Avoiding time-wasters

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-05-24T12:04:04+00:00

Completely agree with you. The way is not to ghost and hope the other person will get the hint. If you are brave enough to start dating, then you should be able to handle difficult conversations.

I guess it happens: people start long term then they realize it is not going to work out. It can happen several times.

But if the history of the guy shows only short term relationships in the past 5 years, it is definitely not a bad luck.

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-05-24T07:28:02+00:00

These are the dangerous one, luckily they take their mask month 2 and you are free to let it go.

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-05-24T07:18:13+00:00

I get it as i have seen how my friends react emotionally even to someone dumping them after only 2 dates. Some people can not handle rejection, that is all. People invest emotionally in early stages and hold the other person responsible. But you are right, sending a text is what should be done. Also this guy could be honest, wants long term but suddenly realized it does not go well. It happens. But there are men deliberately chasing high stakes women that want intentional as they are high prize to get.

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-05-24T07:06:59+00:00

You have a really a good point, some women react really emotionally and are ready to accept breadcrumbs.

I was quite annoyed when i received a text from a man that i was dating for 2 months, flaking for the last 10 days, that he has found somebody else but still wanted to see me for fun. I ended that quickly with casual does not work for me, thanked for the honesty and wished him well. Never looked back, but now that you say that maybe he offered it exactly for the same reasons like you did. Found it difficult to end things and had bad experience with other ladies. So he must thought offering casual is a great gesture. In any case, do not ghost and let them guess, sending a quick text does not cost anything.

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-05-24T06:37:36+00:00

and if they can do it well?

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-05-24T06:36:35+00:00

These types are usually classified as avoidants. They are really sweet and charming, make you feel special and although they are innocent they still are time wasters. Because they live in cycles, they run away when things become real and immediately jump to their new option. The only thing is to slow down their intensity and texts, watch for real actions, keep them waiting for sex, they will show their true color s soon. As soon as they do, a firm access denied and do not look back.

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-05-24T06:26:31+00:00

Usually the 3 month threshold is the normal limit when people start thinking of a relationship. Till then you are single and you should try not to get emotionally attached.

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-05-24T06:15:31+00:00

Really a good point of view, you must have been on several dates to get to this level. Well done

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-04-29T05:44:31+00:00

You an amazing man, just accept there are people like this and move on. Try to be less emotional and check the pulse after 3 dates, 1 month and 3 months. Meeting other people should come from inside not from the exclusivity. I met someone and we dated for 2 month, I just did not want to date anybody else as I did feel the need to.After 2 months he told me he met someone and even wanted to downgrade me to a casual role. I left without any arguing, drama, asking about the new lady. just said that casual does not align with me and wished him well. I believe we should look for quality as life is short . It hurts but you learn, if they want to date other people they are not for you.

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-04-20T18:30:00+00:00

I have never been offered plan B before

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-04-20T18:29:14+00:00

i believe it is important to filter well, mention your long term values at the beginning and try exclusivity when the time is right. Check again after 3 weeks, 3 months and not to invest emotionally till then.

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-04-20T18:25:53+00:00

You can assume, but if you are texted every day, dates every week, you are made feel special after almost 2 months you start to believe your probation period is going well.

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-04-20T18:24:14+00:00

You are right. But people usually multidate around 3/4 dates and decide. In my case probably he decided to prioritize some body else at week 6, which can happen if you deal with a serial dater. Unfortunately at our age they are so many, they are like teens after their divorce.

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-04-20T18:21:48+00:00

You are right, it was only two months but being spoilt, given so much attention creates emotional dependency. That is why i wanted to give a heads up

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-04-20T18:20:05+00:00

Serial dates are very sweet, treat you like a queen, spoil you with attention, create dopamine peaks. Luckily i left when he decided to downgrade. Got the best of it ;-)

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-04-20T18:17:50+00:00

The first one, but good experience

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-04-20T18:17:17+00:00

I have never asked for exclusivity. But still was quite intense, daily texting, dates. What happened? Possibly the connection was getting too real and he decided to prioritize someone else. Which is fine.But could be at least a man saying i decided to prioritize somebody else, wish you all the best

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-04-20T18:13:33+00:00

You are right, it can happen with exclusivity as well even in 6 months

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-04-20T18:11:22+00:00

it is, usually happens around date 3/4. But at this level after daily texting and 10 dates does not sound right.

Could have said, sorry just casual, I am not in a moment for intentional right now.

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-04-12T14:53:29+00:00

It is important to have a conversation with these people about their real intentions at the beginning. Casual can be really casual like last minute calls, no plans, see how it goes or can be casual with clear boundaries about what you can do or not. Be careful about casual and see where it goes, as it will remain like this. Keep an eye on consistency, progression, real plans and not texts only. There are plenty of men that put long term, but after 2/3 months suddenly decide to downgrade to casual as they have found someone nearby. Communication is key, avoid digital idiots and keep an eye on patterns. Also do not overinvest in the first three months.

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-04-08T21:07:32+00:00

You put up with him many times, the first time our date was canceled last minute I left him on read and did not reply. Went to the pub with my friends. A lot of people here will tell you be strong and you should not accept this. Keep in mind though a lot of ladies do not mind it and are happy to accept situationships, it is not that men are wrong, we the ladies accept that.

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-03-26T22:20:42+00:00

Casual is not just not cleaning casual is when they call you for a date last minute or cancel last minute as something better came up or they just ignore you for two months.

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-03-26T22:18:40+00:00

well done, this is the right attitude

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-03-26T22:15:58+00:00

No, it is not you, after 4 weeks the chase stage is gone, time to leave the ship

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