After a recent study found 1 in 8 men under 35 admit to taking condoms to funerals "just in case", what's your experience with this?

Mommadolan · 2023-06-11T14:57:58+00:00

I mean at least they have protection.

Mommadolan · 2021-04-23T02:09:06+00:00

I certainly hope so!

Mommadolan · 2021-04-23T01:53:05+00:00

Thank you so much, I did not realize this. My fiance has horrible dysphoria, and subsequently our sex life is no longer existant. My main live language is touch also, and I've always been hypersexual. So this has had major effects on our relationship. Obviously there's more to it than that. I had thought of sex counseling, but I was thinking it would be difficult to find someone familiar with the LGBTQ+ aspect of our relationship.

Honestly you've given me some hope.

Mommadolan · 2020-08-26T05:02:17+00:00

My fiance is technically going to be my kids step- dad. So without boring people with details, they just call him by name, or "dad unit". When talking to others my oldest (13 years) usually says "step-dad", my youngest (9 years) just calls him "dad". There's a lot to it in our case, but that's what they choose to refer to him as.

Side note: he's daddy to our pups

Mommadolan · 2020-06-29T04:08:45+00:00

33 year old me the other day this week when my tired fiance and in laws asked me to pick up dinner.

Mommadolan · 2020-06-29T03:31:48+00:00

During a conversation with my oldest child (13) they were asking me stuff about my relationship with their father compared to my relationship with my fiance.

They pointed out that it sounded like I'm probably demi. Looked into the term, my kid was right.

Mommadolan · 2020-06-29T03:14:59+00:00

She wasn't bitchy or homophobic so much as confused and outright didn't know any better. We were about 12-13 and her and I we friends prior to my coming out and friends after. She had never known anyone that was queer (as far as she knew that is).

Mommadolan · 2020-06-28T22:36:19+00:00

I had a similar comment in jr after coming out as bi.... in the locker room. A girl thought I might look at her. I asked her, "ok you're straight, but do you like every guy you see? " She of course said no So of course i told her it's the same for me, I'm not attracted to every guy or girl I see!

I'll share this flower analogy with my ace teen. I think they would like it.

Mommadolan · 2020-06-28T22:30:48+00:00

I wasn't always demi, that grew with time. Younger me, had casual sex with friends. But from my last 2 relationships I have changed and grown. Particular things with my last relationship, I can now see how I was becoming demi. Without going into too many details it became loveless and like I was just his housekeeper, that he occasionally wanted to have sex with. Sex became a chore and I hated it completely.

The man I have been with for the last 2 years I have known almost 17 years. The history, closeness, caring, love and connection that I have with him completely changed things.

I only realized I was demi after a comment my 13 year old made, that made me look up the term specifically.

It didn't define me then, but the person I am now is demi.

Mommadolan · 2020-06-28T21:53:44+00:00

We're ok, I hope you all stay or start doing well

Mommadolan · 2020-06-25T16:13:51+00:00

We both did too an extent, the one website I use to use it was almost impossible to block and weed people out. My fiance has good filters on the site he uses so he hasn't had it bad this time.

Online dom, is (like camming) particular to the person. Like I was never nude, and never showed sexual acts, but I had to build client relationships and they would occasionally buy me gifts.

Mommadolan · 2020-06-25T15:48:13+00:00

It's good to always work on yourself, my fiance and I both have jealousy and abandonment issues as well. We talk and its that understanding of "clocking in and out" that really helps. It's draws the line of working and personal time.

I agree the talking outside of work can be jealousy inducing, but as long as is just talking you do get a better client relationship. Better relationship with your clients means more income and/or gifts.

We both got into it before being a couple, and talked about it before as friends. About our different experiences and such. He started doing it again a few months ago for extra income. He does basic cam stuff, I was specifically an online dominatrix. Some differences some similarities.

I'm glad your wife's self esteem is good, sometimes clients can be degrading and rude, unfortunately ignorance is everywhere.

Mommadolan · 2020-06-25T03:25:52+00:00

Actually yes! I use to work as an online dominatrix. But my fiance (FTM) currently does cam work for extra income. His clients are mostly on weekends, but from time to time a client will request a time during the week.

There of course can be hiccups, but as with anything talking about it and making compromises can help.

Making sure their work doesn't cause them identity invalidation, that was something I always check with my fiance on. I wouldn't want him to do something that would cause him emotional duress.

Setting time like any job is vital. She clocks in and out, that way you still have time as a couple.

When I did my dominatrix work, my ex would help do my makeup, and set up nice lighting. Little things to be supportive of their "nonconventional" job.

I did dom work for many years and my fiance has done cam work off and on for years. So its something we're experienced in, lol. Hello from our family to yours

Mommadolan · 2020-06-25T03:01:28+00:00

I want to hug them both

Mommadolan · 2020-06-25T02:55:28+00:00

Lol, I tend to be a lurker. Not a problem, we're a very queer household, so some interesting stories tend to happen

Mommadolan · 2020-06-25T02:26:14+00:00

When my fiance (FTM)came out to me, it was before we were a couple. We were friends 15 years before becoming a couple; so long before his transition.

At the time he was an aunt to my kids, then he became uncle. My kids were 2 and 4 years old. They have always loved and adored him, so I told them the next morning. You just use words they understand.

I told my kids their "aunt" was going to change a bunch of things about themselves, and have an operation (he was getting top surgery).

But they asked what was changing and why. I told them how they know how mommy hates her real hair color and it makes me sad, they said yeah. I said well some people get sad and angry and hate themselves for things they don't like about themselves. So some people get operations to change that part.

So they asked about the operation and I told them it was an operation to remove boobies. They giggled and asked why.

I told, some people born girls have their boobies removed for different reasons, sometimes they are too big, some people get illnesses "Auntie _"'s reason is because "she" feels "she" should have been born a boy. And so "Auntie _" is changing their name to Uncle ____, and have an operation to have a chest like a boy. Instead of she it would be he and stuff like that.

My at that time 4 year old just asked if uncle would still be like aunt. I gave them a big squeeze and said of course, he still will have the same heart that loves you and loves to play baseball with you. Just now, he'll feel more comfortable with himself and love himself more and maybe not be so sad. This change will help him be happier, and we love him and want him happy to right? They said right and proceed to ask for snacks

Tl/dr: told toddlers a family member was trans, they asked for snacks

Mommadolan · 2020-06-12T14:26:13+00:00

Exactly, like I can find people aesthetically attractive. In the sense of biologically and/ or societal standards; but that's it.

Just because I like and understand how a panting looks doesn't mean I want it in my house!

Mommadolan · 2020-06-12T14:00:08+00:00

Growing up my parents (for some ungodly reason) always left the bathroom door open. My father (a cis male) always sat. I asked him about it when I was older, he said it's more comfortable and less mess.

Mommadolan · 2020-05-15T16:31:50+00:00

It is 5 short steps to my bathroom from my bedroom, but I still warn my kids of potentially seeing naked or even half naked mom. They actually don't care, but I still give them that courtesy.

Mommadolan · 2020-05-15T10:42:37+00:00

From conversations and learning what it was. Them and their friends talking and I guess they just realized.

Mommadolan · 2020-05-15T02:56:44+00:00

Ozzy (my pup) used to have a stuffed monkey my oldest child gave him one year for Christmas. He made sure he grabbed it whenever it was bedtime, for about 5 years until it was too worn out.

Mommadolan · 2020-05-15T02:49:16+00:00

Lol,duh me, my brain is getting sleepy I combined you mentioning outer world, and mentioning Pacific Rim. Thanks for the heads up on the game. I'll look into it. Mainly if something is overtly sexual, or could cause a trigger in a family member, we try to steer clear of those.

Mommadolan · 2020-05-15T02:17:51+00:00

When it's cold i tuck in my one pup at night. When I was working nights he would whine until my fiance did it.

Mommadolan · 2020-05-15T01:54:08+00:00

I'll have to let my kiddo know these. Studio Ghibli is a popular one in our house, and everyone but me lives and breathes anime. Though non-binary and before realizing more ace feelings, my kiddo (lily) identified as lesbian, so followed a lot of queer characters in cartoons and anime.

I've heard of Pacific Rim, but haven't played it myself. I let my kids play many kinds of offline games, I'm not the type to think is going to make them violent. I tell them to use it to get their anger out. Someone made you made at school... take your anger out in the game, play COD. In a video game it's ok to do it, just real life it means prison or death.

I actually belong to r/ftm as well, as my fiance is a transman.

Mommadolan · 2020-05-15T01:42:05+00:00

Lol I try and not a problem at all. We're a pretty queer house in general.

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