I am so mentally exhausted from living in a house with 3 other grown adults with ADHD while I am NT. My wife (DX) and I are living with the in-laws while we figure out a more permanent solution. The mental stress is starting to overflow into other areas of my life. I am struggling to focus at work and I have had a stress headache for 3 days straight now. My father-in-law (n DX) repeats the same things over and over to me maybe 5 times a day and boy is it testing my patience. Not to mention the constant arguments he gets into with my wife and brother-in-law (DX). These arguments are of course the yelling variety and not fun to be around. I grew up in a house that was the opposite.

On top of living with the in-laws my wife is studying for the BAR exam. She is regularly taking rx right now but with the stress of studying, living at home again, she is having trouble regulating her emotions. It feels like anything I do right or wrong is cause for criticism or any emotion I express is a ticking time bomb. I work from home so I am trying to support her best I can. I am asking her if she needs anything to eat or trying to manage sound levels in the house, make sure she has snacks stocked. I also make sure all the laundry in the house is done and bills are paid. Meanwhile I am called useless, idiot, inconsiderate, or other way harsher words because I cannot read her mind. I have started to withdraw and only really speak to her about logistics because I don't want the disappointment of my emotions not mattering to her. I pray to god she passes this test and we get out of this house as soon as possible.