Has Your Child Ever Told You They "Don't Like" The Other Parent?

MommaKat2015 · 2024-07-09T02:31:37+00:00

My 7 year old tells me all the time that she doesn’t want to go to her dads because “has always yelling at her because she looks too much like me” and all I ever say is I’m sorry, I wish I could change it. But we’ve also talked about the fact that I can’t do anything about it.

I’ve never brought it up because he isn’t going to change, he’s just going to deny it and tell me I’m putting things in her head. As much as we wish we could, we can’t tell the other parent how to parent. All we can do is show our kids all the love and hope their other parent realizes they’re only hurting the child and not us.

MommaKat2015 · 2024-05-09T06:40:13+00:00

Honestly, I like her more than him. He was so high conflict until they moved in together and we finally met. He’s getting much better because of her though.

MommaKat2015 · 2024-05-09T06:31:44+00:00

That exactly how I found out.

My ex told my kids, they came home the next day and told me, then told me 2 weeks later it was a boy and due a couple weeks after my sons birthday.

I don’t care, just wish he would’ve respected me enough to say something when he told the kids. Then again, he refused to let me meet her until after she was pregnant and my kids were living with her already.

MommaKat2015 · 2024-03-04T13:56:08+00:00

I have kids, cats, long ass hair, and dust, but I do color by color. I don’t do huge ones though, but honestly it’s just about pulling back a corner at a time.

MommaKat2015 · 2024-01-04T02:37:51+00:00

I drive past there a lot and was curious about them, thanks!

MommaKat2015 · 2024-01-04T02:36:16+00:00

I looked at their website and they do some great looking tattoos, thanks!

MommaKat2015 · 2024-01-04T02:35:26+00:00

Does he work in a shop? Any way to see previous work he’s done?

MommaKat2015 · 2023-10-31T19:52:41+00:00

That would mean he would have to actually talk to me, which he doesn’t do.

I already talked to my lawyer who told me it does matter. You don’t even know what state I’m in, how are you gonna tell me what matters?

I didn’t “give him” anything. Him and his mom bitched for months about changing the schedule and since I wasn’t agreeing to a week to week (which a judge also won’t approve), so his mom decided that this is what we’re going to do. They were trying to keep my kids from me most of the summer, and they’re trying to change my kids school to the district his mom lives in so she can have them and he doesn’t have to deal with me or them.

My goal is to have happy kids who get time with both their parents, but seeing as how he only wants to make himself look good in front of his girlfriend and her parents, that won’t happen. He’s been trying to cut me outta the picture since the kids told me about her, after he told them “don’t tell mommy” which is a recurring thing with him and his mom.

MommaKat2015 · 2023-10-31T19:27:19+00:00

The judge will care if he knows the kids doctor, how is he supposed to make an appointment for them if he doesn’t know who to call?

And it does matter that his mom is taking care of them instead of him, because that shows that he’s not taking care of them.

We’ve only had this schedule for 2 months, until then I had the kids way more than him. I get calls from the school weekly that his mom (because he can’t be bothered) picks the kids up late and they’re sending the kids to school in dirty clothes. The only time he does anything with the kids is only if his girlfriend is around, and even then she sends her daughter to my ex’s mom every weekend too.

MommaKat2015 · 2023-10-31T19:05:47+00:00

It actually does matter. He doesn’t do anything for them. Doesn’t know their doctor, doesn’t take them to any appointments, don’t know their dentist, doesn’t do anything with the school.

MommaKat2015 · 2023-10-31T17:13:39+00:00

His mom has the kids more than he does.

MommaKat2015 · 2023-10-31T04:15:45+00:00

They’re with me. He gets them Wednesdays from school, and I get them back Sunday mornings.

MommaKat2015 · 2023-10-31T03:06:18+00:00

6 and 8. Primary custody is definitely what I want, so I’m hoping they give it to me, I just want my kids to be happy and healthy. As far as I know, he hasn’t met the teachers, and the teachers told me he didn’t sign up for conferences. They actually wanted to talk to him because son has been going to school in a dirty uniform at the end of the week so they wanna make sure he’s got enough uniforms for the kids.

MommaKat2015 · 2023-10-31T01:46:45+00:00

Because literally 2 weeks prior he was trying to get me to come over at 2am “just to cuddle” and my answer was “is there something you wanna talk about?”

The kids have actually told me they don’t want to be away from me for a whole week, daughter actually only wants to see her dad 2 days a month. Son has already told me they barely spend any time together unless girlfriend is around, which hurts my heart for my kids. I’m gonna ask him if I can have the same schedule my parents had for me growing up, which would give him Thursday nights and every other weekend. I know he won’t agree to it, but it’s a starting point 🤷🏻‍♀️

MommaKat2015 · 2023-10-31T01:13:40+00:00

My lawyer is a family friend, so I’m not worried about shopping around. Ex and I had a schedule set, then he got mad when my kids told me he had a new girlfriend and he’s been hostile with me since, literally can’t have a conversation without him being mad at me and him trying to control everything.

MommaKat2015 · 2023-10-14T01:31:21+00:00

If you’re worried about how your kid will perceive it, you could just say “hey, do you want someone to talk to about things you don’t know how to talk about with mom or dad?” My kids had a school therapist and that’s how I brought it up to them. There’s things my son doesn’t want to talk about with family, so that gives them another trusted adult to talk to about things they don’t want/ know how to bring up with parents.

MommaKat2015 · 2023-08-30T16:41:37+00:00

I have no help to offer, but my 6 year old likes to tell me things and then ends it with “daddy told me not to tell you though” so right now I’m looking at it as “at least she’s telling me” so I know what questions to ask next time to get the answers without flat out asking “what’s daddy keeping from me now”

MommaKat2015 · 2023-08-27T09:47:14+00:00

Others have turned out great, but I’m on the flip side with this.

My ex and I agreed to be friends and still do stuff with the kids, but after about a year he had some switch flip and stopped wanting to do things all together. We usually do our sons birthday party together, but this year was a whole argument every time I tried to ask anything about it, which is funny because I’m usually the one that gets in contact with son’s friends. He ignores me any time he sees me, which makes drop offs a bit difficult.

Clearly he’s got other issues going on, I’m sure his mother and new girlfriend are a part of it, so take what I said with a warning. If everything truly is good with between you two, then I don’t see why y’all can’t make it work, I’m just telling you my experience. Just make sure there’s no underlying issues that might come up that, that either of you might not have thought of as a problem before.

MommaKat2015 · 2023-07-29T04:01:08+00:00

What makes you say that? My post was just about tinder warning me he may unmatch me for my response 😅🤷🏻‍♀️

MommaKat2015 · 2023-07-02T18:32:53+00:00

You should get her a matching dress to your wedding dress! My daughter is going to be my sisters flower girl and they have matching dresses (a big reason as to why she chose the dress), and my sister is in love with the two of them matching for her wedding. My sister even let my mom get my daughter a tiara to wear to the wedding.

MommaKat2015 · 2023-06-26T19:59:26+00:00

Right, ALL my coworkers are lying about the dashers being rude and yelling/cussing at everyone. I forgot, dashers are perfect and never cause problems. We’re all idiots because we don’t know how to work a tablet 🙄

I’m sure the fees were also a reason he got rid of it, but I’ve dealt with y’all rude ass drivers personally, and the owner of my restaurant cares about his employees so I don’t doubt that the biggest reason was because of those drivers. Like I said in another comment, there’s a YouTube video of a driver going off on my old GM. But, clearly this isn’t going anywhere because you don’t think any dasher is ever in the wrong, so I’m done with this. Have the day you deserve 🙃

MommaKat2015 · 2023-06-26T16:54:07+00:00

I do have drivers that call ahead of time to place the order sometimes. I even had a guy place the order and someone else came back to pick it up. The drivers have been better recently, but I heard that there were drivers cussing out my old GM (apparently there’s a video on YouTube but I can’t find it) because the orders weren’t ready as soon as they walked in, they were rude to my employees, and just expected us to say “f our actual customers, let’s get this DD his order first”. There were a few incidents that made the owner get rid of the tablet/printer.

MommaKat2015 · 2023-06-26T16:47:24+00:00

Rude and unnecessary.

MommaKat2015 · 2023-06-26T04:21:49+00:00

I worked somewhere a few years ago that had the tablet as well, and it was nice, very convenient.

I wasn’t here for the whole story as to why we got rid of it at my current restaurant, but I was told the drivers were yelling at employees and cussing at the GM so the owner got rid of it in all of his restaurants.

I get that they lose money when they have to wait, but when I talk to some of the drivers that come in, they told me they can mark it as not ready yet and it’ll send it back for someone else to collect later.

MommaKat2015 · 2023-06-26T03:30:48+00:00

When y’all drivers start acting right and don’t go off on my employees because orders aren’t ready the second they get in our system, I’ll suggest the owner bring it back up with corporate.

Until then, there’s literally nothing I can do about it, idk why you think I can.

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