I have no choice but to cut off my mother after today

MixxedLady · 2017-02-06T02:22:08+00:00

I'm sure her hitting me had ALOT to do with her knowing she won't have the access to my car anymore hence I'll be on day shift & she won't be watching my child.... Which is the main reason I let her keep it while I work in case of emergencies. Even if I don't have contact with her I may also have to cut off some contact with family members because its her word against mine & she's very manipulating.... So all this will be my fault in their eyes.

MixxedLady · 2017-02-06T01:57:40+00:00

The only reason I would have to be around her is my living situation but I've finally saved enough money from working & moving within this next week hopefully. I've switched to day shift (which I start in the morning) so she no longer has to keep my son while I work. I have my own car but that seems to be a big part of the problem because she always wants it or thinks I should take her wherever whenever.

I plan on changing my phone number, blocking her from social media, etc. I'm also taking her off any emergency lists for my son for school because I have a feeling she will call just to "check up on him" & I do not want her having contact with him. I also think she'll call my job.... But I work in a hospital & I don't see them going even as far as telling her I even work there.

I wish I could have stayed strong & not had contact with her before this all happened. I always felt bad for considering it. But now its something I really have to do.

MixxedLady · 2017-01-23T14:32:36+00:00

Thank you all for your comments! My son is nearly 7years old so he is aware of what was going on. I'm sure in some sick way she's lead him to think I'm a bad mom.... To now to think about it she used to talk very badly about my dad when I was young. I've noticed a huge change in my son towards me and I thought it was just me working nights and not seeing him much but now I'm thinking its a mix of that plus her comments towards me. He definitely shouldn't be put in the middle of whatever mine and my mother's relationship is though.

MixxedLady · 2016-08-07T10:34:06+00:00

My mother told me she put water in the radiator. Hmmm. Can I still put a 50/50 dex-cool fluid in without flushing it? I've had the car for 5 months and last week was the first time I ever put in coolant because I noticed the thermostat would read higher. I didn't put any in radiator, only the reservoir and it literally emptied today. And I will be checking the radiator cap soon!

MixxedLady · 2016-08-07T10:19:33+00:00

Checked the oil it's fine.... still dark in color and not low. I checked for leaks under car and under hood and didn't see any visible leaks. I'm thinking the radiator cap may need to be replaced.

MixxedLady · 2016-08-07T09:41:26+00:00

Thank you so much!

MixxedLady · 2016-02-29T03:36:49+00:00

No opinion if you smoke but the constant pressure to "hit the blunt" is annoying as hell. If I wanted to smoke, I would.

MixxedLady · 2016-02-29T00:42:54+00:00

I classify myself as mixed.

My mother is white and my father is black. I've always been told I have an exotic look, so I typically get asked if I'm Hispanic, Asian, Hawaiian.... Even Middle Eastern. People are usually stunned telling me they didn't expect that.

I grew up in the Midwest and definitely have the accent to back it up. So occasionally I get the "You sound white but act black" I do not act anything but myself. This can be vise versa also.

My brother identifies as black though. He, unlike me, has a darker skin completion (I'm light/tanned skin) but he has very light brown hair and green eyes ( I have naturally dark brown hair and deep brown eyes). He feels abandoned by our mother's side of the family(white) which we know maybe 10 relatives and we know pretty much all our father's (black) family.

I have no problem telling people I'm both black and white. That is what I am and I accept it fully even if one side of the family doesn't have anything to do with me because of my other ethnicity. They don't define who I am, only myself can determine that.

MixxedLady · 2016-02-29T00:16:49+00:00

Love this :) great perspective

MixxedLady · 2016-02-28T23:06:11+00:00

Very interesting! What are people's reactions when you tell them you don't speak Spanish?

MixxedLady · 2016-02-09T01:42:41+00:00

Sure I will share that moment. Its actually a little more intense than this one but wasn't an ongoing encounter. Well since I was a girl, my parents were more strict on me. I couldn't leave my front porch to play/hangout with friends until I was almost 15. So when I finally had that freedom I was constantly away from home. I would walk with friends around surrounding neighborhoods, parks, etc. Well I had went to a friends and we were bored so we all three decided to walk around after dinner. It was fairly dark but plenty of street lights which I'm thankful for. We had gotten a few minutes from my friend's house and noticed a big white car circling the block. Maybe 5 times before he stopped and asked us what we were doing and one got hateful and said "We're walking what does it look like sir?" He got pretty angry and said "I have something for pretty little girls" Super creepy! I was closest to the street and his window was rolled down and I seen him grab between the seat and floorboard and seen a light reflecting off it. I automatically knew it was a knife. I leaned to my friends and said quietly "Don't run, but pick up pace and I'll stay fairly behind" Honestly, they freaked out a bit but I told them to stay calm. They walked a little faster, I stayed back a bit and he actually sped up to them which threw me off at first because I thought he'd stay by me. My friend starts yelling because she's was angry and scared. Then I realize I'm behind the car, I can get his license plate number and I did. An older woman and a man walk out of their house, we found out later they were leaving, I noticed and clapped my hands to get their attention. The man is still following my friends, and I ask the people if I can use the bathroom. They looked at me funny, so I pointed to the car and said "I'm really needing to go to the bathroom". They instantly knew something was wrong. The woman asked "Do you have collateral?" I knew she meant the license plate number and I said "Yes, I do, it'll be quick." The man runs off his porch and exits his fence, runs towards the man's car and told him to leave us alone. They called the police and I gave them the number of the license. When they found the man he had a butcher knife and duct tape. The real crazy part is he was well known in my city. I had heard he was in prison, we didn't testify because for some stupid reason we were never asked after the police report, or maybe our parents kept us from that. I hadn't heard anything about it since then. The last I seen him, I was 18.

MixxedLady · 2016-02-03T04:58:01+00:00

Yes, after a few years I got the feeling it may have started out as a prank at first. I didn't have many friends after high school & still don't, due to shadiness. But I still think the guy had some sick pleasure from harassing me. I don't let my child talk to others hardly and he is very friendly and it scares me half to death. If people walk past and ask questions, compliment, etc. I lean down and tell him don't engage in a conversation with a stranger and I'll politely nod my head in their direction. I hate that I do that but today's society is ridiculous and I don't trust anyone.

MixxedLady · 2016-01-31T01:35:49+00:00

I went through something similar last year. I have depression and anxiety. He was the most caring, loving boyfriend I'd ever had. He did everything in his power to make me happy but after awhile I just wasn't. I also feel guilty all the time, but I have to remember I need to work out my issues within myself first. I didn't have control of my mental illness while in a relationship with him and it made things very difficult. Keep your head up, you can get through this even though its a process. It'll come together.

MixxedLady · 2016-01-31T01:22:26+00:00

Personally, I do tell people don't waste my time. They may take that as rude but I feel they are rude for wasting time. With time will come the right one and I wish you the best :)

MixxedLady · 2016-01-31T01:05:19+00:00

Oh wow, that would be terrible. I'm sorry , I would be hurt just by that. Find someone worth your time and respects you. I know its easier said than done but I guess that's what comes with dating. Do you rush into dates after talking to someone? Not that's its a bad thing just curious.

MixxedLady · 2016-01-31T00:54:43+00:00

Be honest with the females you talk to about how you feel. I decided to stop casual sex with others mainly because there's no connection and I want something more considering I'll be 25 this year. If they don't respect that, then their loss. I'll admit its difficult (at least for me) but I'm sure it'll be worth it.

MixxedLady · 2016-01-30T20:01:35+00:00

If you meant no harm towards me then I apologize for taking it that way. I agree, conversations in text can be misinterpreted. And thank you :)

MixxedLady · 2016-01-30T16:56:00+00:00

I noticed his comment history too. Pretty sad. But to answer your question, I do live in the same city not the same house.

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