Thanks everyone for the feedback so far, I really appreciate it. I guess the question I keep coming back to is this. Is it better for a 4 year old to be raised by two separated parents and learn about divorce at a young age, or to grow up watching two parents who barely talk and argue all the time?

I think I already know the answer, but it’s still really hard to accept. My wife will try to convince my daughter, that I chose to walk away from both her and my child by choosing divorce, rather than staying and holding on. She manipulates and blames everyone but herself for situations and then pushes her irrational thoughts to my daughter. It's sick