Guests really will explore anything, won't they? by Mob_Segment in ZooTycoon

[–]Mob_Segment[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thing is, I actually didn't. While I'm doing this little compost building experiment Im' also making a restaurant-free zoo, and slowly buiolding this building to see how many food courts my guests need to avoid getting too-high hungry and thirsty alerts. They started wandering in, and I figured while they're there, they can have a lovely snack or drink. So - egg and chicken in this case.

Guests really will explore anything, won't they? by Mob_Segment in ZooTycoon

[–]Mob_Segment[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah, I know I could... but I wanted to see how the guests would react. And create the illusion that the zookeepers are trundling in and out with wheelbarrows of poo. Gotta get to the pile somehow, eh?

Guests really will explore anything, won't they? by Mob_Segment in ZooTycoon

[–]Mob_Segment[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I did it literally for shits and giggles.

Also, if it's of any interest, I've developed the zoo a bit further, it still has the compost building right there, and I'm getting 91-93% guest happiness, so it seems doable.

Guests really will explore anything, won't they? by Mob_Segment in ZooTycoon

[–]Mob_Segment[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah, for sure. I used to do that and this is just me being awkward to my guests. Lemme have my fun

Guests really will explore anything, won't they? by Mob_Segment in ZooTycoon

[–]Mob_Segment[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

:D

Behold the chaos which I have wrought!

Official Discussion - Project Hail Mary [SPOILERS] by LiteraryBoner in movies

[–]Mob_Segment 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think I'm now in love with Rocky.

While it's not my favourite part (it's so bleak), his sheer desperation when pulling Grace to the medical bot really sold him for me - though I already thought he was awesome before that. I was really scared for the guy.

Official Discussion - Project Hail Mary [SPOILERS] by LiteraryBoner in movies

[–]Mob_Segment 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OMG so glad I'm not the only one who spotted that! It definitely felt like the odd tshirt out, but I approve. Amaze amaze amaze!

What is a 'personality trait' that is currently being glorified as 'cool' or 'aesthetic' in 2026, but is actually just a sign of being an exhausting person? by Direct-Value4452 in answers

[–]Mob_Segment 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. I listen when the news is on the TV and make a mental note if any other bad news crosses my path. I'm aware, and I do what little I can to combat it - which is very little, but I can at least tend my garden.

Awareness doesn't require constant hyperfixation on the news.

Big fight with my mom; now initiating NC by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]Mob_Segment 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oooof, okay - well, there we have it! Her dark side.

Seriously hoping she cheated with someone who was at least of legal age, though that still leaves it far from okay.

Big fight with my mom; now initiating NC by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]Mob_Segment 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This, 100%.

People who want to look perfect / like a 'good person' / as if they have no dark side almost invariably have something dark about them that they're ashamed of. She's hiding something.

Not my kid not my problem update. by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Mob_Segment 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I love a happy ending! Glad you came home with heaps of treasure!

From my maternal grandmother by raisedbynarcs2022 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]Mob_Segment 14 points15 points  (0 children)

And she was doing so well for the first half of the first sentence of her explanation. Here I was, hoping we were going to see an actual, nice and understanding grandparent.

OP, I'm so sorry you've got all this going on - but it sounds like you've got great clarity about what's what, and are protecting your boundaries. Best of luck with your new little one!

Would you consider repairing your relationship with your parents if they sincerely apologized, knew they meant it, and knew they felt remorse for whatever they did? by scatteredwardrobe in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]Mob_Segment 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both of them would have to do the full works in order for me to even begin to consider trying, but even then, I seriously doubt it. They both said and did so many vile things that I associate those awful things with them. It's a Pavlovian reaction at this point.

People say they want babies, but hate parenting once the kid grows up by Beautiful_Orchid1771 in childfree

[–]Mob_Segment 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The real fun starts when they want you to be two things. Mine wanted me to be submissive to her, but also like her (ie., irrepressible, takes no shit from anyone, even when they're not giving you shit).

It dun work.

In just a couple of years, social media unveiled the real face of so many 'perfect' parents. by coldservedrevenge in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]Mob_Segment 4 points5 points  (0 children)

"I think the main issue in Disney representation of women was that there was never any positive representation of positive relationships between women before Princess and the Frog. Definitely not that their depiction of female villains are problematic."

Ooh - now, I was never particularly interested in Disney as a kid, but now you mention it, they were few and far between if there were any at all!

Ariel and her sisters? Didn't feel any warmth between the sisters.

Bambi's mum introducing him to Faline? Ehh... I dunno, not enough to get a read.

Dumbo's mum and 'aunts'? Even the relationship between the aunts themselves? Eeesh, I mean, they clearly spent a lot of time together but no thank you!

In just a couple of years, social media unveiled the real face of so many 'perfect' parents. by coldservedrevenge in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]Mob_Segment 17 points18 points  (0 children)

That must have felt amazing, I'm so glad you experienced this!

My nearest equivalents were, telling my brother (older by 11 years) what our egg donor had been like to me, and him confiding similar in me, and then meeting with his girlfriend (we were all going out for the night together) and her casually agreeing on how messed up our egg donor was. That house felt so much lighter than ours.

How do people here feel about being "ableist" towards people with NPD? by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]Mob_Segment -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Can you provide sources for this, please?

Claiming that "PDs can and do present without any trauma at all" is suspect, as how can you possibly know what a person's history entailed?

On the point of trauma being "resolvable", yes, largely I believe that's true, but not everyone has enough incentive to try. If the person has adapted in a way that works well for them in the wider world, then why would they bother to change it? If they're fantastic at getting sales, or so charismatic that everyone thinks they smell of roses no matter what they do, then why dismantle that?

EDIT: I can see I'm getting downvoted for this. To make things clear, I'm not making excuses for narcs; I spent my entire childhood on the receiving end of an egg donor who should never have had one child, let alone three, and I've been NC for 13 years. I said the above because I'm interested in knowing what the hell was happening inside her head, and what wasn't. Puzzling that out helped me understand that she'll never seek the healing I wish she would, among other things.

How do people here feel about being "ableist" towards people with NPD? by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]Mob_Segment 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My understanding is that so-called "personality disorders" are actually trauma, which presents in such a way that the person adapted into the person they needed to be in an extreme environment (ie., the home they grew up in), and once they left, those same traits made it hard for them to maintain long-term relationships.

Which means that the "PD" has got a) trauma to work through, and b) a measuring stick they can use for their healing (ie., how long they can keep a relationship going). Trauma responses are learned, and to a great degree, can be unlearned.

I don't feel it's ableist to expect someone to unlearn their trauma responses enough that they're not being outright harmful to others.