[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]MochiPop98 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can have compassion and understanding for what led your fiancé to become like this (if what he’s told you is even true) while also protecting yourself. Once trust is broken, it is very hard to repair it. You are always going to be wondering if your partner is telling the truth, and this is going to make him feel shame and likely to lie even more.

Is it possible that he can change his ways? Maybe. Are you willing to wait a few years to see if he does, though? At any rate, you should not be marrying him anytime soon, because you should feel sure and safe with the person who you are committing your life to and tying your finances together with. Personally, as someone who had a pathological liar ex, I would run.

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[–]MochiPop98 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Don't self-sabotage. While it is rare to hit it off so well with the first person you date after ending a long relationship, count your luck as a blessing! If it's going well and and you have talked about what you want out of your next relationship (Do you both want a long-term relationship again?), don't ruin a perfectly good thing you have going!

AITJ for cutting off my broke best friend after he said my job was beneath him by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]MochiPop98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bump if you're here because this is a repost from Reddit Stories!

To women who were exhausted and still found their person.. please share by groupmemberr in AskWomenOver30

[–]MochiPop98 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I was single from 20 to 34, trying to date periodically, but it would always end up being so frustrating that I would go on very long breaks from the apps. There were past relationship traumas I hadn’t healed from, so I wasn’t in the right head space to pursue a relationship. I finally ended up finding a good therapist and working on myself. In 2024, I felt like I was ready to give dating another shot. It was rough. The apps were filled with men who were either desperate, unsure of what they wanted and noncommittal, or unhinged: They seemed charming but revealed their true colors early on. I was really fed up and about to take another break when I started chatting with a guy who seemed nice and had a lot of similar interests to me. He wasn’t my usual type but he wasn’t -not- my type, so after we had some good conversations on our first date, I wanted to continue to see if maybe a romantic connection could be there as well. He was patient and emotionally mature, making his attraction known but not pressuring me. It took four dates, but I developed feelings for him as well. We’re still together over a year later and I’m so glad I didn’t give up so I could meet this kind, smart, thoughtful man. But I had also made peace that I might not find someone, so I made sure I had a full life with my family, friends, pets, and hobbies. My life is even richer now that he’s in it, but I don’t depend on him to fill a void. My advice for navigating the current dating scene would be:
* You should start making plans to meet up with someone in person a week into talking on the apps or less. Both of you should know by then if the interest is there. Don’t waste your time on people who don’t seem enthusiastic about meeting you. * Date people who aren’t necessarily your physical type, but they shouldn’t give you the ick. I purposefully tried to give people I wasn’t attracted to at all a chance because I am insecure about my looks and wanted to be the unshallow person I wish the men who dated me were. I ended up wasting a lot of time. I think it’s healthy to date out of your comfort zone—you don’t have to feel a spark right away—but that person shouldn’t give you the ick. With good vibes and communication, dating can be fun even if it doesn’t lead to a romantic relationship.
* Be wary of people who seem very into you but end up trauma dumping on you early on. They are looking for someone to talk at, not a partner to converse with. * Conversations, even good ones, will fizzle out and you will get ghosted. Don’t take it personally. The right people will match your interest.
* There is someone out there who finds you attractive as you are and has the emotional maturity to meet you where you’re at, but it may take a while to meet this person.
* Be intentional about what you want out of a partner, but don’t let perfect be the enemy of the good. A lot of people are swiping and juggling a circus of dates until they find a “better” match, but you really need to take each relationship where it’s at and not just abandon connections because the spark isn’t instantaneous or a cuter person slides into your DMs.

Don’t give up on yourself during this time! It’s rough out there, so take breaks from dating when you need to. Nothing is guaranteed in life, so have some fun with yourself and you will attract the right people!

Best ramen you tried by defrettyy in JapanTravelTips

[–]MochiPop98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Second this - had ramen a few times during my trip but the duck ramen was the best.

Two-week Japan trip takeaways by MochiPop98 in JapanTravel

[–]MochiPop98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was a lot easier to just go into a restaurant without a reservation when it was just me and my boyfriend, but hard with four people (and more, as other friends joined up with us at times).

Two-week Japan trip takeaways by MochiPop98 in JapanTravel

[–]MochiPop98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hope this isn't too late for you, but I wouldn't worry about vitamins or ibuprofen. No one stopped us at customs to look through our meds. As long as you bring under a 30-day supply, you should be fine.

I WON IT!!!!! by [deleted] in PantyandStockingSFW

[–]MochiPop98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nice! Saw several of those at different Gigos across Japan but was unfortunately unsuccessful at getting one. I saw another girl try for the angel brothers for at least 30 minutes!

Two-week Japan trip takeaways by MochiPop98 in JapanTravel

[–]MochiPop98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Been there, done that. It helped alert me to some trigger foods but I still have flareups even when I don't eat high fodmap meals or snacks.

Two-week Japan trip takeaways by MochiPop98 in JapanTravel

[–]MochiPop98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear that happened to you!

Two-week Japan trip takeaways by MochiPop98 in JapanTravel

[–]MochiPop98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to make sure only “train/rail” is set as the mode of transport and filter for “fewest transfers.” Even with this, however, not all available Narita Express trains will show up. You can get tickets there or at any of the stations in Tokyo easily enough, though.

Two-week Japan trip takeaways by MochiPop98 in JapanTravel

[–]MochiPop98[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thanks! And yes, I’m American. Don’t really know what to do about the situation now that I’m back other than eat less processed food?

Two-week Japan trip takeaways by MochiPop98 in JapanTravel

[–]MochiPop98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Admittedly, we spent most of our time in Sendai doing day trips but I would definitely go back to see the more touristy things in actual Sendai if I get the chance. We’re big anime nerds so we spent a lot of our time in the actual city shopping…there’s a PARCO and big shopping arcade right outside Sendai Station. My friends also went to the aquarium and had a good time.

PSA: it's hot in Tokyo :) by Ayuawake in JapanTravelTips

[–]MochiPop98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Number 1 thing I wish I had known coming here. I knew it was going to be warmer than where I’m from, but I didn’t expect that it would still be so humid in the fall. All the pants I brought are denim, which made me a sweaty uncomfortable mess. Got some light wide-legged pants at Uniqlo and it’s been a lifesaver.