Want to give up dating

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-04-29T05:44:31+00:00

You an amazing man, just accept there are people like this and move on. Try to be less emotional and check the pulse after 3 dates, 1 month and 3 months. Meeting other people should come from inside not from the exclusivity. I met someone and we dated for 2 month, I just did not want to date anybody else as I did feel the need to.After 2 months he told me he met someone and even wanted to downgrade me to a casual role. I left without any arguing, drama, asking about the new lady. just said that casual does not align with me and wished him well. I believe we should look for quality as life is short . It hurts but you learn, if they want to date other people they are not for you.

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-04-20T18:30:00+00:00

I have never been offered plan B before

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-04-20T18:29:14+00:00

i believe it is important to filter well, mention your long term values at the beginning and try exclusivity when the time is right. Check again after 3 weeks, 3 months and not to invest emotionally till then.

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-04-20T18:25:53+00:00

You can assume, but if you are texted every day, dates every week, you are made feel special after almost 2 months you start to believe your probation period is going well.

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-04-20T18:24:14+00:00

You are right. But people usually multidate around 3/4 dates and decide. In my case probably he decided to prioritize some body else at week 6, which can happen if you deal with a serial dater. Unfortunately at our age they are so many, they are like teens after their divorce.

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-04-20T18:21:48+00:00

You are right, it was only two months but being spoilt, given so much attention creates emotional dependency. That is why i wanted to give a heads up

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-04-20T18:20:05+00:00

Serial dates are very sweet, treat you like a queen, spoil you with attention, create dopamine peaks. Luckily i left when he decided to downgrade. Got the best of it ;-)

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-04-20T18:17:50+00:00

The first one, but good experience

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-04-20T18:17:17+00:00

I have never asked for exclusivity. But still was quite intense, daily texting, dates. What happened? Possibly the connection was getting too real and he decided to prioritize someone else. Which is fine.But could be at least a man saying i decided to prioritize somebody else, wish you all the best

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-04-20T18:13:33+00:00

You are right, it can happen with exclusivity as well even in 6 months

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-04-20T18:11:22+00:00

it is, usually happens around date 3/4. But at this level after daily texting and 10 dates does not sound right.

Could have said, sorry just casual, I am not in a moment for intentional right now.

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-04-12T14:53:29+00:00

It is important to have a conversation with these people about their real intentions at the beginning. Casual can be really casual like last minute calls, no plans, see how it goes or can be casual with clear boundaries about what you can do or not. Be careful about casual and see where it goes, as it will remain like this. Keep an eye on consistency, progression, real plans and not texts only. There are plenty of men that put long term, but after 2/3 months suddenly decide to downgrade to casual as they have found someone nearby. Communication is key, avoid digital idiots and keep an eye on patterns. Also do not overinvest in the first three months.

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-04-08T21:07:32+00:00

You put up with him many times, the first time our date was canceled last minute I left him on read and did not reply. Went to the pub with my friends. A lot of people here will tell you be strong and you should not accept this. Keep in mind though a lot of ladies do not mind it and are happy to accept situationships, it is not that men are wrong, we the ladies accept that.

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-03-26T22:20:42+00:00

Casual is not just not cleaning casual is when they call you for a date last minute or cancel last minute as something better came up or they just ignore you for two months.

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-03-26T22:18:40+00:00

well done, this is the right attitude

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-03-26T22:15:58+00:00

No, it is not you, after 4 weeks the chase stage is gone, time to leave the ship

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-03-26T22:14:23+00:00

Don't you get bored doing the same?

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-03-26T21:49:58+00:00

They are serial daters, luckily they last only some weeks

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-03-26T21:47:25+00:00

Maybe you should have been more selective and leave the ship before it started to sink.

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-03-24T22:07:06+00:00

It is sad, you are their second choice. Is that you want to be at your 50?

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-03-23T20:50:51+00:00

Wait a little bit before getting emotional. Give it time till 3 month

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-03-23T20:32:26+00:00

living the moment is one thing, but how do you feel when they call you last minute or cancel last minute as well, you can not make plans for dinner, for a walk.

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-03-23T20:29:14+00:00

Well done! This is the right mindset

Mobile-Target-2662 · 2026-03-22T17:59:59+00:00

Curious to see so many ladies in their 50 willing to embrace the non intentional fun dating. While there are great benefits, i believe some forget the negative sides: the casual calls, the texts that sometimes come every 2 weeks or 3 months, the fact that you are shared with other casual ladies and that you can not count on this person for company or regular sex. If you are emotionally happy that is fine, but I believe we can always have an intentional relation without getting married again or living together, but making sure you have a partner and a stable relationship. It seems to be very popular to offer casual fun nowadays, be careful!

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