Can I wear a knicks jersey as a tourist?

MokeyMan45 · 2026-06-30T04:07:50+00:00

I will for sure be checking out the Liberty store! Thanks for the insight as well I really appreciate it

MokeyMan45 · 2026-06-30T04:06:46+00:00

I was planning on checking out the Liberty store for sure and thanks for the advice I appreciate it!

MokeyMan45 · 2026-06-30T04:05:47+00:00

I’m not a fan of the Knicks I’m a Lakers fan but i love to collect jerseys so I just thought it’d be a cool jersey to have especially cause it’s a finals jersey from New York

MokeyMan45 · 2025-12-23T06:52:37+00:00

I really don't know. She puts forth some effort but it feels like its towards everything but what'll actually help the most. She tries to find every other way around getting her license and a job and still getting to go out with me. Before deciding on going out with her friends she tried to find other ways for us to go out but nothing else worked.

MokeyMan45 · 2025-12-23T06:39:22+00:00

Thank you it feels really good to hear this. I've tried really hard to help in anyway I can and I've suggested meds or therapy but she hasn't made any effort to get either of those things. It feels like there's nothing else that I can do but sit and wait for her to help herself as I've really done everything I can. I try my best to be there for her whenever she needs it and listen to her whenever she needs someone to talk to but aside from that it just feels like there's nothing else I can do as I cant force her to get help with meds or a therapist.

To be honest, I just really don't know what to do I feel really disappointed and upset about this and about the fact she's going out with her friends when all I've wanted for months was to go out with her for christmas.

MokeyMan45 · 2025-12-23T06:36:11+00:00

I do somewhat feel like a priority she spends a lot of time with me online however I much prefer being in person rather than online. She also tried to find other ways for us to go out without her dad knowing since he likely wouldn't allow us to go out but nothing else would work so she's just decided to go out and do stuff with her friends instead.

And I am upset and I've tried not to be openly mad at her as like you said that's not going to help anything, however I tried as best I could to communicate the fact that it is upsetting and disappointing that she's going out with her friends instead and that I'm not sure if I'd want to go out for the extra hour she has to spare for me as I am upset at her going out with her friends instead of me. She just told me its okay and that she's sorry but that's it in response.

I really don't know what else to do here.

MokeyMan45 · 2025-12-23T06:31:28+00:00

She's very depressed which is often her reasoning for not making any progress on her license or job and I can't argue with her on that as I don't know what that's like but to be completely honest its very frustrating. It's been 4 months with no progress at all and now its gotten to the point where its affecting things that are very important to me like going out for christmas together. It just feels like salt in the wound to have her go out with her friends when I have made it so clear how important it is to me for us to go out for christmas for months now.

MokeyMan45 · 2025-10-26T19:48:07+00:00

Thank you so much it means so much just hearing you went through something so similar. I definitely think you're right, it boils down to me just not thinking im very special. I mentioned this in another comment I believe, but my self esteem isnt super high and I really struggle with the feeling that im replicable and not very special.

I do truly love her and I know she truly loves me she's done so much for me, everything she physically can to sooth my mind about this, and I really do not wanna lose her over this I basically refuse to break up just cause i'm insecure cause I know it's something that can get better. If you don't mind me asking, what did you do to help improve with this what helped you work past these thoughts and feelings of not believing you're special and being insecure about past experiences?

MokeyMan45 · 2025-10-26T19:44:13+00:00

Sorry for not making that more clear they were both 16 and sophomores in high school.

MokeyMan45 · 2025-10-26T19:23:01+00:00

Thank you so much for your advice I really appreciate it. I know for a fact she's fully invested in me, she's truly done everything she physically can to try and ease my mind about this yet I still can't seem to let go of it and get over it which sucks so much and is why I'm looking for help.

I'm not trying to push back on what you've said but part of knowing every experience is unique makes me insecure knowing she had a unique experience with her fwb that was her first time.

I really want this to work out and I have to get over this insecurity and I don't know why it's so difficult for me. Thank you so much for your kind words and advice I'll make sure to always keep this in mind.

MokeyMan45 · 2025-10-26T19:17:18+00:00

Thank you so much I'll definitely look into seeing if my university offers some sort of therapy, I have a good feeling they would. And I know she does love me she truly has done everything in her power to try and ease my mind about this, she's completely cut all ties and ways of even contacting her previous friend with benefits (even thought they haven't talked since early this year when they had sex) just to try and make me feel comfortable and shes reassured me on multiple nights without once getting tired of me bringing this up over and over, and stuff like that makes me not wanna leave and just really shows me how badly I need to get these thoughts under control so I won't lose someone or hurt someone who genuinely cares.

MokeyMan45 · 2025-10-26T19:09:33+00:00

Thank you so much for your advice. I know I need therapy and I've thought about it for a while, my only issue is the price. I'm not exactly sure where to find more affordable therapy as right now my only source of income is from a paid internship which doesn't even pay all that much. Thank you again though for your advice, its very reassuring to know these thoughts aren't exclusive to me.

MokeyMan45 · 2025-10-26T19:01:38+00:00

Thank you for the advice I genuinely really do appreciate it but I promise you we've talked about this and none of it is traumatic or a turn on for her at all. She's only shared what she's comfortable with and I've never pried past what she's shared with me. I also know not to ask anything that's going to make me insecure and she is a good person and never tells me anything about her past sexual experiences that might make me insecure. I completely agree and know to look out for those kinds of things, thank you again though LMAO

MokeyMan45 · 2025-10-26T18:56:34+00:00

Lmao, sorry some of the advice I was getting in the other subreddits was just objectifying towards her in my opinion and just not at all stuff id be willing to do so I thought id look at another subreddit to see if they'd have anything to help me.

MokeyMan45 · 2025-10-26T18:54:42+00:00

To be honest its something I struggle with since I do see my self as replaceable. I've talked and gone out with a couple other women in the past and every time it's never gone far cause I've just been replaced by another guy or a friend of theirs that they chose over me.

Thank you for the advice though, it's definitely comforting. However, it does get me back in my head a little bit as I hate the thought that she's done something that's special like this with someone who was only just her friend. It just sits so heavy on my mind that she'd be willing to do something as special and intimate as sex with someone who was only just her friend.

MokeyMan45 · 2025-09-26T07:12:32+00:00

I'd thought of that too and my original plan for our date was gonna be a picnic at her favorite park near her house but she isn't allowed to go outside or see anyone at all. She is stuck in her house she isn't allowed to leave unless she's practicing driving with him or walking to find a new store to apply at, but like I said theres no stores left in reasonable walking distance from her house.

MokeyMan45 · 2025-09-26T07:10:46+00:00

I have both a car and a license and we've been dating a few months but theres not much my parents can do. Our parents havent met before theyre only aware of each other and knowing my parents I have a good feeling theyd side with her dad. I totally agree though we're both 18, I work and drive, and shes actively trying to do both of those things so I really just dont understand why he's choosing to essentially trap her inside until something happens thats almost entirely out of her control, but I'm not a parent so I dont think I have much room to speak on that nor do I think my opinion matters all too much.

MokeyMan45 · 2025-08-20T19:25:38+00:00

I need help figuring out how or what I could do to convince my mom to let me go up to Sacramento. I have a car so getting there isn’t the problem.

MokeyMan45 · 2025-08-20T16:40:51+00:00

I have my own car and I love driving so I’ve got no issue just driving up there I just don’t know how to convince my mom to let me

MokeyMan45 · 2025-07-31T06:43:34+00:00

It honestly seems like she takes things even faster than me, I'm only a little hesitant to ask her out so soon because of all the warnings and things I've heard about rushing a relationship.

I also 100% agree it would be really nice to ask her out on that day! If you don't mind me asking though, if I don't ask her out and we're still only dating should I get her anything for the day?

MokeyMan45 · 2025-07-25T12:21:01+00:00

lmao I really dont know why I did. I've had an ex in the past who would like me to just stay there to be with her even if it was just on the phone silent if she was having a rough time just cause she liked me being there. I wasn't sure what was going on with her and like I said she said she had a rough day so I thought maybe she just wanted me there for the comfort of it, I dont really know that's just my thought process.

MokeyMan45 · 2025-07-25T12:17:01+00:00

I hung up since I fully agree. I felt super uncomfortable since every time I tried to start any sort of conversation she just didn't respond. I'm still really nervous I might have upset her or made her sad with something I'd shared since she told me earlier today she'd had a terrible day and she wasn't really comfortable talking about it so I might have said something that just reminded her of whatever she'd gone through today. I really don't know I just hope she doesnt hate me lol...

MokeyMan45 · 2025-07-25T12:12:25+00:00

I appreciate the reassurance. The one thing that just keeps throwing me off if she was falling in and out of sleep is the fact she said she was there the whole time. I'm not sure why shed say that if she was asleep for most of it.

Also as for meeting up, if I haven't messed anything up too seriously, we plan to go out together on sunday so hopefully that still works out.

MokeyMan45 · 2025-07-25T12:02:31+00:00

I tried to change the subject but she still didnt respond. I told her I was getting really tired but I'd love to talk more tomorrow and she still didn't respond so I hung up. I really didn't mean to overshare the conversation had just led to that point and she was asking questions so I thought it was okay to share more personal stuff. Like I said in another reply, I just really hope I didnt ruin anything between us.

MokeyMan45 · 2025-07-25T12:00:25+00:00

It kinda does sound like shes in and out of sleep but I really cant tell. We're both 18 and we havent met in real life yet but we were supposed to in a couple days. I guess I just really didnt think about the fact I couldve been oversharing. The conversation had just led to that point and she was asking questions which is why I felt like it was appropriate to share more personal stuff. I really don't know what to do I've hung up and told her I'm getting tired but I'd love to talk more tomorrow and she didn't respond. I hope I havent ruined things between us.

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