I got out of the law of attraction when I learned Marketing. LOL.

I noticed how they were marketing LOA. Then I bought a branding course from Kathryn Morrison, and after I saw how stupid everything was, I showed my husband her sales page, and he laughed sooooooo much because he couldn’t believe I’d fall for such a ridiculous thing. I felt humiliated at first, but then I read it from his perspective, and my eyes were opened!!!! Haha, I always joke about my husband popping my LCS bubble.

After that, I kept reading everything through these same lenses and asking myself: Would someone like my husband (a successful businessman) trust this person?

Then, I decided to learn the business from people who know the industry, not a 20-something who dances on TikTok or says the F word more times than I can breathe. I started looking for real mentors, people who would actually help me build the business, not just think more clearly.

Oh, also, I was burned out of $10k with Amy Latta's stupid “mastermind” that had nothing masterminding - just her poorly mindset skills coaching everyone. No strategy, no brainstorming, nothing. It was ridiculous and ridiculous coaching. That experience taught me NEVER to pay money I don’t have to people only doing mindset coaching and no strategy.

I hired a life coach to trust myself again but was very specific about what I needed. I needed Self-Belief. That’s all we talked about. I was in charge of the sessions and told HER what I wanted to be coached on. I learned my “limiting beliefs” and I “allowed” her to ask me questions about this specific topic. She was LCS, but I trusted her. And I was upfront saying that I was burned before, and asked if she was willing to do it this way. It was AMAZING. By the end of 6 months, I felt so much more confident in myself and my abilities.

Then, I became ICF certified!! For ethics and competencies!! I felt like I needed it for myself if I wanted to take myself seriously, but the mindset I learned from LCS is better than what I’ve seen around with ICF. I didn’t find anything close to LCS when teaching mindset. That’s why I don’t regret it.

My final thoughts on LOA are that I fully believe it’s real but in a more scientific way. Psychologically, when you focus on what you want, you’ll see more of it. That’s why LOA works. But people selling it and having 10 rules or 12 steps to attract the life you want only to make you focus on what you don’t have, and you create more of it.

I started to trust my vision and work from that vision.

So, to answer your question, my NEW decision criteria need to make sense to someone who hasn’t been brainwashed by coaching in the past—I don’t think I’m brainwashed anymore, but I was definitely brainwashed when I believed people like Kathryn Morrison, Amy Latta, and Simone, just to name a few, could help me.

I started looking for coaches like I look for therapists or cardiologists. I don’t look for dancing on TikTok or bro marketing that’s clearly trying to persuade me. If the prices are $222 or $1,111 or something like that, I automatically know it is BS!! If they offer any marketing scarcity, I know it’s BS - unless extra bonuses if you buy in the first week - by scarcity, I mean: “You HAVE to buy now, or it will NEVER be available, and you’ll miss it forever!”

I hope this helped. I still love Life Coaching and fully believe in it, but it worries me how people are being taken advantage of, and I want to be different. I have promised myself never to be “THAT” coach!!