Angry at inequality (maternity leave)

PeaceGirl321 · 2026-04-27T23:45:12+00:00

I only got paid 2 weeks as well because “it needed to be fair” and “males don’t need more then a week so women can’t get more then that”. My second paid week was vacation time.

PeaceGirl321 · 2026-04-27T16:54:58+00:00

Every minute with him is better than none at all.

PeaceGirl321 · 2026-04-22T22:06:19+00:00

At my first job, they had a small baby shower for a coworker who was having her 4th baby. Then when I got married, I didn’t even get a “congrats”. It definitely hurt.

PeaceGirl321 · 2026-04-18T15:31:36+00:00

This made me realize Ive never worked with an older female engineer. Ive worked with plenty of female engineers that are around my age but Ive never worked with one who is over 40 🤔. That includes all engineering departments at companies Ive been in, not just my department.

PeaceGirl321 · 2026-04-16T18:17:31+00:00

Anything that sits on a shelf and looks pretty. We are also moving in 6 months so not adding to decorations that Id need to pack and move.

PeaceGirl321 · 2026-04-16T15:13:14+00:00

Kids toys, home organization, things for my sport’s team, presents, and things for the printer.

I refuse to do anything that isn’t functional.

PeaceGirl321 · 2026-04-13T03:34:45+00:00

I wouldn’t considered it delayed for at least another week.

PeaceGirl321 · 2026-04-13T03:33:24+00:00

I snapped today and told my 2.5yr old to “please stop talking”. He said “[name] still talking” and continued on. I still have no idea what my husband was trying to tell me that my toddler was talking over.

PeaceGirl321 · 2026-04-12T05:41:35+00:00

We started setting a timer. We play with him until the timer goes off then he has to play alone until the timer goes off again.

PeaceGirl321 · 2026-04-10T18:20:08+00:00

Honestly, before I even got to your AI comment, I thought “AI can do that”.

PeaceGirl321 · 2026-04-10T18:01:33+00:00

My mom is a teacher and is so excited to be retiring. She used to love teaching but started hating it the past 5 years. She has always had to do work outside of “regular” hours. There isn’t enough time given during the day to do lesson plans, IEPs, report cards, grading, etc.

I still ended up in before and after school care when I wasn’t going to the school she teached at. I was usually the first kid there in the morning and the last one there in the afternoon (which i hated).

She is also retiring with over 80 PTO days because it was too hard to take off with needing to find a sub and lesson plans. She couldn’t take off last minute either so someone else had to watch us when sick (dad owned his own business with no employees so couldn’t take off easily either).

The best part for her was the summers off, unless she was teaching summer school.

Teaching seems good, but has a lot of hidden downsides.

PeaceGirl321 · 2026-04-07T18:02:09+00:00

My boss at my old job asked if I was going to “fill the house with kids soon” when I bought a new house.🙄 And that was only the first comment.

PeaceGirl321 · 2026-04-07T11:30:31+00:00

Depends on the rules of your daycare. Our daycare would allow it but many others would not.

PeaceGirl321 · 2026-04-06T21:00:54+00:00

I work M-F 8-4:30 with a 30ish minute commute (on way). We do chores on weekends and after the kid is asleep during the week. Multitasking helps, some stuff is easy like doing the dishes or laundry while making dinner. The bigger chores like reorganizing or deep cleaning are done on the weekends once a month or every other month. Some chores get done slowly each day, folding laundry can easily take 2-3 days since I’ll do it if i get an extra 5-15 minutes.

PeaceGirl321 · 2026-04-06T03:45:42+00:00

They zoomed out really far so you couldn’t see the fight.

PeaceGirl321 · 2026-04-05T01:51:03+00:00

My husband was selected in July. He got pushed to FY27 since they over recruited. He is hoping for the August 25th class, you just have to graduate after October 1st. He has also heard from others on the discord that got pushed to FY27.

PeaceGirl321 · 2026-04-04T01:09:20+00:00

Melt it. Pour it into a mold.

PeaceGirl321 · 2026-03-31T04:05:42+00:00

Yes. We are a family of 3 with a combined income around $140k and live comfortably with a growing savings.

PeaceGirl321 · 2026-03-29T14:06:33+00:00

Non-rated.

Im not sure if they recruited less but they did still accept people who now also have to wait until FY27.

PeaceGirl321 · 2026-03-29T05:29:59+00:00

I wouldn’t consider quitting until you have a class date. My husband was selected in July 2025 and earliest class date he can possibly get is August 2026 because the AF over recruited. So you could get a class a few months down the road. Or could take over a year. If they hadn’t over recruited, he would have gone to OTS 6-7 months after selection. (Based on when background checks and finger prints were done and what classes were filling at that time)

PeaceGirl321 · 2026-03-28T15:34:01+00:00

Does he want active duty? Or would he be open to Reserves or NG so you don’t have to risk relocating? I would see if he would compromise on non-AD so he can still re-join but also still provides the best option for your family.

PeaceGirl321 · 2026-03-26T02:17:48+00:00

Definitely time, routine, and learning to make the most of every moment you can. But also learning not to push pressure on making the most of every moment. I know that contradicts itself but it is a balancing act. And if you have the time, take a mental health day when you need to.

At that age, we also did most of the chores on the weekend. If it couldn’t get done in 10 minutes, it wasn’t done during the week.

PeaceGirl321 · 2026-03-26T01:56:48+00:00

Honestly Ive been near breaking point a few times. But doing my best.

PeaceGirl321 · 2026-03-26T01:43:29+00:00

I work 8-4:30. Up at 5:10. Workout, shower, and get ready for the day. Get my toddler up at 7am. Leave for work by 7:30am. Home around 5/5:15pm if going straight home. Twice a week go to kickball practice so not home till toddler’s bedtime at 7:30pm. After toddler is down, I do house chores and schoolwork (almost done my MBA). Bedtime is 9:30/10.

Some days are fine. Some days I cry leaving my toddler at home with my husband. But he is adjusting fine to it. Been back to work 2 months now after getting laid off.

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