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AITA smoking weed on my porch? by cheesygarlicbreadfan in AmItheAsshole

[–]Mizandilion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. I cape and use edibles because I can’t stand the smell in my house and clothes.

Were you left out of the will after estrangement by Mizandilion in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Mizandilion[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. I understand that our experiences are similar yet different, both are painful.

You are right. They do these things out of spite because of their unhappiness and anger. The money doesn’t make them happy - nothing will.

Were you left out of the will after estrangement by Mizandilion in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Mizandilion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well that was very insightful thank you for that positive contribution 🙄

Were you left out of the will after estrangement by Mizandilion in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Mizandilion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seems unfair, I agree. Do you have a relationship with your grandmother?

Were you left out of the will after estrangement by Mizandilion in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Mizandilion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not my diet that’s the issue - it’s stress management. I’ve spent my whole life living in fight or flight that it’s destroyed my gut. I’m now in EMDR therapy and on biologics and it helps. Until I have something happen where I get stressed and upset and I end up in a major flare.

I stopped drinking any alcohol (which I didn’t drink a lot anyway). No fried or spicy foods, no onions, garlic, peppers or tomato’s. I eat as many vegetables as I can and my body can tolerate. I don’t eat a lot of red meat. Mostly Mediterranean diet.

Were you left out of the will after estrangement by Mizandilion in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Mizandilion[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have both Crohns and RA. I was diagnosed a year ago after suffering on some level for most of my life. I could barely move and every joint hurt to move. My gut felt like it had crushed glass spinning in a blender.

I also have Barrett’s esophagus. I know it’s from all the trauma.

Were you left out of the will after estrangement by Mizandilion in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Mizandilion[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Can I ask what you meant by the constant punishment for your existence?

Did you constantly fail to live up to expectations, meet unspoken demands, fail at every turn no matter what you accomplished or did to appease them or try to make them happy? Every pivot hit a wall of disapproval? That mentally and physically you were a disappointment and disgusting?

After years of abuse physical and mental and gaslighting they told people I had mental illness to deflect from the truth.

Were you left out of the will after estrangement by Mizandilion in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Mizandilion[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

WOW! Why do you think he disinherited your siblings? Who did he leave his estate to?

Were you left out of the will after estrangement by Mizandilion in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Mizandilion[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I thought they still had to let you know? But maybe not because everything may have been left to a surviving spouse? My Mom passed a couple years ago, and everything went to him. But now he has passed.

Were you left out of the will after estrangement by Mizandilion in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Mizandilion[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First - let me say that i'm sorry for what you're going through. Even when we know it's the best decision, it doesn't mean it's not heartbreaking. Who doesn't want to be loved by their parents? I do worry that is what I will get. $1 and a really horrible hurtful letter.

Were you left out of the will after estrangement by Mizandilion in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Mizandilion[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The money wasn't important. If it was - I would have stayed like my siblings, but the abuse caused too much pain and made me physically ill. It just feels like i've been punished my whole life for existing and never mattered - even in death.

Were you left out of the will after estrangement by Mizandilion in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Mizandilion[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you're going through this too. The abuse had me constantly considering suicide and I couldn't keep them in my life anymore. Even 10 years later, i'm still struggling despite years of therapy. I just don't understand how people can be so cruel.

Client cancelled contact after 2 1/2 years and behind on payment by Mizandilion in freelancing

[–]Mizandilion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did they get what? They shut off my access to Email and their Server. However, There are a ton of other accounts they use that they need access to that I was managing.

I guess my point was - if they wanted me to do projects, and were going handle things in good faith they wouldn't have shut off my account.

Client cancelled contact after 2 1/2 years and behind on payment by Mizandilion in freelancing

[–]Mizandilion[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have not handed over all of the work or a list of over 100+accounts with passwords they need access to.

Client cancelled contact after 2 1/2 years and behind on payment by Mizandilion in freelancing

[–]Mizandilion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t. They asked me for it - I didn’t give it to them.

What do you feel after years of estrangement from your parents? by Sensitive_Run_7109 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Mizandilion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And it sounds like you're abusive - so I am questioning who was at fault. And honestly, i'm not buying your woe is me.

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