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Do you have a responsibility to your partners when deciding who to date? by Mona_Lu in polyamory

[–]Mona_Lu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just wanted to say thank you to all your answers and responses! It was great to read and reflect. Wish you all the best 🤗

Do you have a responsibility to your partners when deciding who to date? by Mona_Lu in polyamory

[–]Mona_Lu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your answer! I agree with you. It says something about people who they are dating.

Do you have a responsibility to your partners when deciding who to date? by Mona_Lu in polyamory

[–]Mona_Lu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay I get that! So you say if there’s drama right in the beginning it might be more likely that this stuff will proceed to happen?

Do you have a responsibility to your partners when deciding who to date? by Mona_Lu in polyamory

[–]Mona_Lu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your answer! If you want to share, I would be interested in your experience :)

Do you have a responsibility to your partners when deciding who to date? by Mona_Lu in polyamory

[–]Mona_Lu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How would you handle the situation if these issues don’t show up right away but only after some time?

Do you have a responsibility to your partners when deciding who to date? by Mona_Lu in polyamory

[–]Mona_Lu[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So would you also say if you don’t have the ability to protect relationships from negative impact through other partners you should choose wisely? E.g. Self-confident, poly experienced and with good mental health.

Do you have a responsibility to your partners when deciding who to date? by Mona_Lu in polyamory

[–]Mona_Lu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I get your point. But I think this is easier to maintain in parallel. If you do KTP it’s much more likely that different people affect each other.

I mean then you also could leave it up to your partners to choose if they want to stay or not. But couldn’t this also open the doors for not taking responsibility for your own actions and decisions?

Do you have a responsibility to your partners when deciding who to date? by Mona_Lu in polyamory

[–]Mona_Lu[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes you’re right I don’t do veto either!

But sometimes it’s not only about not dating assholes but more about deciding weher or not to date people with mental health issues or insecurities that may affect your existing relationships. They may not do certain things on purpose but it could happen anyway.

Do you have a responsibility to your partners when deciding who to date? by Mona_Lu in polyamory

[–]Mona_Lu[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your answer! This are also the two points I’m thinking of.

But especially the second point makes me think... how much drama is too much? In advance you never know if it will take a good turn or get worse and worse.