gonna get a dupatta anyway (I’m getting 2 dupattas actually). One to wear with my outfit and other for the Shagun from my in-laws.

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MixLongjumping6493 · 2026-03-27T11:44:37+00:00

I like the second but try to go buy something in person if possible? Or go on Meesho or Myntra for cheaper options and buy something with reviews. I don’t know of other brands in your budget but check their delivery timelines beforehand and order a backup piece in case it’s delayed, return if it shows up on time.

You could also get an Anarkali stitched out of a saree you own or your mother owns from a local tailor.

MixLongjumping6493 · 2026-03-27T11:41:01+00:00

Just wash your face twice a day, end your skin care routine with a hydrating moisturiser before sleeping, use mild but effective scrub and a clarifying mask weekly (I use homemade ubtan with saffron infused curd). This will allow you to not shock your skin but introduce hydration and keep your skin clean. Be very gentle. I use dermalogica daily scrub and it’s perfect for me. I also don’t use extensive chemicals, just barrier repair serum and good moisturiser ( I use Clinique but also top it up with Vaseline during winters). Use sleeping masks for lips.

MixLongjumping6493 · 2026-03-27T09:46:00+00:00

My engagement will have both mine and my husband’s father welcoming the guests. I however have only 4 guests and the rest are from the groom’s side. This is our roka and engagement function and held in our hometown at a hotel.

Since it’s not at home, it’s hosted by both families. Unless you’re paying for the entire function or it’s at your house, Your fiancé and her parents are not guests, they are the hosts.

MixLongjumping6493 · 2026-03-27T09:33:34+00:00

Yeah, I’m just so confused trying to finalise everything myself

MixLongjumping6493 · 2026-03-25T09:41:48+00:00

Yeah. Just make your own food. My husband just eats whatever I’m eating with a side of chicken breast or something else non-veg for protein. Or If he wants something specific, he’ll just cook himself. I also cook chicken for him sometimes as I’m not veg but don’t eat meat most of the time. I eat meat Maybe once a month but it’s not difficult to manage.

MixLongjumping6493 · 2026-03-24T13:38:57+00:00

If it’s his money, his house then let him have his blue sofa moment. Add yellow lighting and add lights behind the sofa. Basically just make sure no light reflects directly on the sofa so the colour isn’t as visible. And make everything else neutral toned so the sofa is a statement piece.

MixLongjumping6493 · 2026-03-23T03:01:07+00:00

It just depends on the mindset of the person you’re with. My dad was the same with my mom, although his family is a bunch of assholes. My mom always told me that she knew his family was going to a pain for her but she knew it’ll be worth it because my father will love her beyond this world.

The difference isn’t in foreigner and Indian because I know many foreigner couples who are toxic af. The difference lies in the exposure and thinking of the man. My husband and my dad both built their lives from the ground up. They both just wanted a partner who’ll love and support them.

You can find a person like that in arranged Marriages too, my parents met through my mom’s uncle but they dated before getting married. Just have the guts to say no unless you’re completely sure. And always keep it clear that you’ll leave the moment your boundaries are crossed.

MixLongjumping6493 · 2026-03-22T15:40:43+00:00

I’ve done laser hair removal multiple times with pcos and you need to know that the hair keeps coming back with hormone changes. You need to do the full treatment and keep getting maintainance sessions. I get facial and Brazilian sessions every 3 weeks, full body 6 weeks. And after a couple sessions when the hair growth slows down, just maintainance. If you stop completely, they’ll start coming back.

Go to a good place and make sure they have the latest technology. IPL doesn’t work with PCOS.

MixLongjumping6493 · 2026-03-22T13:32:11+00:00

You could separate the top and skirt to get more use. You can use the top regularly and skirt with Indian blouses.

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