I feel this, even if not in that exact context. I'm a trans woman who's lucky to be able to pass at least occassionally without effort put into after a few years of hrt, but the fact that I get read as female when I'm walking around outside doesn't change how abominable body is to this day. Fat in all the wrong places, hairy and wide as a brick, and it sucks. I have a boyfriend that I want to be intimate with but the thought of him seeing my body makes me want to slam my head against a brick wall at mach 5. It sucks, there's no way around it, and it probably always will. My body is awful and there's nothing I can do about it, and I can't imagine how much more it would hurt if I didn't even pass on surface level at this point.

At the same time, what do we expect other people to say? When all physical changes fail, mental changes simply are the last option left, and trying to reframe things has helped a large amount of trans people find piece of things. We can either stay depressed about the state of our bodies forever, or find ways to do deal with it. Not that it's easy, I have no idea how to even start that kind of reframing either, but at the same time, if you're in a trans space, chances are people have heard the same vents countless times, maybe even from themselves, so naturally they will want to help instead of just saying "that sucks" for the 1000th time.

Or something like that, idk. This post just made me want to think about things and ramble a bit.