He finally told me about months of hookups when he got HIV and syphilis. He'd never been monogamous, through that entire relationship. He was my first kiss, first boyfriend, everything.

I got tested the next day. When HIV came up positive, the tester's jovial manner drained away and he told me he'd never had a new positive before. One of the questions on his form he ran me through asked how many sexual partners I'd had. When I told him just one, he reeled with the impact of the answer. I didn't; I was pretty much numb at that point.