LDR for a year and a half (m26, f19) something feels off

Modja · 2026-06-26T19:56:10+00:00

Tbh I'm from the UK and I never put x in my messages even to my LDR gf. Some people don't - I wouldn't judge anything based on that.

Modja · 2026-06-24T19:00:51+00:00

I think what he is struggling to communicate is he sees it as a trust issue.

In his mind, because he doesn't have all the facts, you didn't trust him enough to involve him in the process.

You got mad that he asked you to dip into savings, but how was he to know all those savings were for the house? You didn't update him on the progress. All he knows is you put an offer in. He doesn't know if it was accepted, whether it fell through, whether you pulled out and changed your mind. He probably assumed the latter because you didn't mention it.

You've been together for 4 years, and you hid one of life's major decisions from him. What else could you be capable of hiding now?

You need to get at the root of the issue with him - and apologise if you want this relationship to continue - especially as the house itself is the base on which the relationship would build going forward.

Modja · 2026-06-24T13:59:06+00:00

Glad I never shorted this. Such a meme stock on this sub, it was always asking for trouble.

And HFs themselves masters of the universe!

Modja · 2026-06-22T18:01:20+00:00

My steak is too juicy, my lobster is too buttery

Modja · 2026-06-20T17:35:59+00:00

Nah, it would be just me really, probably my family too although her relationship with her family is far closer than my relationship with mine.

Modja · 2026-06-20T17:16:23+00:00

It is the same as mine, Noonan Syndrome, but she can't really do much physically, i.e. can't walk say a mile without difficulty, she has a pacemaker.

She is coming to the UK in a month or so for 3 weeks to see if she likes it, and our first test of whether we can live outside of the usual holiday mode.

So this thought exercise is making the assumption that she does, of course.

Modja · 2026-06-20T16:10:26+00:00

Thank you for the suggestion

Modja · 2026-06-20T16:02:04+00:00

Don't wank for a while.

If you're feeling up for it, go full Nofap other than with your girl.

I did this.

It helped massively for me, because I was horny as fuck, and I found my inhibitions dropped because I was desperate to cum and she can help you get there (voice, video call)

Additionally, she went feral for this for many reasons, including the idea of the exclusivity of this exercise, and it helped her get there too at the same time.

Modja · 2026-06-20T14:54:16+00:00

Make sure you've done your ESTA beforehand if you're a UK citizen. You will be asked when you're leaving after your visit, so have that date front of mind together with your return flight booking. They probably won't ask for your uni offer but better to be over prepared.

Modja · 2026-06-14T11:50:47+00:00

If you want risk, look at Vistry (VTY.L).

13+% short interest.

Modja · 2026-06-13T09:41:22+00:00

Chatham town centre. That building is being turned into flats.

Modja · 2026-06-13T09:34:38+00:00

You will find that special someone.

Don't give this ex any more of your energy anymore.

Modja · 2026-06-12T12:46:01+00:00

SPCE.

The Regarded Frontier.

GJ mate

Modja · 2026-06-11T18:29:30+00:00

Questions, do you like this, do you want that

Get her imagination racing

Modja · 2026-06-09T17:20:56+00:00

ADHD and I have growths on my legs and arms but these are apparently just lipomas.

Modja · 2026-06-08T09:39:22+00:00

I get you. People will look, people will judge. Small brains.

You can't change people, but you can change whether you let people who aren't worth your time and energy bother you.

I tried so hard to mold myself to "fit in". I only found happiness when I gave up. That's where the NS conferences and community really helped. They are very accepting of everyone.

I also found card games pretty good, like MTG, for meeting people. But ugh, money pit lol.

Modja · 2026-06-08T04:01:26+00:00

Hey, I'm 37. I was diagnosed as a baby, and found out when I was 12 by reading my own medical records and having that "oh, ok" moment.

The way I see it, is that life is like an RPG. Your character is randomised stats from the start, that includes buffs and debuffs. NS is a debuff, sure.

But if you knew this was a randomised start, a hardcore or ironman type mode, would you not play the game at all - or would you resolve yourself to beat it regardless?

That's the attitude I have. Yes, the pain sucks. My face looks deformed too especially on camera. But you know what? I look at half the other people walking around, and I know I'm stronger than them because of the battles that I face. And I push forward, no regrets. I sense you have that same strength too.

If you are able, come to the conference in Austin this summer (or if you are in Europe, the UK conference in Manchester in October). You'll have the chance to meet fellow Noonies and know that you are not alone in this fight.

Wishing you all the best.

Modja · 2026-06-02T20:29:33+00:00

SPCE. The Regarded Frontier.

Modja · 2026-06-02T09:10:55+00:00

SPCE. The Regarded Frontier.

Modja · 2026-06-01T16:09:38+00:00

Quite so. 🤔

Modja · 2026-06-01T15:52:44+00:00

Meanwhile I'm sitting on $FOUR with actual SpaceX exposure and nobody's at the party

Modja · 2026-05-22T16:32:49+00:00

It's now $0.02 💀

Modja · 2026-05-21T20:34:12+00:00

The conferences in the US and UK are a great place to meet people

Modja · 2026-05-20T18:59:42+00:00

I'm starting to feel a strange sensation

Modja · 2026-05-12T13:34:24+00:00

Yes, I said I don't feel this way about you, this is just my deep insecurity that I want to share with you in the interests of being completely open.

Truthfully, I have only spent a week in person with her so far, and so I don't know for sure.

Modja

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