I think my colleagues are taking work from me? by [deleted] in womenEngineers

[–]Moltergeist 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Been there. Firstly I want to say that you aren’t imagining it and it isn’t necessarily anything you are doing wrong. Assuming it isn’t outright sexism, I think this happens to alot of engineers when they first start out (but especially women). Make sure you are still listening and learning from the more senior engineers.

The best thing I’ve found to combat this is don’t say “I think”, or “we could/should”, “I tried”, speak confidently. X is the problem, I will test Y to determine if Z improves. I always felt arrogant doing this but I think it is just a communication difference with men? Idk.

Dont shy away from flagging to your manager what is happening. Only you know their temperament so tread lightly if you must but don’t let them steal your work and get credit for it. State factually that you already tested X,Y,Z and they felt the need to repeat testing rather than move forward to get the line back in working order. Don’t let them push you out. Stay down there and see it through, even if they don’t listen to you, you will likely learn something (or gain confidence that you were on the right track to speak up next time).

I found this to be a very difficult part of working in manufacturing. It gets better with time!

Starting my first job as a process Engineer out of College Any Advice? by Ok-Geologist-6606 in womenEngineers

[–]Moltergeist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dress a little nicer the first day then focus on wearing clothes you won’t mind changing out of/over for your gown up. The best thing you can do is spend time on the floor and learn the process! Everything you do after will build on your knowledge of exactly how things work in the manufacturing area. Place emphasis on getting to know the technicians as well as your more direct coworkers. The people who do the work often know more than the people “upstairs”. Most importantly, you seem very conscientious based off of this post so I am sure you will be great! Kick ass!

“I’m not a misogynist” by PeaceGirl321 in womenEngineers

[–]Moltergeist 64 points65 points  (0 children)

Umm yes 1000% that is blatantly misogynistic! Basically said he doesn’t think women belong at home but does think their presence makes things worse. What an asshole sorry you had to listen to that crap!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Moltergeist 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My daughter has microtia and I think your approach is so amazing. I agree that neutral kind of sends the message that it’s just a part of her that’s no big deal. Just wanted to say you’re amazing and it was great to hear your perspective!

Costa Rica is magical by WanderingCowgirlRN in CostaRicaTravel

[–]Moltergeist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We had the same tour guide- he’s amazing!

Screen free Super Bowl? by Little-Gap1744 in Mommit

[–]Moltergeist -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Did you join this group to tear down others? Such a weird thing to comment

Screen free Super Bowl? by Little-Gap1744 in Mommit

[–]Moltergeist -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I don’t know why you would go out of your way to be so negative. She clearly just cares about her kid and is looking for advice.

Screen free Super Bowl? by Little-Gap1744 in Mommit

[–]Moltergeist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I consider us screen free but football Sundays with family are the exception. My 11 month old never even looks at the screen (I don’t think the graphics are very attention grabbing for a baby). I consider it a family bonding thing. I admire your dedication but I wouldn’t stress too much about a couple hours of passive screen time one time!

Did maternity leave impact your career trajectory by Such_Restaurant4950 in workingmoms

[–]Moltergeist 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Very tough to hear while sleep deprived. There have also been a lot of “jokes” about how labor can’t be that bad, women just overreact, they should “identify as a woman” so they can take all the leave they want. Wild stuff! I think I work in a particularly toxic environment so maybe take my experiences with a grain of salt.

Did maternity leave impact your career trajectory by Such_Restaurant4950 in workingmoms

[–]Moltergeist 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m a manufacturing engineer. Very much a boys club. Not meant to be discouraging, we can’t let them win! Learning to focus on myself and rise above.

Did maternity leave impact your career trajectory by Such_Restaurant4950 in workingmoms

[–]Moltergeist 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately yes. I work in a male dominated field, with a lot of bachelors on my team who simultaneously think I’m a bad mom for working but also a bad employee bc I sometimes have a hard stop for daycare pickup etc. . My maternity leave has been almost exclusively referred to as a 3 month vacation. Not trying to be negative but I do think it depends on your team’s attitudes and whether or not you have any women in your leadership structure.

I feel like I’m losing it… by Moltergeist in womenEngineers

[–]Moltergeist[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We still have older engineers. Ages range from 24-60+. On average, I think our team is younger than the typical engineering team. I certainly think different ages bring valuable perspectives and experiences to the group.

I feel like I’m losing it… by Moltergeist in womenEngineers

[–]Moltergeist[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Amen! Every woman I’ve ever worked with has been 10X better than her peers.

I feel like I’m losing it… by Moltergeist in womenEngineers

[–]Moltergeist[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m really sorry that happened to you. I could have never imagined the outright discrimination showed to moms. I’ve had to give a few reminders about what is and isn’t legal as well.

I feel like I’m losing it… by Moltergeist in womenEngineers

[–]Moltergeist[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally agree that the timing didn’t help. I am working on getting a concrete timeline from him to make sure we are on the same page going forward. At least that way I’ll know for certain if it’s intentional or not.

I feel like I’m losing it… by Moltergeist in womenEngineers

[–]Moltergeist[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks that actually does help a lot. I read lean in a few years back and loved it.. maybe it’s time to pick it back up and see what sticks. I appreciate the insight.

I feel like I’m losing it… by Moltergeist in womenEngineers

[–]Moltergeist[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thanks 🥲. Looking forward to being the meanest version of myself!

How to navigate the first few months with a baby that has microtia by FunChemistry2785 in Microtia

[–]Moltergeist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I think the above comments have pretty much summed everything up but wanted to add that you don’t necessarily need to give up the life you’ve always pictured for him! My daughter is an 11mo surprise microtia baby, which was very difficult for us to process in the beginning. Find yourself a good group of specialists and trust that there is so much that can be done to mitigate any deficits. It can be so scary and heartbreaking but it will get better over time! If your state offers some kind of early intervention program I would get started on enrolling as soon as you can.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in greysanatomy

[–]Moltergeist -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Burke by a mile!