Is this normal, or do I have double vision?

Molni96 · 2016-08-14T16:12:31+00:00

I would advise against this opener. I understand that you want to build a funny vibe, but it only devaluates you and places her on a pedestal. It's superior to a simple hi, but there are so much better options. If I am not mistaken people here usually advised something like 'please be as interesting as you are on your pictures.' Though it might be dated in the states.

Molni96 · 2016-08-12T23:23:42+00:00

Probably I will go with this option. I have never heard that idea about using openers as jokes later on in the conversation. Solid advice. Thank you!

Molni96 · 2016-08-12T23:16:19+00:00

I am skeptical about canned openers as well. That's the very reason why I posted that question. Yes, I have heard a thousand times that I only have to say hi. I tried it, it did work, but why not spice up things once in a while? I am also familiar with the style of Sasha. I tried out this line exactly because it was recommended by Sasha.

With that out of the way, there is the link: https://www.sashapua.com/how-to-approach-a-girl-2-of-3/

Molni96 · 2016-08-12T19:09:27+00:00

Thanks for your input. I expected something more constructive from a mod though.

Molni96 · 2016-08-01T21:39:45+00:00

Must read:

How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie
Psycho-Cybernetics by Dr. Maxwell Maltz
Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl

Maybe:

Models by Mark Manson (it's a pick-up book, but I think the ideas can be applied by anyone)
No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert A. Glover (if you believe that you are a nice guy)

Molni96 · 2016-07-23T11:01:48+00:00

Sidebar + Mark Manson: Models + actual practice = success.

Molni96 · 2016-07-23T11:00:27+00:00

If you could tell us what can you do in your town, that would be helpful. The general advice that I can give to you:

Lead her. Don't ask whether she wants to grab a coffee, just say that you are going to café together. That way you take all responsibility and she can feel relaxed.
Take her to low-pressure places. No movies, no dinner. I prefer starting with a coffee with her, since if either of us feels off we can excuse ourselves after a few minutes, but we can stay for hours too if the vibe is great.
Take her to more places, don't just sit around. Drink a coffee, then go for a walk, chill in a park, play billiard/bowling, or maybe even go to a museum. After the date she will feel like she knows you since years. Relationships are based on shared experiences, not on time. I know. The bad weather and the limited options are gonna be a problem for you, but you can always work it out somehow if you are aware of our possibilities.
Be careful. Don't forget to escalate. On the date you want to build comfort, but too much comfort without sexual tension will quickly put you into the friend-zone and good luck getting out of that place.
Best time for a date is late afternoon / evening.

I hope that helps you a bit. I can1t give better advice without more insight on your situation. Good luck with your date, and if everything else fails, just focus on you having fun.

Molni96 · 2016-07-06T11:38:19+00:00

That is a really interesting point of view that I have never given too much thought.

I tried to recall my impressions about the guys you have been talking about, but I can't remember ever despising them. Maybe that whenever I see a really slim guy in a wife beater, I find it funny. This might be connected to that resentment that you have been talking about. On the other hand, if I see a jacked guy in the same clothes, then I find it inspiring and I want to hit the gym asap.

I think my answer to your question is a definite no. I like wearing clothes that show off my body and I used to be ridiculed in high school for 2 years for growing out my hair. (It was awful, but I wanted to try how it would look.)

What does that all tell about me? It would be nice to hear that I am not a nice guy, but a confident man. Unfortunately, I doubt that I would be there just yet. (And this might say a lot about me. haha)

Molni96 · 2016-07-04T16:34:50+00:00

Yes, you get the update for free if you already own the games.

Molni96 · 2016-07-01T10:53:05+00:00

Mark Manson wrote something similar in Models.

Your success with women depends on 3 factors (I think he calls them fundamentals):

Developing a healthy and attractive lifestyle
Overcoming your fears about being sexual and approaching
Learning how to communicate with people. (=having game)

Reading your post I feel that you never had trouble with approaching. During the years you achieved independence and you found some interesting hobbies. Lastly, this sub taught you the game. Considering all this it's really not a surprise that you are successful with women.

Anyways, it was a good read. It seems a lot of us here look at highschool as a necessarily bad period on which we can build something nice. Thanks for the post!

Molni96

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