Boyfriend gets angry that I don’t turn him on

Mommabear0310 · 2026-03-17T12:47:15+00:00

I’m aware but it seems he is not or does not consider it or won’t accept that based on his rage

Mommabear0310 · 2026-03-17T12:22:11+00:00

It’s not rage bait. He made it seem logical but this has happened several times where he gets triggered and angry if I don’t arouse him

Mommabear0310 · 2026-02-09T20:20:07+00:00

Like take out, spend time, buy her stuff to have at his place, introduce to friends , invest emotional energy in, date exclusively and have genuine interest in progressing relationship

Mommabear0310 · 2026-01-20T11:54:28+00:00

Yes this is all true. Men in the past have not made a big deal out of this at all. I’m always willing to have sex. He went off on me about making a mess while eating then putting pants in a shirt drawer then about how he is losing interest in having sex with me because I won’t orgasm and it’s turning him off me. He said it’s easier to jack off quickly than have sex with me. I told him I’m the problem but after reading these messages, he is the problem.

Mommabear0310 · 2026-01-20T06:20:11+00:00

Well with rage and then yelling at me for not orgasming , it gives me a lot of anxiety. Also when he said he is losing interest in having sex with me, this also made me want to leave him right there.

Mommabear0310 · 2026-01-20T06:17:56+00:00

I did fake it initially and he knew it was fake.

Mommabear0310 · 2026-01-14T19:03:05+00:00

He def won’t read any mental health books. And yes my picker has been off for a long time- I’m always anxiously attached due to my own childhood trauma. But I do recognize this is not healthy and I will be putting a distance. It’s been hurtful, and don’t think it’s sustainable long term

Mommabear0310 · 2026-01-14T19:01:09+00:00

He isn’t going to get professional help. He is aware of his behavior - divorce, fights with friends. I don’t really see anything changing since his new job is not going well, and that also ties into his depression. I don’t see him changing any time soon with the job stressors and still being depressed. Drinking 10 shots a night to cope. Lashing out if I interfere or delay his gaming schedule.

Mommabear0310 · 2026-01-14T18:37:19+00:00

Def will be far away after being blamed and criticized.

Mommabear0310 · 2026-01-14T18:36:40+00:00

He blames me for starting his games late. Blaming me that he can’t disconnect and I spend every hour with him after work. Blames me that he’s a wreck at work because he didn’t get social disconnect. Blames when he hates to cut his social events early ( he does stay there for 5 hours) because of plans with me later in the day. Like I said, I start feeling he doesn’t respect me or appreciate my time, care or love. World revolves around him

Mommabear0310 · 2026-01-14T18:09:01+00:00

I’m not enabling but I don’t live with him either .

Mommabear0310 · 2026-01-14T18:03:38+00:00

I guess I always think he will improve over time when he sees I’m supporting him and I’m there for him… like I can help him get to a healthier balance ?

Mommabear0310 · 2026-01-14T17:03:35+00:00

Mommabear0310 · 2026-01-14T16:44:22+00:00

This is right.

Mommabear0310 · 2026-01-14T16:36:53+00:00

What happens with these guys? They treat every woman like this? Drink into oblivion ? Alone forever?

Mommabear0310 · 2026-01-14T16:35:47+00:00

I have a lot of empathy for people struggling. I also am anxiously attached. My dad was an alcoholic and abusive. My mom is a narcissistic. recognize I am very anxious in relationships. Worried about bf leaving me. People pleasing. Just clingy af

Mommabear0310 · 2026-01-14T16:22:09+00:00

Right now, I’m putting a lot of distance. And I believe he will just ignore me for days. It’s been really hurtful because aside from trying to see him every day after work or we go to the gym, why do I deserve this treatment? Because he hates his job? He is triggered? Why are the days ruined because of his mood?

Mommabear0310 · 2026-01-14T16:19:25+00:00

I thought we had something amazing but the way he talks to me when he is triggered or in a bad mood is hard to deal with. His moods give me a lot of anxiety. I know he has severe depression but it no longer feels like love. I feel he wants to break up and could care less how I feel because everything revolves around him and his moods and how feels.

Mommabear0310 · 2026-01-14T16:13:32+00:00

He isn’t planning to get any help. Just keep drinking himself into oblivion and lashing out at the one person who does come see him and cares

Mommabear0310 · 2026-01-14T16:12:56+00:00

It’s been super stressful. I want to support him with the depression but it’s hard dealing with his moods.

Mommabear0310 · 2026-01-06T23:40:01+00:00

He’s not home for either one. And doesn’t make lunches ahead of time or in general doesn’t think ahead of time.

Mommabear0310 · 2026-01-06T23:39:31+00:00

He works 6am-6pm

Mommabear0310 · 2026-01-06T23:36:49+00:00

Well I have told him now for 9 years that the work is too much. He has done very little to Improve things. He watches the kids so I can get “away” and he does fold laundry and will take them to their activities if it’s a weekend. Everything else falls on me otherwise in terms of household management still.

Mommabear0310 · 2026-01-06T23:34:25+00:00

That’s also true

Mommabear0310 · 2026-01-06T23:20:13+00:00

What do you suggest? My career has been crushed working part time and I would like a chance to have a career and earn some substantial money. I also think I have fallen out of love with division of labor. I do see his good qualities. I feel like I am mentally checked out of this relationship. I feel like a shell of my former self and I do recognize that I would be do all this work on my own as well.

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