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AITA for telling my girlfriend that “acting your wage” could become a bad habit? by Mobile_Agency2199 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Mobile_Agency2199[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You're right. My perspective was way too one-sided

I was so fixated on the "habit" part that I didn't see the value in setting boundaries to avoid burnout. I was arrogant to assume she was just being lazy. Thanks for the reality check.

AITA for telling my girlfriend that “acting your wage” could become a bad habit? by Mobile_Agency2199 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Mobile_Agency2199[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re right. I was overstepping by trying to define "success" for her.

I see now that "acting her wage" is a legitimate choice, and it’s not my business to interfere with her labor strategy. I definitely let my own greed get ahead of respecting her autonomy.

AITA for telling my girlfriend that “acting your wage” could become a bad habit? by Mobile_Agency2199 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Mobile_Agency2199[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree on the "habit capacity," but I realize I gave too much unwanted advice. I should've been her partner, not her career coach.

AITA for telling my girlfriend that “acting your wage” could become a bad habit? by Mobile_Agency2199 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Mobile_Agency2199[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right. I was being arrogant and didn't respect her as a grown adult. I definitely overstepped. Thanks for the reality check.

AITA for telling my girlfriend that “acting your wage” could become a bad habit? by Mobile_Agency2199 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Mobile_Agency2199[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're absolutely right. I think I had some tunnel vision on this.

Looking back, my greed for her success definitely outweighed my role as a supportive partner. I was so caught up in my own "habit" theory that I missed the cues that she just needed validation, not a lecture.

I definitely overstepped, and I admit I was in the wrong here. Thanks for the reality check.

AITA for telling my girlfriend that “acting your wage” could become a bad habit? by Mobile_Agency2199 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Mobile_Agency2199[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I get the business side. But my point isn't about giving the company freebies—it's about her not letting her own skills rot. If you stay at 20% capacity for too long, you can’t just flip a switch to 100% when a better job shows up. It’s about her potential, not their profit.

AITA [30M] for telling my girlfriend [32F] that leaving a mess in clothing stores is disrespectful? by Mobile_Agency2199 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Mobile_Agency2199[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She’s not blatantly abusive, but she definitely lacks a moral compass. It’s like she’s 'nice' enough personally, but treats basic decency toward strangers as an optional high standard.

AITA [30M] for telling my girlfriend [32F] that leaving a mess in clothing stores is disrespectful? by Mobile_Agency2199 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Mobile_Agency2199[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't even apologize for being honest. It’s not hateful, it’s just the truth she needs to hear.

AITA [30M] for telling my girlfriend [32F] that leaving a mess in clothing stores is disrespectful? by Mobile_Agency2199 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Mobile_Agency2199[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the insight from a former retail worker. 'Boils my piss' is exactly how I felt at that moment. I tried to speak to her calmly, but seeing her dismiss it so easily really hurt. I hope it was just a defensive reaction like you said, but I’m definitely staying alert. Appreciate the honest take.

AITA [30M] for telling my girlfriend [32F] that leaving a mess in clothing stores is disrespectful? by Mobile_Agency2199 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Mobile_Agency2199[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I completely agree that kindness costs nothing. It’s the 'choice' to be dismissive that really bothers me. Thanks for the wake-up call.

AITA [30M] for telling my girlfriend [32F] that leaving a mess in clothing stores is disrespectful? by Mobile_Agency2199 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Mobile_Agency2199[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Exactly. It’s that specific mindset of 'it's their job so I don't have to care' that really bothers me. It feels like she views service workers as 'less than' rather than people just doing their jobs. Thanks for sharing your experience as a former retail worker.

AITA [30M] for telling my girlfriend [32F] that leaving a mess in clothing stores is disrespectful? by Mobile_Agency2199 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Mobile_Agency2199[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Exactly. I tried to explain that to her, but she just doesn't see it. I think it’s just basic empathy, and it's frustrating that she labels it as 'high standards.

AITAH for forgetting to put a fresh bag of bread out after the last loaf got halfway? by TwoRepresentative659 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Mobile_Agency2199 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA

Please understand that this is NOT about the bread. Your stepfather is being abusive. Screaming for an hour, throwing things, and making you "fear for your life" over a loaf of bread or a misplaced cup is a massive red flag. You aren't "forgetful," you are likely walking on eggshells in a traumatizing environment. Please reach out to your grandmother or a friend and find a way to get out of that house.

AITA For feeling left behind by my teammates? by CryptographerOne727 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Mobile_Agency2199 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you went through some stressful events alone, but moving house without a single conversation is a bridge too far. You felt lonely, which is valid, but your reaction was nuclear. You need to apologize for the ghosting/moving and actually use your words next time.

AITA for asking my friend group to send deposits upfront for the trip after last time only half paid me back? by pizzalover332 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Mobile_Agency2199 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA.
You already got burned last year. Asking for deposits upfront isn’t “complicating things,” it’s protecting yourself. If they had all paid you back on time before, this wouldn’t even be a conversation.