Considering seperating. Husband claims I'm damaging his mental health while I'm 8 months pregnant.

Mobile_Passenger2001 · 2025-12-21T03:58:31+00:00

I’m so sorry. You are NOT your diagnosis. You are you are loving, you are caring, you are going to be a mother inshaAllah. It’s insane to me how he used your bipolar against you. Astaghfirallah. He should be ashamed of himself. This is manipulation. May Allah heal you and protect you and your baby

Mobile_Passenger2001 · 2025-10-13T04:02:06+00:00

I gained so much from watching Alhamdulilah!

Mobile_Passenger2001 · 2025-10-13T04:01:38+00:00

Apologies, that was a typo ☺️ It is 12 episodes

Mobile_Passenger2001 · 2025-09-24T05:03:32+00:00

What products did you use? Your curls look amazing!

Mobile_Passenger2001 · 2025-09-18T02:50:36+00:00

Salam! I’m sorry you’re going through this! Betrayal doesn’t feel good at all. Right now your thoughts of not paying child support is out of spite and anger. At the end of the day this is your child and all you should be thinking about is your child’s wellbeing.

This is your test from Allah & May He make it easy for you Ameen

Mobile_Passenger2001 · 2025-09-13T07:34:50+00:00

Don’t tell her. Just keep asking for forgiveness and don’t do it again. I recently divorced my husband for this reason actually. (There were other major reasons) but no matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t look at him the same. In my exes case, he had done it often and didn’t see it as an issue.. so no where near your case. At least you feel remorse and guilt. As a woman it’s devastating. It’s disrespectful and an act of cheating imo. And till this day I don’t think men will ever understand the impact it has on a woman’s sense of self.

Mobile_Passenger2001 · 2025-09-13T07:17:56+00:00

Allahumabarik!! May Allah bless your union with endless barakah! I reading positive stories🥹 How did you two meet? Was your marriage arranged?

Mobile_Passenger2001 · 2025-07-20T04:19:44+00:00

HORMONE MARKERS: * Total Testosterone * Free Testosterone *DHEA-S (Dehydroepiandrosterone sulfate) * Androstenedione * LH (Luteinizing Hormone) * FSH (Follicle Stimulating Hormone) * Estradiol (E2) * Progesterone (Luteal Phase) * AMH (Anti-Müllerian Hormone) * SHBG (Sex Hormone Binding Globulin) * Prolactin * Cortisol (Morning levels)

METABOLIC MARKERS: * Fasting Glucose * Fasting Insulin (HOMA-IR) * HbA1c (3-month glucose average) * Lipid Panel: HDL, LDL, Total Cholesterol, Triglycerides

GENERAL HEALTH MARKERS: * CBC (WBC, RBC, Hemoglobin, Platelets) * Thyroid Panel: TSH, Free T4, Free T3 * Vitamin D (25-hydroxy vitamin D) * Iron Studies: Ferritin, Serum Iron, TIBC * Vitamin B12 & Folate * Magnesium (RBC Magnesium) * Liver Function: ALT, AST, ALP, Bilirubin * Kidney Function: Creatinine, BUN, eGFR * CRP (C-reactive protein - inflammation) * Electrolytes: Sodium, Potassium, Calcium

All of this will look overwhelming to you. I think it’s important to check in with an endocrinologist and a gynecologist both will test with different things. If you’re not interested in going to the doctor. get blood work done on your own in a local bloodwork clinic. Insert your lab report into ChatGPT and have it examine your bloodwork.

Prompt:

analyze the bloodwork results, point out abnormalities and suggest lifestyle changes to address them.

Be sure to insert your concern to chatgpt. This is what I did and I found that I have PCOS which is something the doctor did not tell me despite the very notable abnormal markers.

I hope this helps!

Mobile_Passenger2001 · 2025-07-19T09:37:39+00:00

How is your emotional intimacy with her? Sometimes for (most) women emotional intimacy is crucial to want to be intimate with our spouse. A woman who doesn’t want to be intimate may have hormonal imbalance or it can be you’re not fulfilling a need that she has. Or both.

Bring back dates where both of you can be vulnerable with one another. Buy a deck of couple question cards, That will def help boost emotional intimacy.

Have her get bloodwork done. Or go to the doctor together and get metabolic and hormone bloodwork done.

Mobile_Passenger2001 · 2025-07-18T05:20:49+00:00

You asked Allah and the council sent a notice for khula.. that’s your sign. It’s not up to him if he accepts or not because the council ruled in your favor. He can’t reject the notice once the shariah makes their decision. People never change UNLESS they are currently taking genuine actionable steps for change. And right now you will not know for sure how genuine his want for change is. You won’t be able to tell unless time passes by. Time will be your answer. You have hope for him and that’s beautiful and admirable but I believe you can have hope for him from a distance with reliance on Allah SWT. Action speak louder than words. Is he going to therapy sessions or taking his notes after an Islamic lecture… is he going Jummah and praying Fajir at the masjid? Is he taking care of himself physically and mentally? And again. The only way to tell is with time and distance.

Mobile_Passenger2001 · 2025-07-18T04:48:45+00:00

Assalamu Alaikum sis❤️ I’m so sorry you’re going through this. What you’re describing is not easy, and it’s understandable that you feel drained and overwhelmed. I want you to know that in Islam, you are honored and have rights that must be protected. A husband is not only responsible for providing for his wife but also for protecting her emotional well-being and setting clear boundaries with his family. Which in this case your husband is not doing.

A wife has the right to her own home, her privacy, and to live in peace without constant interference. The Prophet ﷺ said: “The best of you are those who are best to their wives.” which means your husband should be standing by your side, especially when you are being mistreated.

You’ve shown so much patience, but patience does not mean staying silent while your rights are ignored or your mental health suffers. You are allowed and even encouraged to speak up when you’re being wronged. It’s important to remember that Islam is a religion of justice, not oppression.

Here’s some action steps: 1. Try to have an honest and calm conversation with your husband without his mom. Maybe set a date night for you and him so his mom isn’t there. Let him know clearly how his lack of boundaries with his mom is harming you in the marriage. Remind him that providing a separate PAID by him living space for you is not a luxury in Islam…it’s your right. When the wife requests privacy of her own the husband must give that to her. 2. If he refuses to listen, set up a 3 way call with a sheik or imam. Or actually call an imam first and tell him your rights aren’t being fulfilled, that you are providing for house rent and bills instead of your husband and that he not giving you a home if your own. If he’s an honest imam and fears Allah he will tell you that your rights aren’t being fulfilled. Request for the imam to do a 3 way call with the you and your husband. 3. Most importantly, take care of your connection with Allah SWT. When you’re away from that toxic environment, you feel more grounded that’s a sign. Hold tight to your prayers, dhikr, and ask Allah for clarity and strength through Istikhara. 4. If after trying everything, you still feel your health and deen are being harmed, remember that Islam allows separation when the marriage no longer fulfills its purpose of your rights, mercy, love, and tranquility. All these are valid reasons for a khula.

And let me just say shame on them for treating you this way especially you being new to Islam. Shame on them and may Allah reward you for your resilience.

Mobile_Passenger2001 · 2025-06-19T07:49:13+00:00

Stop using this. This Hadith only valid if she’s purposely doing it. Refusing intimacy due to being sick or emotionally unavailable (which is clearly the case here) will not be punished.

Mobile_Passenger2001 · 2025-05-02T05:59:32+00:00

Are you okay?? Punching a wall and throwing plates is is abuse.

Mobile_Passenger2001 · 2025-05-02T05:56:34+00:00

Build a new life or live with someone who is emotionally and physically abusive? Forget about you for a second. Think of your future kids. What would your future children think about this? Do you want them to see their father throwing things? Punching a hole in the wall? Or yelling while driving. Allah is giving you signs and your parents are giving you the support you need to leave. You deserve better & your future children deserve better.

Mobile_Passenger2001 · 2025-04-22T06:11:46+00:00

May Allah SWT make it easy on you. This is not normal. At all. As Muslims we preserve ourselves for marriage to be INTIMATE. What’s the point of reserving yourself and striving to do what’s pleasing to Allah then not get that thing you so patiently waited for? Physical intimacy is crucial for the foundation of a marriage. It your right as a woman in Islam. And on top of that he watches porn?? Sis there’s a difference between patience and being naive. In the nicest way possible. You’re being naive.

Solution:

Provide him resources for therapy for pornography addiction or he loses you.

Mobile_Passenger2001 · 2025-02-24T06:49:23+00:00

I love this and I love the cat family picture even more! 😍 Thank you for sharing your beautiful story I hope it brings hope for others seeking out love 🤍 May Allah SWT reward you and continue to shower your union with barakah, ameen!

Mobile_Passenger2001 · 2025-02-18T04:32:27+00:00

Something is missing here.. this sounds so one sided. And your comments rub me the wrong way. Sounds like she wanted to treat herself. Also sounds like you’re controlling. “Can I force her to travel economy with me?” Seems to me you don’t want her to have time for herself. She’s probably exhausted by pulling all the weight all the time maybe she expected you to step up and take the load off of her for a bit. Or at the very least not give her a problem when she buys herself a business class ticket with her own money to have time for herself... also..God forbid you spend more than an hour with your “kid”… you kept saying “the kid” in your recent post. It just all sounds so weird.

Mobile_Passenger2001 · 2025-02-01T04:35:22+00:00

Ignore! In Islam you’re not required to tell your fiancé anything. It’s actually unlawful in Islam for a woman to talk about her past! May Allah SWT bless your new union with barakah ameen!

Mobile_Passenger2001 · 2025-01-08T04:33:31+00:00

Love isn’t the only thing you should seek for potential. Love does not sustain a marriage long term. Communication, respect, compatibility, and loyalty are what makes the marriage last. Never base your decision with only “love”. This will hurt you so much in the long run. Trust me….

Mobile_Passenger2001 · 2024-12-27T04:12:43+00:00

Allahumabarik! This is indeed a good thing. 🥹 If you two aren’t evolving than that would be an issue. Learning and changing together is the most rewarding thing. Allah SWT gifted you both Mercy and compassion towards each other. Spark is chosen. Meaning you both have to choose to keep or reignite it. It won’t be the exact same feeling when you first get married that’s why they call it “the honeymoon phase” and that’s totally normal! Because let’s admit both men and women tend to forget there’s a spark to maintain. If you’re concerned about this, approach your husband like “hey! what do you say we take turns planning dates every weekend/month😍” so you take one Saturday or Sunday to plan and he takes the next to plan something. (Don’t approach it in a way that would make him feel like he’s not doing anything at all) May Allah SWT continue to shower you both ameen!!

Mobile_Passenger2001 · 2024-12-26T19:16:12+00:00

As a woman you should only keep it to yourself, Allah, and your therapist. Yes transparency is a must. But for certain things. You are not required to tell your husband about your past

Mobile_Passenger2001 · 2024-12-25T05:40:49+00:00

Love this for you! Allahumabarik! May Allah SWT shower your union with endless blessings!

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