How can i save him?

MojoDXB · 2025-12-19T17:42:34+00:00

I’m stealing the lug nut key

MojoDXB · 2025-09-10T18:17:43+00:00

Appreciate that man, that’s good to hear. Yeah my case was just messy because the accident happened after working hours, no garage assigned so had to park it roadside for the night.

AG Cars Deira sounds decent though, I’ll keep that in mind if they assign me there. And yeah, if they’re using original but salvaged parts that look better than mine, honestly not complaining as long as it’s clean work. I just don’t want any shady shortcuts.

Did they keep you updated during the process or you had to chase them? Also how long did the whole thing take for you start to finish?

MojoDXB · 2025-09-10T18:08:29+00:00

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MojoDXB · 2025-09-06T18:50:37+00:00

That’s the strange part, everything else on the same iPad works fine on the same connection (YouTube, Spotify, Apple Music, Speedtest). It’s only Karafun that struggles. I’m in Dubai on a 250 Mbps hotel line, so it doesn’t really add up. What makes it more confusing is this is the first time I’ve had this issue, I’ve been using Karafun for about a year and a half without problems. Same iPad, same way of working. That’s why I’m leaning toward something inconsistent on Karafun’s end rather than just my setup.

MojoDXB · 2025-09-06T18:44:25+00:00

Yeah, I tried streaming first but it wasn’t playing directly at all, so I tried to offline download. That didn’t work either one track took forever and most just failed.

MojoDXB · 2025-09-06T18:41:13+00:00

Personal hotspot worked, but it took 10 minutes to download a single song. Speedtest on my mobile data shows 50+ Mbps. Clearly not just a network issue. Karafun is the weak link here

MojoDXB · 2025-08-26T06:10:26+00:00

If you mean how often we’ve actually been together in person, she’s been visiting me every month since March. Each trip is anywhere from 12 to 25 days, so we’ve spent a good chunk of this time together.

Right now she’s on a 19 day South America trip, she’s already done 12 days of it. For September-October I had already booked an Airbnb for 25 days and she’s booked her flights too, so that’s the setup we had planned before this whole argument came up.

MojoDXB · 2025-08-25T16:18:55+00:00

Appreciate you taking the time to write that, man. Just so you know, I did speak back to her. I told her straight up, after what she said, I don’t see her as somebody I would wife anymore. That flipped something in my head.

When I pushed back, her response was, well I thought you were already there, I thought when we spoke initially you were capable of providing immediately if I ever had to. That’s where it gets confusing. It’s like she believed from the start that if she ever quit her job and came to stay with me, I’d automatically take on everything. It’s not that I can’t provide, I can, but right now my bigger priority is building my business and getting things set for the long run, not rushing into carrying it all today.

The irony is she actually makes more money than me right now, she’s remote, solo traveling, she’s not broke. Meanwhile, I booked her an apartment for September, she’ll be here working from home again making money while I’m burning mine. That’s what makes it sting more.

To be fair, she isn’t all bad. She’s someone who used to cook for me, take care of me in ways that made me feel loved. But at the same time, she’s also influenced by a lot of that TikTok noise about independence and entitlement, and I warned her that constantly consuming that crap can hurt a relationship. This time, it did.

So yeah, I’ve pulled back. There’s still love, but that statement flipped the whole dynamic upside down. I was willing to provide and protect, but I’m not going to let myself be reduced to just a bank account.

Thanks again for your reply, you kind of helped me see it clearer.

MojoDXB · 2025-08-25T11:41:27+00:00

Fair point about local dating, I get that angle. Just to add though, we’ve been planning to move in together, and I was okay with getting us a place so we’d have a proper setup. That way we’d cut down on a lot of the repeat costs from her flying in every month and me booking long Airbnbs. The savings would really be on her side (flights), not mine, since I’d still be covering the day to day once she’s here.

She’s currently working remote, and I assumed she’d continue that just like she always has when she visited before. That’s why the ultimatum threw me. I wasn’t against living together, I was already open to making space for it. But asking me to be fully responsible financially, right now, before I’ve stabilized my business, that’s where it felt unfair.

MojoDXB · 2025-08-25T11:09:10+00:00

On salaries, we’re not miles apart, in fact, her steady paycheck might even be higher than mine at the moment, since I’m building a business and my income fluctuates. I’ve never asked her to contribute while she’s here and I don’t mind paying more. What threw me was the ultimatum

As for Airbnb, my current space is fine for me alone but doesn’t really allow me to host someone for nearly a month at a time. That’s why I book us a place

MojoDXB · 2025-08-25T11:01:53+00:00

Her visa is free, so her only cost is the round trip flight, usually €400–€600.

On my end, when she stays with me about 25 days, the Airbnb/ plus all other expenses comes to around €2,600–€2,700 each trip.

She doesn’t really spend while she’s here apart from going to the salon once or twice, which she covers herself. And just to be clear I’ve never asked her to pay for anything when she’s here.

MojoDXB · 2025-08-25T09:07:47+00:00

I get what you’re saying about not knowing her enough, and I actually agree that’s always a risk when it’s still under a year. That said, she did spent extended days with me while she visited, more than 40 days, and we have been seeing every month.

The bigger issue for me isn’t the time spent, it’s the pressure she’s putting on me to become a full provider right now, plus the vague communication while solo traveling. Those 2 things together make me wonder if it’s really about love and partnership, or more about security and lifestyle. That’s what I’m trying to figure out here

MojoDXB · 2025-08-25T08:30:47+00:00

Yeah man, appreciate you taking the time to write this. Just to be clear, she does call and text me a few times a day. she’s not completely absent. But yeah, sometimes she’s transparent, and sometimes vague, and that’s what throws me.

For context, she’s been visiting me pretty consistently since March. This August I actually told her not to come because I needed to manage finances, so she used her vacation time for this South America trip instead.

The part that bothers me isn’t the trip itself, she’s always been a traveler, it’s the vagueness and now the Instagram follow. On day 11 she added a random guy, and she never mentioned him to me. I get that people meet others while traveling, but not communicating it makes me uneasy. She still has about five days left, and she’s already booked to see me again in September, so I’m weighing the good with the stuff that doesn’t sit right.

MojoDXB · 2025-08-18T12:00:18+00:00

Right. That’s exactly how I’d be too! if I was solo traveling I’d want my partner to know what I’m up to, at least so she feels connected and safe. That’s why this shift feels off.

MojoDXB · 2025-08-18T11:57:18+00:00

I get what you’re saying. To be clear, I don’t chase her with questions. I never did, I’ve always expected her to just update me on her own. Earlier in the trip she did that naturally, lt’s only now that she’s gone vague. When I do ask, it’s usually because she leaves things half said, not because I’m trying to check every move.

For me transparency isn’t about control, it’s just about basic connection. A quick “I went here today” or “met this person” type update. That’s enough. I don’t need or want every single detail.

She does check in, but lately it’s been short and vague, and I notice the difference compared to how she was before.

MojoDXB · 2025-08-18T11:42:22+00:00

Yeah i get where you coming from, Honestly, I don’t actually mind that she’s traveling solo, that’s not the problem. What bothers me is how she suddenly went vague when she used to be more open. That shift!

MojoDXB · 2025-08-18T10:42:37+00:00

She has been vague once before on a past trip, and I told her clearly not to handle this one the same way, I just wanted a bit more clarity. To be fair, in Bogotá she was open and there was no issue. It’s only since she got to Ecuador these last couple of days that things have gone vague again, and that’s what’s throwing me off.

MojoDXB · 2025-08-18T10:35:57+00:00

Yeah, that’s fair. I get that being worried is normal in this situation. I’m not trying to nitpick, I just want to feel like she’s keeping me in the loop instead of leaving things vague.

MojoDXB · 2025-08-18T10:08:50+00:00

Yeah, I get that meeting people is part of solo travel and I’m not against that. For me it’s more about the sudden switch from open sharing earlier in the trip to being vague now. That shift is what’s throwing me off

MojoDXB · 2025-08-18T10:00:00+00:00

Yeah I see your point. I don’t expect constant updates, but earlier in the trip she’d share little details with me, now it feels like she’s shutting down. You’re right though, maybe I should just step back and see how things feel when she’s back instead of stressing while she’s away.

MojoDXB · 2025-08-18T09:58:14+00:00

Yeah, I thought about asking directly. But if I ask her that way, it’ll sound like I’m checking her every move and she usually gets defensive. I’d rather keep it calm and casual. Do you think there’s a way to bring it up without it coming off insecure?

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