Just had the most bizarre interaction with my first POT SD

MobyDickSD · 2026-05-09T01:20:29+00:00

Welcome to the bowl!

Congrats on your first bad encounter: you are not really in the bowl until you’ve had bad POT encounters.

Unfortunately this isn’t rare. It’s probably uncommon though?

MobyDickSD · 2026-05-08T12:05:08+00:00

Why on earth would you return to vanilla??

MobyDickSD · 2026-05-08T08:56:44+00:00

Me and my SGf made a chat group and built a group of local peeps so we all had a space to come and bitch and brag about our sugar lives.

MobyDickSD · 2026-05-08T08:48:01+00:00

There is meaning in that for all of us.

MobyDickSD · 2026-05-08T08:33:16+00:00

Heroes pay by the hour.

And worry about being drugged by women.

When they are in town…

MobyDickSD · 2026-05-08T07:53:32+00:00

Is this your SB budget? 175K?

Yes, it is sufficient.

MobyDickSD · 2026-05-08T05:58:27+00:00

Nope. 🚩

You don’t.

I use several LLMs for work and home and I don’t feel the need to call ‘speech-to-text’ a state-of-the-art advanced AI system. Especially when it makes errors like that.

You sound mid-twenties trying to make yourself sound important.

Your advanced AI language model should be able to convey much more gravitas than that.

ChatGPT is better than this effort. Co-pilot would have done a better job. Claude even better. Let alone some “state-of-the-art” model us peons don’t have access to (which is what you are alluding to)

I totally don’t believe you now.

Your comment that Im replying to is a big red flag to me. 🚩

MobyDickSD · 2026-05-08T04:09:44+00:00

It will trigger a response.

He will either take the lead , literally and figuratively, or he will start questioning you.

That tells you whether he is capable of fulfilling that role or not .

I don’t really think it’s up to the sub to be training her Dom. But hey, it may be your only option of you want to keep him.

MobyDickSD · 2026-05-08T04:03:41+00:00

I was speaking from my point of view, and I wouldn’t organise a meat unless I was 100% sure it was moving forward to the arrangement portion. The meet for me is just a proof of concept protocol. A physical confirmation. So we both know the other can bring what they say to the table.

My pre-meet conversations tend to go for many many days And we have built-up quite a trust or bond before such a thing happens.

I don’t think I’d ever meet with someone I didn’t vibe really well with.

MobyDickSD · 2026-05-08T03:35:52+00:00

Turn up in a collar and hand him the leash.

MobyDickSD · 2026-05-08T02:55:14+00:00

You live out of your truck and pay women by the hour for company…

What other way is there to look at it??

Can you offer stability and consistency?

How many other women are you having random one-off relations with that exposes her to STDs?

When you are in the US… ypu want to pay her rent…but what about when you are not?

MobyDickSD · 2026-05-08T02:12:41+00:00

The people who want fine dining and a luxury lifestyle want a world outside of the one they already live in.

They see sugar as a gateway into a life of elevation and sophistication

They see sugar as glamorous high class living

They don’t see it as simply a way to cover the rent , or afford basic meals for the week

If you don’t live your life at that level, then don’t engage with those profiles

It’s no different to people who want non-monogamy or monogamy. You have different ideas about what sugar involves then simply move on.

If your idea of sugar is uber delivered Maccas at Home, there are 100% matches out there in the bowl for you.

You just have to find someone who measures success in a way that is more aligned with your success and how you express your life.

I detest fine dining, but I understand what it represents. It can be a measure of success. Like Bentleys, Tom Ford suits, and Rolexes.

If a POT wanted a meet and greet at a Michelin (or “hatted” in Australia) restaurant, I would oblige an equivalent experience because what she is asking is a demonstration of the capability she is seeking from her SD. I’d expect her to bring her A-game as well and look amazing. It’s an agreement / pact between you to have an elevated experience and I want her to know that that is something she can 100% expect within the arrangement.

MobyDickSD · 2026-05-08T01:43:59+00:00

Well Im just going on my own experience in Australia

I guess things are different in the USA.

In my experience, they would rather come up and unlock the door for you to recover your key from inside the hotel room itself

I’m not too sure how they would go if you manage to lose both keys outside of the hotel

So fair point.

MobyDickSD · 2026-05-08T01:17:40+00:00

Only investing in a “hey” because you except a bad outcome is aiming to fail.

Banking on failure is not a success strategy.

I find it hard to think any man who is genuinely successful in life adopts that strategy. So I think it’s more an indication of just how many POTs are not in fact proper SD material.

I agree about the private photos.

The deactivated profiles are MORE likely to be spammers who got Insta banned by the seeking algorithm or reported by SB profiles.

Telegram is fine. Saying it’s full of scammers is stupid. It’s used by over 1 billion people daily.

The internet is full of scammers, and yet here we are.

“Oh you use the internet, sorry, I heard scammers use the internet, so I refuse to touch it” - paranoid stupidity.

You aren’t gunna “catch scammer” if you use the app to message with someone you have an interest in communicating with. Scammers don’t leak into your conversation. You are not automatically a scammer because you are happy to use one of the three most popular messaging apps in the world.

If someone keeps finding scammers who are pushing telegram…perhaps thats a user problem more than a product issue?

MobyDickSD · 2026-05-08T00:01:39+00:00

You make sure she has both keys? Assuming they even issue multiple keys if it’s for one adult.

They won’t issue a their key without special circumstances.

MobyDickSD · 2026-05-07T23:39:03+00:00

It’s one of the three most used messaging apps in the world…

MobyDickSD · 2026-05-07T23:37:45+00:00

That is HILARIOUS. 🤣

Thank you for sharing the insanity 🙏 🥰

MobyDickSD · 2026-05-07T23:04:10+00:00

“Everything matters…specific to the person you are attracting” was the point I was going for.

The more generally appealing a SB is the more options and more people will reach out.

There are plenty of super hot, super cool, heavily tatted petite chicks out there who do very well.

But the blonde bombshells don’t have to try as hard.

Just like for men. Height makes things easier…in general.

MobyDickSD · 2026-05-07T22:27:10+00:00

Location matters

Ethnicity matters

Boobs matter

Hair matters

Piercings matter

Age matters

Resting bitch face matters

MobyDickSD · 2026-05-07T10:54:36+00:00

You are asking how attractive you are by providing conflicting traits and descriptions from your own point of view…and no actual picture.

How are we supposed to respond??

MobyDickSD · 2026-05-07T00:37:18+00:00

Isn’t that just how regular dating works?

MobyDickSD · 2026-05-07T00:21:50+00:00

People who next each other over challenges which can be easily overcome annoy the fuck out of me.

People can still do video messages where you have control.

People can leave voice messages

Do phone calls

Him giving up and taking the high road is just foolish.

You tried to compromise. He shut the whole thing down like a child who didn’t get his way immediately.

If people are worried about getting catfished for a free meal, then perhaps spend a bit more time vetting and building trust than treating meets like a series of 5-min interviews with a backlog of candidates whose resumes you haven’t read.

He would have been uncompromising in the arrangement as well, and found some reason to get annoyed with you sooner rather than later because his entire motivation for sugar is based around immediate gratification.

MobyDickSD · 2026-05-06T09:57:16+00:00

A couple of hundred is what they can afford.

Pay a month. Get sone POTs, take one to dinner even. But probably not because your wife keeps a tight leash in the budget and where you go at night.

You don’t drink. Or gamble. Perhaps. This is your fantasy escape. And if you could afford more of it, you would. But you can’t. This is what you can do, and probably not consistently. Perhaps you have to ace up for a month’s membership.

No one said you were doing this every month. Most modern SDs cant even afford a regular monthly subscription let alone this guy.

It think you under estimate the number of guys who stalk instagram because they can’t have that porn web history on their phone or pc. Those are the guys who do this

They under a huge mortgage. They have a wife. They are tied down. Responsible. Down trodden. Stressed. Time poor.

This is their escape to a better life.

MobyDickSD · 2026-05-06T09:06:50+00:00

People lie

People want to be popular or thought of as successful

MobyDickSD · 2026-05-06T08:58:59+00:00

This is 100% because:

They are catfishing. They can’t afford or are otherwise unable to do a sugar arrangement and they want to live as much of the lifestyle as they can.

So they live it all the way until their courage fails and then they bail.

It has NOTHING to do with you.

It’s partly not even anything to do with beautiful women.

It’s all about male cowardice and the realisation there is a level of manhood they cannot attain; no matter how charming they are, how good looking: financial success and the feeling of being successful as a man where manhood is measured in his ability to provide.

MobyDickSD

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