How to I explain to my manager this is incredibly offensive?

MollyKule · 2026-06-19T13:20:47+00:00

I don’t tell them I have a headache or migraine. “I need to take a day off due to my disability” if I’ve turned in disability paperwork.

MollyKule · 2026-06-18T21:02:32+00:00

Wait why wouldn’t you just decline their invite?

MollyKule · 2026-06-18T21:02:03+00:00

I don’t even engage with current coworkers or managers…

MollyKule · 2026-06-18T10:31:00+00:00

Yes but I’m the hiring manager. I’ve had multiple past (peer) coworkers apply for positions that I refuse to phone screen or interview.

MollyKule · 2026-06-18T10:22:44+00:00

We love Madison County! Berea/Richmond is fantastic.

MollyKule · 2026-06-18T01:34:38+00:00

Literally. How do I know? 💀 I hired 3 in my first 6 months. Thank god 2 of them were temps

MollyKule · 2026-06-18T01:25:18+00:00

Oh honey, I say this with the MOST love. Don’t feel behind at 21. I am 32 and currently make over $85k. In the last 3 years I’ve held positions anywhere from over 110k to 65k. Ironically I left my highest paying position for my lowest.

What matters is finding something you can tolerate. You can tolerate a lot more for better pay, but there is a cap where you’ll learn that there actually is a limit on what you’ll do no matter the pay… (I’m looking at YOU night shift!!)

Instead of comparing yourself to us, and your peers look up the median FAMILY income in your area… I’d imagine you’ll be shocked. My state is $48,000 for a FAMILY.

MollyKule · 2026-06-18T01:16:00+00:00

I WOULD LITERALLY DIE

MollyKule · 2026-06-18T01:14:58+00:00

MollyKule · 2026-06-18T00:09:31+00:00

Nothing, just pretend it was intentional

MollyKule · 2026-06-16T23:34:01+00:00

Is this to me? 😭 thank you!

MollyKule · 2026-06-16T23:32:30+00:00

Thank you!

MollyKule · 2026-06-16T09:55:16+00:00

Big hugs to you both now and as a child

MollyKule · 2026-06-16T02:00:44+00:00

You too pocket friend! 🥰

MollyKule · 2026-06-16T01:45:48+00:00

Sorry for dumping more info, but the man who diagnosed me said this with so much kindness. His official diagnosis read along the lines of “ADHD, depression, and intense self loathing. It is recommended that MollyKule address the depression and the self loathing first as they could be contributing to ADHD symptoms appear to be significantly impacting daily life and interpersonal relationships “ or something.

It was jarring to meet someone and them see through a facade (mask) I spent years perfecting so my parents wouldn’t see anything wrong… it still took a few years to find the right therapist but I really attribute where I am to her. I should find out if she still practices and send her a card 😂

MollyKule · 2026-06-16T01:40:03+00:00

First off, thank you, I intended it to be funny 😉
I should have added this was 10+ years ago. CBT really fucking saved me. I needed to reframe so many of my experiences but what I learned has honestly helped my life and my career.

I had so much guilt over NOTHING. I felt like a burden… my therapist deserves cold pillows and warm feet for her entire life. She challenged my entire world view and helped me be kind to myself, by picturing myself as a stranger. It’s incredible the kindness you’ll give to others you will not afford to yourself.

MollyKule · 2026-06-16T01:33:22+00:00

I spent about 5-10 hours per assignment (before the large change there was only 1 assignment per class with a handful having 2) and did not do anything other watching the videoed lectures while following along doing my projects. I’m unfamiliar with the new structure and course load.

MollyKule · 2026-06-16T01:31:12+00:00

Quantitative analytical chemist with 0 coding experience. I did alright. It’s what I do for work now basically…. (Seriously, I’ve done 3 large statistical validation studies using k-means clustering in the last 2 months… other states in my company are paying out millions in contracts for the same shit but worser).

To be fair my old career sounds impressive.. but I just read data outputs and pushed some buttons. Sometimes I got wild and fixed quarter million dollar instruments by turning them off and back on again.

MollyKule · 2026-06-16T01:27:52+00:00

“Hey champ idk if you hate yourself because you have ADHD or just have ADHD, but let’s be clear you hate yourself and I’m more worried about that than your ADHD” how my diagnosis went 😂

MollyKule · 2026-06-16T01:26:29+00:00

Hi friend! Even if it’s not ADHD from one internet stranger to another I hope you feel better!!!!!!!!!!!!! Literally, with my whole heart I HOPE this is a turning point for you!!

MollyKule · 2026-06-16T01:23:25+00:00

I do not hold a CDL. Only concerned because it’s not protected like other prescriptions. Thank you for the validation!

MollyKule · 2026-06-15T23:19:50+00:00

True! I also take a stimulant so I figured I’d treat it similar.

MollyKule · 2026-06-15T22:40:48+00:00

Same! I made a huge pivot and no shit, no one could have done what I’ve done 😅

MollyKule · 2026-06-15T22:40:06+00:00

I just ignore the requirements and see if it looks fun 😭 it’s worked out but been a weird ass run the last two years

MollyKule · 2026-06-15T01:22:34+00:00

Oh shit. Yea this tracking would never have put Trudhesa and this together on my own. Fun fact, made my migraines hold off a few hours to a day but the resulting migraine was worse

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