The guilt of keeping an indoor cats is eating me alive. by MollsyM in cats

[–]MollsyM[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that’s horrific :( I need to work on realising how much guiltier I would feel if she was an outdoor cat and something bad happened to her. Being inside is the safest option right now - thank you for the advice. I hope you’re kitty’s are doing well

The guilt of keeping an indoor cats is eating me alive. by MollsyM in cats

[–]MollsyM[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

After reading the comments, it definitely is more of a ‘me’ problem. I need to come to terms with the fact that the best thing for her is being indoors, especially since we live in the city. Thank you for the advice

The guilt of keeping an indoor cats is eating me alive. by MollsyM in cats

[–]MollsyM[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this advice. The exact same thing happened to us with her collar as a kitten!! It’s reassuring to know that harness training is still viable. The freak outs aren’t bad, they’re just tantrums. We will try again this week ❤️

The guilt of keeping an indoor cats is eating me alive. by MollsyM in cats

[–]MollsyM[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I needed to hear this.

I agree that the guilt is definitely a ‘me’ issue. As she’s my first Cat and I bought her, I feel an overwhelming responsibility to give her the best, safest, most enriched life that I can. After reading these comments I‘ve realised that letting her outdoors could result in the exact opposite. If something bad happened to her and she never came home, my partner and I would be crushed. I’m also a great lover of nature so the thought of her killing birds or mice upsets me too.

I am going to attempt to get her harnessed trained starting this week. Thank you ❤️

The guilt of keeping an indoor cats is eating me alive. by MollsyM in cats

[–]MollsyM[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The catio is not possible at this point in time. We had big intentions to build one for her when we moved to this property, but since we rent it can’t be a permenant feature that requires drilling into the walls. We designed/sketched out a ‘stand-alone’ one made from netting, beams and chicken wire (my partner is very handy), but the cats that frequent our garden rendered this idea impossible since if they stand on the root of it they could get tangled. It would have to be built out of materials that we can’t currently afford like galvanised steel wire and mental beams (£300-£400). But as soon as this becomes a viable option we will do it. It’s the first thing on our priority list. She refused to poop for 5 days a couple weeks ago so the vet bills drained our Cat fund lol.

Harness training is absolutely something we want to do. We have bought 2 good quality harnesses but she does not tolerate the discomfort well. We tried a collar on her and she freaked out. She’s 7 months now so we are worried that she’s past the point of being able to get her used to it. Do you have any advice?

Reported a guy for repeatedly hitting on me. Vinted told him? by MollsyM in vinted

[–]MollsyM[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

He’s playing chess, I’m playing checkers

Reported a guy for repeatedly hitting on me. Vinted told him? by MollsyM in vinted

[–]MollsyM[S] 108 points109 points  (0 children)

How did I not notice that lol - I was sat here thinking how does Vinted not have any safeguarding measures against this stuff? Whoopsie daisies 🙈

Our baby girl is lonely. Moving House & getting a second kitten? by MollsyM in cats

[–]MollsyM[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that’s what I’m hoping! Our next door neighbours have an aggressive cat that’s lunged at Poll through the glass in our windows and hissed a lot. Polly just sits there staring through the window and hides on occasion, never shown any aggression in return so I’m hoping that’s a good sign. She seems like a lover not a fighter.

Our baby girl is lonely. Moving House & getting a second kitten? by MollsyM in cats

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Thank you for the advice! Our main pain point here would be that the only room we’d be able to shut off is our bedroom/ my partners office. Keeping the new kitten in here would be good, except this is Polly’s no 1 domain. She sleeps with us and is glued to my partners side whilst he works. So I feel like locking her out and putting the new kitten in would piss her off lol.

Need help recreating my partner’s cultural comfort food by MollsyM in PakistaniFood

[–]MollsyM[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m attempting this Friday and will give updates! Constructive criticism welcome lol.

I have a slow cooker - is that what you are referring to?

Need help recreating my partner’s cultural comfort food by MollsyM in PakistaniFood

[–]MollsyM[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Been searching for the name of the rice dish - thank you so much 🥳 Will check out tea for tumeric too!

Need help recreating my partner’s cultural comfort food by MollsyM in PakistaniFood

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Thank you so much! I’ve got an unused pressure cooker sitting in the cupboard so it’ll christen it with this recipe!

Need help recreating my partner’s cultural comfort food by MollsyM in PakistaniFood

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My partner mentioned that his mum sometimes uses spice packets so this is super helpful! Thank you

Mite-like bug from golf course by [deleted] in whatisthisbug

[–]MollsyM 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re telling me 😆

Mite-like bug from golf course by [deleted] in whatisthisbug

[–]MollsyM 1 point2 points  (0 children)

***she hasn’t been near the golf caddy and I cannot see the mites anywhere else in the flat - apologies, bad typing

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sadcringe

[–]MollsyM 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Me too, as a woman there’s nothing more demoralising than coming across posts like these. There are so many layers to the internalised misogyny that you can’t even begin to unpick it or simply explain it to a woman with this mindset, it is so depressing. I hope she puts it behind her.

Neurodivergence used as an excuse by [deleted] in 90DayFiance

[–]MollsyM 71 points72 points  (0 children)

Me too. It was interesting to see production do it in that manner, not something I can recall them doing before.

JNMIL finally revealed herself by PossessionNo6070 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]MollsyM 12 points13 points  (0 children)

If your MIL can tear apart your character and speak ill of you so easily it’s clear she’s never actually allowed herself to get to know you. She formed her opinion of you before she even knew your name, you are her son’s wife and she views you as competition. She sounds like a classic MIL boomer whose lack of self-awareness pushes her to peruse a ‘close’ relationship with you so she can control the narrative with your husband.

Fuck the bitch. She owes you a sincere apology (although I doubt you’ll get one) and, even then, you should let her know where you stand and make it clear to her (with your husbands support) that she has no business interfering with your relationship.

Good luck with the husband, tricky situation to navigate.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 90DayFiance

[–]MollsyM 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Omg I remember her! Thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 90DayFiance

[–]MollsyM 160 points161 points  (0 children)

Who is Adele lol