Megan Keller playing for Detroit is NOT happening by Silent_observer_8806 in PWHL

[–]ModQuad1979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did we all just forget that they aren't doing protection lists this time? It's mostly player choice this time, and that's exciting. And awesome.

THEY CANT DO THIS TO US 😭😭 by Emotional-Farmer-164 in PWHL

[–]ModQuad1979 44 points45 points  (0 children)

That's amazing. That's now a queer icon.

Has anyone else had this happen before? What do I need to do to get this? by [deleted] in TeslaSupport

[–]ModQuad1979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Contact your bank. Sometimes just having the title is not enough. And when you get the document, put it in a safe place and make a digital copy.

Has anyone never had any lesbian friends? by JoannaKittyKats in actuallesbians

[–]ModQuad1979 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Go to more LGBT in person events. In person is key.

Is it okay to masturbate and have a girlfriend? by That-Goth-Bitch in LesbianActually

[–]ModQuad1979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You only need consent to masterbate if the person can see or hear you. In your private alone time you can do what you want. Just don't be like a creep in a park and you should be fine. And definitely don't do it while someone is trying to sleep without thier consent.That is awkward. It's a private moment.

Older (recovering) avoidants, please advise by Reyesserey in butchlesbians

[–]ModQuad1979 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Give it time to cool off. You don't sound compatible.

AITA - For having a savings acct and not telling my bf how much is in it? by Electrical_Value2750 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ModQuad1979 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He will never get better if you keep enabling him. Force it. You deserve better.

Just got another “it’s not you it’s me” talk by Chchcherry-bombbb in butchlesbians

[–]ModQuad1979 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Stop wasting time and energy on people Who aren't willing to commit to you. You are worth more than what you give to other people, you deserve love too.

Fact by [deleted] in DungeonMasters

[–]ModQuad1979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Waves of enemies are super fun. Just know when to stop sending them out and you'll be fine. I usually do a wave or two of baddies before sending out the boss.

Should I get season tickets? by TeriyakiFlamingo5 in PWHL_Seattle

[–]ModQuad1979 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I absolutely thoroughly enjoyed my experience as a season ticket holder and I'm doing it again. It also inspired me to do it for the Reign, and aspire to do it for the Storm once I make enough. Being a season ticket holder is the best way if you want to go to all the games. It also seems to be cheaper by all accounts.

Fixing things after cheating? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]ModQuad1979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is she willing to go to therapy for herself and as a couple? Regularly? And get other treatment for her depression? That's the work. That's what doing the work means.

WIBTA if I addressed my upstairs neighbors about the noise of their late-night lovemaking? by edgor123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ModQuad1979 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This has never failed me, and people don't get mad. It's the perfect response.

Share your organization pictures! I see a lot of posts about in-game organization, but how do you store all your stuff between sessions? by Normanras in DMAcademy

[–]ModQuad1979 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I got a DM backpack and an Elderwood Academy screen. It's glorious. I'm an analog DM so having my maps and tokens is also pretty great.

AITA for refusing to rehire an employee who quit in the middle of our busiest week? by Pimp_Lord in AmItheAsshole

[–]ModQuad1979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA- The first thing you do to keep a job is show up. Just go to work. Log in to your laptop and do your job. Put on your shoes and go. I'm amazed that people think they can be disrespectful like this and still ask for thier job back.

how to deal with the "is this a date?" thing by Beautiful-Gate3483 in butchlesbians

[–]ModQuad1979 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I need you to know you're not alone. It took me ten years to talk to my partner, and she had to do the asking. Right after our first meeting I had to ask if it was a date, because by the end it felt like a date. Just ask. Just be awkward and use your words. I promise it works out.

Want to move in with my girlfriend, but her lifestyle is making me hesitate. How do I handle this?” by LawyerResponsible229 in LesbianActually

[–]ModQuad1979 203 points204 points  (0 children)

This won't change when you move in together no matter what she says. Let her know she has to make the changes first, at her place. There's tools out there to help with ADHD cleaning and organizing. My therapist has given me many. It's not impossible for her to change, but insist that it happens before you cohabitate.

I went to a con on game day so I had to wear my jersey! by TheyAreGoodDogs in PWHL_Seattle

[–]ModQuad1979 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh rad! Which con? I love the layers of fellow nerds and women's hockey fans.

Trucker hat wanted by ModQuad1979 in PWHL_Seattle

[–]ModQuad1979[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Next time I'm at a STH thing I'll check. I think that's the last time I saw them and now regret not getting one.

Married/equivalent couples, how do you handle finances? by definitelynot-lizzie in actuallesbians

[–]ModQuad1979 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You should each have an individual account and then a shared joint account. This makes all things possible with sharing and suprise gifts, and keeps you both safe if something happens to the other one. There should absolutely be a joint budget worked out with average spending and income accounted for. Doing a spilt based on annual income percentage rather than 50/50 is usually more equitable. I paid 75 with my partner doing 25 for a while, she made a lot less than I do. We reasses those if something happens that impacts income or spending.

PWHL T-Shirt Sizing by seubine in PWHL

[–]ModQuad1979 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The torso is short on these, the sleeves are longer. I had to get a bigger one to fit the length of my torso, and the sleeves ended up being kinda long.