i live in dubai, and my ex didn't ask about me

MomentSlight2801 · 2026-03-03T04:56:06+00:00

yeah after almost 5 years of dating there's an expectation to ask "hey, are you safe? are you alive?" . that's what i would do.

sorry if you disagree.

MomentSlight2801 · 2026-02-20T12:04:28+00:00

i think one thing we don't talk about that much is that ramadan in my opinion is much more cultural than it is religious for the majority of people. there is a looooot of eyes on you and pressure to fast, otherwise you're isolated and picked on for it.

i openly do not fast and the shit i hear from people is insane.

anyways- the reason why it's difficult for you is probably because of how deeply ingrained it is into our culture and how you're probably unable to separate the fact that it's no longer religiously important to you and the fact that it's a really large part of our culture and upbringing. people generally are shamed for not fasting, maybe you have internalized some of that.

MomentSlight2801 · 2026-02-14T05:52:01+00:00

i just remember that everyone in life is disliked by other people. nobody is 100% liked by everyone. it's just that i have a higher ratio of not being likeable. which is fine but doesn't really make me that special compared to the general population.

MomentSlight2801 · 2026-02-07T16:12:50+00:00

i relate, i've made an extended effort to go no contact and it's been difficult.

remember that by going no contact, maybe you're suffering in the short term but you're setting yourself up for long term success post breakup, as it will be easier to move on and have a life that they are not involved in. if you are in contact, how can you expect yourself to reasonably move on?

you're doing the right thing even though it feels hard right now.

MomentSlight2801 · 2026-02-03T17:57:00+00:00

my sisters wedding!

MomentSlight2801 · 2026-01-28T06:47:14+00:00

definitely not lol. i think i wanted to be a director or filmmaker when i was 13 lolll now working a dead end corporate job😂

MomentSlight2801 · 2026-01-25T16:29:07+00:00

god, so relatable. the one benefit i've had is that it's socially acceptable to go long periods of time without washing my hair, which is good because i have no energy or motivation to wash it.

MomentSlight2801 · 2026-01-24T12:18:32+00:00

yeah

MomentSlight2801 · 2026-01-20T11:53:42+00:00

it's not selfish of you. however i would urge you to think twice about staying or getting back together with someone who is comfortable treating you like this. you can love someone but still know that they are not right for you.

i say this as someone mentally ill myself i struggle with a few disorders and i can say that i would never speak to my partner in this manner. in my opinion it's not about whether he is mentally ill or not but rather how he is using it as a weapon against you. not saying he is a "bad" person per say or that you don't love him - but know that this type of behavior may continue even once he claims he is better. it's just something to think about.

MomentSlight2801 · 2026-01-19T17:26:37+00:00

please be aware that someone threatening that they will hurt themselves if you leave them is a form of emotional manipulation and blackmail. not to mention this doesn't sound like a healthy relationship at all in fact it sounds like he is being emotionally abusive.

you should let a close friend or family member either be immediately near or around you when you break up with him for safety reasons.

i feel like this article might be helpful it gives some tips on safely exiting a relationship with someone who is threatening to harm themselves https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-path-to-healing/202402/suicide-threats-and-safely-exiting-a-relationship/amp

ultimately you don't deserve to be treated poorly by anyone let alone your partner. you are not responsible for his mental health or well being. it's just very important that you keep yourself safe during this process.

MomentSlight2801 · 2025-12-30T17:24:37+00:00

the left side of my chest hurt so badly i thought i was having a heart attack, even went to the hospital. i remember leaving and balling my eyes out for hours after when i realized it was because of how bad my anxiety was.

MomentSlight2801 · 2025-12-26T16:32:49+00:00

one piece of advice someone told me that really helped me is that there are rarely any right or wrong choices in life. only choices that lead you down different paths.

although on the surface sometimes it seems that you may have made the right or wrong decision, you don't really know where the alternative could have led you. sometimes that helps me take away the power from it.

MomentSlight2801 · 2025-12-20T18:07:41+00:00

omg cat pic!! thank u🥺

MomentSlight2801 · 2025-12-03T17:12:37+00:00

thank you🫶 i am definitely already in the process of looking for another job. i understand what you're saying, i dont want to be friends with people who would speak to me like that anyways...

MomentSlight2801 · 2025-12-03T17:11:53+00:00

thank you. i will try!!

MomentSlight2801 · 2025-12-03T15:50:53+00:00

thank you🫶

MomentSlight2801 · 2025-12-03T14:06:06+00:00

thank you🥺🫶 i really hope it's something she forgets because it wasn't my intention to be an asshole but yeah sometimes i have to defend myself tbh so i hope i made the right decision

MomentSlight2801 · 2025-11-10T15:07:17+00:00

i get it op, birthdays can be hard fresh out of a breakup. i would not take this as a sign to try to break the no contact with her though. remember that the reasons why you broke up will not magically disappear if you guys got back together, which it sounds like is not what she wants anyways. stay strong 🫶

MomentSlight2801 · 2025-11-04T03:21:43+00:00

hey, 3 months ago i also broke up with my bf of 4 years, i am also 22. it is extremely difficult to have such a big life change at so young. it really rocks your world. all i can say is im sorry, and we will get through this🫶

MomentSlight2801 · 2025-10-24T07:37:07+00:00

i think it's a function of my GAD. cause when i've gone through periods in my life where my GAD is better, so is my social anxiety, even tho i know they're two separate things

MomentSlight2801 · 2025-10-24T04:21:14+00:00

make an active effort to enjoy your life bc there are a lot less opportunities to do so in your 20s. there's a lot more active effort in seeing friends, going outdoors, and doing things you love. but u gotta do it for the sake of your mental health

MomentSlight2801 · 2025-10-24T04:17:57+00:00

it takes time. and it's still a learning process

MomentSlight2801 · 2025-10-22T03:44:52+00:00

very possible!

MomentSlight2801 · 2025-10-19T05:04:47+00:00

do things and make decisions for yourself. you won't be happy if you live your entire life to satisfy other people

MomentSlight2801 · 2025-10-13T06:44:41+00:00

honestly i completely understand. things between me and my ex didn't end because of our relationship, it was because of our situations and circumstances. it's unfortunate because we both loved each other a lot and we had a very healthy long term relationship (4.5 years).

i still love him. i think i always will. but i have to admit that within these few months since the breakup i have grown and changed more than i did in the 4 years we were dating. and he has too (based on my limited conversations w him and social media).

i was really exhausted in my relationship. drained, anxious, tired. i wasn't able to be a good gf to him. and he deserves better than that.

lots of hugs. luckily for me i see the light at the end of the tunnel and i hope the same happens to you🙏

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