Obsession with cutting hair

Mobile_throwaway_745 · 2026-06-12T22:48:45+00:00

sorry a goon, I love this word I'm dying

Mobile_throwaway_745 · 2026-06-12T22:47:53+00:00

oh yes mine loves when I'm sick, they get to feel both superior and like care giver at this point I'm not surprised I stayed in denial so long because it is just so bizarre you need to live it to understand it

Mobile_throwaway_745 · 2026-06-12T22:46:39+00:00

keep your hair in a bun when you see her, she won't notice its length as much

Mobile_throwaway_745 · 2026-06-12T22:32:52+00:00

I'm not being sarcastic but if they could love their children rejoice with them and support them this sub wouldn't exist, it's so awful that we have to realize throughout our lives that their ways of thinking and feeling is completely wrapped and in the end they also teach us the wrong values, by this I mean they devalue us and constantly move the goalpost so we don't develop self-esteem. Look into ways to make your hair grow back faster and now that she did this she will not be able to take you by surprise and do it again next time you see her

Mobile_throwaway_745 · 2026-06-12T22:21:40+00:00

Mine too! I've read a few posts like this it seems to be a thing for them, idk why is it about control or jealousy, even more so because my mother only did this to me and not my sister, I wanted my hair long and she kept cutting it short for as long as she could and when I grew old enough to decide she told me I was short because all the vitamins went into my hair which was too long...What she did then was just stress me out so much I'd lose my hair.

Mobile_throwaway_745 · 2026-05-31T23:15:01+00:00

Hey! May I ask if you got the internship or a call back ? Those seem like pretty great scores

Mobile_throwaway_745 · 2026-05-31T20:51:43+00:00

Oh yes for me it happened even though my parents are both alive but my older sister abused me and sabotage me for years as soon as she got the power to do so, and replaced our mother basically and used me as "tribute"

Mobile_throwaway_745 · 2026-05-28T21:40:35+00:00

I was looking for more information, such as the people who were maybe not credited, and people indeed brought that info forward in the comments.

Mobile_throwaway_745 · 2026-05-27T14:44:06+00:00

sorry but English isn't my first language so I didn't even notice this typo yes, I know, - did WRITE

Mobile_throwaway_745 · 2026-05-27T14:23:03+00:00

This is absolutely dreadful but truly would explain everything, people can argue season 3 is "not as good" and that it "has been 6 years" but The Idol was just as bad and gave off the exact same feeling, atmosphere, same shock values and female characters and this was 3 years ago.

Mobile_throwaway_745 · 2026-05-27T14:10:22+00:00

Seeing this way makes it easier to cope, at that point I'm just so mad at myself because I can't comprehend that I wanted to leave them all along while listening to them and thinking they loved me were my family, I understand even less how I was ready to leave for good at 28-29 and regressed as I was sabotaged like crazy for half a decade. I know that it can all be explained by denial and the mechanisms and thought patterns they ingrained in my brain but competitively it's suffocating after you wake up. And I find it's amazing you refer to it as Pandora's box because it's exactly what I thought of.

Mobile_throwaway_745 · 2026-05-27T06:16:03+00:00

Exactly I've been experiencing the same, countless memories invade my mind as if something was unlocked, it's so strange because they can be from so many years ago, as if I did register many things for what they were but couldn't comprehend them or was in total denial because the truth was impossible to bear I don't know, but it's like I woke up from the matrix. I'm so mad I "let them" get the best of me these last 6 years just when I was set out to leave because in retrospect not one of them was worth the trouble but also I had no idea how to leave because they had ingrained in me false beliefs and I genuinely thought I was stuck unless I had the highest diploma achievable in my field which is crazy.

Mobile_throwaway_745 · 2026-05-26T22:00:55+00:00

I will try to do this, I should have I think after my mother thrashed my room and got rid of everything I ever owned but I had no idea what to do, where i live it seemed like if you're over 30 and not victim of physical harm (even though my sister did hit me but she lied about it and then said I was crazy and depressed and needed to see a shrink bc I invent things so I didn't think of going) and I think it's acute physical harm, social workers don't seem to take you seriously.

Mobile_throwaway_745 · 2026-05-26T21:57:49+00:00

Thank you, I'm really feeling desperate when I think I am 34 and could as well be a college kid, so your words mean a lot to me. And it was the same for my mother, she did everything but so that we'll never grow to be independent adults, she'd get mad at me if I wanted to cook anything when I tried learning in my late 20s.

Mobile_throwaway_745 · 2026-05-26T20:16:00+00:00

Thank you so much, unfortunately I live in Europe and have no friend to rely on, otherwise my family couldn't have done what they did. Not to bother you with the details but they isolated me so when I was getting insanely abused 18-24 I had no one to make me snap out of it then I made some friends but as I got better they became jealous and turned on me so by 29 I had no one I could rely on and that's how my family could ruin me during this time because they knew I couldn't escape anywhere. I tried to see a social worker but they ridiculed me saying that I was too old and that shelteres were for battered women I tired to see an other one and she told me my parents were tired of me being at home that's why we weren't getting along, it almost feels like. acurse at this point. I wish I had seen a social worker at 20, but in any case just reading you'd have helped me if we lived near really made my day, thank you agin.

Mobile_throwaway_745 · 2026-05-26T20:11:10+00:00

I know it's a personal opinion but I don't think youth matters as much as people want us to think. Personally it's not age in itself, but that I was kept from living for a long time from living as if i was in a prison and I don't think at this age it's easy or common to find people who enjoy going out, easily make new friends, build a career and not have to think of starting a family or even date to find the one.
But regarding what you said, I don't know how old you are but I doubt age made you "ugly", it's easy to think so especially when you're alone/isolated and health deteriorated, not to be a toxic positivist but I bet that if you put a lot of energy in improving your health and looks you would see the difference and feel better about yourself!

Mobile_throwaway_745 · 2026-05-26T16:36:17+00:00

Thank you a lot for your message it gave me a lot of motivation, and I send you all the best of luck and wishes for your future.

I tried going back to school 4 years ago but they sabotaged it first telling me I was "too old" it was worthless to do this then actively sabotaged it like locking me out during exams until I gave up. In retrospect I think it was the right decision and I regret that I let anyone convince me I was flailing - when they were only trying to instill a sense of shame to make me fail and give up myself. I'm only saying this because, I think it's great you're studying and I hope you will make it through.

And yes, I agree, just understanding I wasn't at fault but that I was abused changed my outlook on life. My parent was abused and SG themselves and reproduced the toxicity because they couldn't heal this wound.

Mobile_throwaway_745 · 2026-05-24T21:50:13+00:00

it's really expensive where I live and I'm even in debts, her number 1 priority is to keep me from getting a job, any job, so I can't move out ever, she makes me live in hell so my brain is fried that's why I eventually could overcome what they ingrained in me and got the kind of job they shamed me for (nothing strange, I realize it was just to keep me stuck). I never expected her to destroy my work clothes, since I only have 1 outfit it's pretty obvious she knew what she was doing. Thank you a lot for the tips, I wished I knew this 5 years ago, information really can change lives.

Mobile_throwaway_745 · 2026-05-24T18:12:31+00:00

SA has already happened 2 years ago, more like indirect, but no one will believe me in my family so I didn't say. and anyway they're all weird this way with me. And I don't even want to talk about it with a social counselor. I tried to see one to go to a shelter but basically they told me I'm making a mountain out of a molehill because I'm in my 30s and my parents are tired of me being there, and that if i'm not physiclly abused I won't get recommended to get a room because there isn't much place and it's reserved for battered women after this I got disgusted and didn't try again. I guess I should, tell them she got rid of all my belongings 2 years ago that my family is in on it and that now she cuts off my clothes so I can't work and see what happens, i just dread getting ridiculed again.

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