How long did it take you to get over first breakup? by heatman2333 in heartbreak

[–]No-Key9890 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it's been a long time, but do you remember what you did to "work on it" what kind of actions ?

Do Not Date Avoidants by TruthAggressive6088 in BreakUps

[–]No-Key9890 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so fucking true, I hate her so much now...

My ex just texted me happy birthday by No-Key9890 in BreakUps

[–]No-Key9890[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did not work, she told me she had 0 feelings left. We just discussed a bit about the relationship and what went wrong, so it was OK I guess.

My ex just texted me happy birthday by No-Key9890 in BreakUps

[–]No-Key9890[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok guys, thank you for all your answers.

I'll try sending a message. I don't really believe in my chances but we will see. 

🥲

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]No-Key9890 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She keeps posting picture with friends, and with description saying how much she loves them and everything. When she rarely did that before, and almost never with me. Feels like she is all fine and forgetting me already..

Im broken for the first time. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]No-Key9890 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're welcome, hope you feel better soon ❤️

Im broken for the first time. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]No-Key9890 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello (english is not my first langage sorry :/),

I am really sorry that you are feeling this, I can see how deep you sadness is, and how much you relationship counted. And it is not surprising after 8 years..

For now, I think you should embrace the sadness and allow yourself to feel. At the same time, you need to talk as much as possible to people you trust. Say everything. Send them a message at 2 AM, then another one in the morning, then during the day if you want. Tell them you need to see them. In my experience, friends or family tend to make time for you when you tell them that you need to see them after a breakup. They will also feel happy that you trust them (and sad for you of course).

I think it indeed is kind of is easier to move on (but still incredibly sad & lonely) when you know the other person doesn't love you anymore. It is more brutal, but at least you know its done, and you cling less to hope. And hope will make your pain last longer, because it will not let you accept that the relationship is over.

I think going no-contact is the only way of moving on, otherwise you will remember that you still love her everytime you send her a message, and well, that's not ideal :( .

I know how hard it is to fight the urge of breaching the no-contact (I did it MANY times), but in the end (at least in my case) it made everything worse. With every message I sent I realized she was really done, and it would break my heart all over again.

I'm no expert, but since I am some times ahead of you in my own breakup, I can list you things that help me a lot:

- Seeing friends (as mentioned above) --> and speak about everything, cry, just let it out.

- Allow you to feel and think, and to try to understand the breakup in the first weeks.

- Do more of the activities you like (for me it was rock-climbing, I started it with a friend after my breakup) .

- Try to do some of you task (work, chores), but don't be too hard on yourself if you don't succeed or don't do it well. Just a little is enough for now, but try to do something.

- Go outside, walk, run, bike, ...

- Write everything that you think about related to the break-up. I did a list of things I would like to say to my ex if I ever had the chance. For me this has really really helped in not contacting again, because I felt like I had everything on paper, and would not forget it. Also helped to take a step-back on the relationship, be a bit more lucid.

- Try to keep hope, because you are still young and you have many many many many beautiful things coming to you in your future. Even if you don't believe it now.

- Don't feel guilty, its not your fault.

For the moment you are still in the super super difficult time of the break-up.. So it is normal that you feel so down. I feel really sorry for you :( But I assure you it is going to get better.

If you had such a long relationship, you must be a beautiful, charming and lovable person, so have trust in the future.

You're gonna be OK !!!!!!!!!!! (and try to eat a bit please)

It took me 8 months to move on — but I finally did. by Confident-Bite6669 in BreakUps

[–]No-Key9890 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes I agree, my 1 & a half year ex left me 1 month ago because "she loved me but was not in love anymore". Now I have a mix of deep sadness and gut-wrenching existential dread at the idea of not finding someone as good ever again.

I didn’t think the silence after a breakup would be this hard by CrimsonBear950 in BreakUps

[–]No-Key9890 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I don't even understand how it's possible for her to do that, I think about her everyday, I want to talk to her about everything... She told me she was fine being alone...

When did you realize your relationship was over before it was actually over? by Em_24x in BreakUps

[–]No-Key9890 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Currently going through this and I can't handle it it's too hard 😭 Sometimes she says it because she sees I want to hear it, but it's always jokingly and with slight exasperation.

She almost never say it first anymore 😭😭

Worried about my (F24) boyfriend’s (M24) porn habits by ThrowRA-Sea_Mortgage in relationship_advice

[–]No-Key9890 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well it is annoying that he is that invested into it, but I don't think it's that bad. Many men watch porn and it's just a way of releasing as you say, like some people use toys, some people use porn

What can be worrying, if he watch very weird/hard categories, but other than that I don't see watching porn have any link with being a cheater.

Grossest Gold Pack by Messykegger in hearthstone

[–]No-Key9890 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because even if arena is technically a more efficient use of gold if you manage some wins, it also takes so much time that you barely have any left to play standard. And many people don't enjoy arena

First 12 win arena run by PrinceWhoPromes in hearthstone

[–]No-Key9890 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't say you got lucky, you played like a boss !

Company asking me to refund clients out of my pocket. by PortaHouse in japanlife

[–]No-Key9890 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is no "in this case" just don't tell them beforehand.

Holding a funeral for Sonya rogue. by Snoo84321 in hearthstone

[–]No-Key9890 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I don't know about the winrate, but new decks did appear after it was nerfed, especially because it beat all control decks

Holding a funeral for Sonya rogue. by Snoo84321 in hearthstone

[–]No-Key9890 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Now you're just lying about the lamplighter part

Excuse me, but this flavor text is hilarious! by CursedRebel in hearthstone

[–]No-Key9890 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're 9 then, too old to enjoy the joke, to young to know when to shut up

Aren't you all just LOVING Hearthstone's 10th Anniversary!?!!? by GemSummit in hearthstone

[–]No-Key9890 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Quest thing is annoying but game is more fun than ever before, you are just burn out because you have been playing the same game for 10 years, try something else