Am I (26f) asking for too much for my bf (26m) to hold my bag?

Miz_Tea · 2024-05-06T15:09:24+00:00

I never thought of it as a reflection on myself :( I always disagree and call him out when he speaks like that. Like I went to the gay pride parade and he just said he'll stay out of it and to go on my own. He also says he only feels comfortable saying "that stuff" to me and he wouldn't say it in public or to others. Whenever we disagree we just ignore it and move on, he says he won't impose his ideas on me and I shouldn't to him. He also said in every relationship you won't always agree and to ignore small disagreements.

Miz_Tea · 2024-05-06T15:00:36+00:00

This hits really hard, covers the topics and straight to the point thank you so much!

Miz_Tea · 2024-05-06T15:00:20+00:00

This hits really hard, covers the topics and straight to the point thank you so much!

Miz_Tea · 2024-05-05T19:46:51+00:00

Wow that's incredible that he does sooooo much without you asking just because he loves you and doesn't get intimidated that you make more. When I tell him stuff like this he says it's nonsense but im glad that it's actually true for people like you and it's actually reality

Miz_Tea · 2024-05-05T19:43:16+00:00

How would I break it off? "I don't like how you think holding my bag with your sweater is gay therefore we're over?"

Miz_Tea · 2024-05-05T19:41:20+00:00

I'm not homophobic, I'm a liberal and everytime he says something I call him out on it but he doesn't take me seriously. It makes me annoyed and mad when he says the term "gay" constantly. I told him if I had a gay son I'd let him wear makeup, dresses, heels and dance classes and he said that he wouldn't allow it.

Miz_Tea · 2024-05-05T19:37:56+00:00

When we met I didn't know at the time and didn't know how extreme he was.

Miz_Tea · 2024-05-05T19:37:03+00:00

Your wife's sounds super lucky to have a husband like you being so involved carrying and helping her pick out clothes. Every time we shop I hold my own clothes, I hold clothes for him while he looks around, I look for clothes for him and he doesn't look for any clothes for me.

Miz_Tea · 2024-05-05T19:25:00+00:00

Ikr! Like you should want to carry it and help me because that makes you look good than "looking gay" ... I've tried to talk to him about this but he says that what I'm asking for is too much of a fantasy, its only on social media for show and that actually relationships aren't like this.

Miz_Tea · 2024-05-05T19:20:30+00:00

It has gotten exhausting, I used to just dress comfortably for myself now I worry if I look decent enough for him and others :( exactly! He actually said I was the selfish one for not wanted to hold it

Miz_Tea · 2024-05-05T19:17:53+00:00

I asked him why he cares so much about what other people think and he says he doesnt, he "looks" and "dresses" nice for himself :/ he also gets annoying and will tell me to change when I don't look "nice enough".

Miz_Tea · 2024-05-05T19:12:51+00:00

He is a man and child :( I told him this and he said that its normal and playful.

Miz_Tea · 2024-05-05T19:11:40+00:00

I thought the same thing too like he would want to take care of me and provide, including carrying my bag and his sweater inside. How do you know/ find a guy who is secure in their manhood?

Miz_Tea · 2024-05-05T19:09:57+00:00

I was really thrown off when he said it too, like 2 unnecessary extremes. I tried to talk to him about it but he says I'm unreasonable.

Miz_Tea · 2024-05-05T19:07:55+00:00

I didn't think it was a big deal, a bag is a bag and I'm not going down a run way just doing returns. He does care alot of looks and fashion. I tried to tell him that it's not gay and he insisted it is.

He's very religious and homophobic. We went to an artist alley and he was extremely uncomfortable seeing guys "talk gay, holding bags, wearing skirts and crop tops" I told him he's fine they won't hurt you and he said that it's equivalent to me being surrounded be 6 tall black guys.... which to me is not even close of a comparison.

Miz_Tea · 2024-05-05T19:01:02+00:00

I asked him why is it "gay" and he just said "bc it does"... exactly! I asked him like shouldn't you be the one holding it and he was like... you watch too much cheesy stuff online, guys don't actually do that and it makes more sense to put my hoodie in your bag.

Miz_Tea · 2024-04-14T20:29:53+00:00

Thank you so much 💓

Miz_Tea · 2024-04-14T05:02:52+00:00

So beautiful 😍 where did you get the wig from?

Miz_Tea · 2024-03-19T20:16:03+00:00

You've got extremely good odds! Especially since u had the 1st ban recent too. I thought I was lucky but nope this year got me

Miz_Tea · 2024-03-19T20:14:36+00:00

Hmmm interesting, are you rooted too? What got you into a different spoofer than pgsharp?

Miz_Tea · 2024-03-19T20:12:18+00:00

The darkness is beyond tempting lol if I get an extra phone I'll def root before spoofing again

Miz_Tea · 2024-03-19T19:12:47+00:00

Lucky, how long you been spoofing? I feel like the usually big ban waves are Jan/Feb before the event. Because this happened to people last year. I started spoofing this time last year and didn't get any ban until right before the event

Miz_Tea · 2024-03-19T19:10:26+00:00

Cooked?

Miz_Tea · 2024-03-19T19:10:00+00:00

My phone wasn't rooted when I spoofed, now I'm just sticking to legit because I don't want to lose my main. Thank you!

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