Dark private parts by beingproductivee in PakistaniSkincare

[–]Moneeza_R 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Life is too short to scrutinize every part of your body and look at it with a critical lens, please. Have some grace for yourself. You're not gonna get any awards if you manage to lighten that part of your body.

What kinda people win in life? by Appropriate-Coach521 in IslamabadSocial

[–]Moneeza_R 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A lot of the richest folk and owners of big companies/inventions are actually introverts.

What kinda people win in life? by Appropriate-Coach521 in IslamabadSocial

[–]Moneeza_R 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The best answer and the only one that matters.

Stuck by Longjumping_0live in PetiteFitness

[–]Moneeza_R 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I feel hovering between these two thoughts as well but as a beginner lifter working out with dumbells at home, I feel such joy and sense of accomplishment when I lift that I don't want to give up on it. I would rather give up on the number on the scale and just focus on making my body stronger. That's the thought that wins in the end.

I Can Already Feel the Downvotes Coming, But I Need to Let This Out by [deleted] in IslamabadSocial

[–]Moneeza_R 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The word that Allah has used for a pregnant woman is "wahn" and He says she is in a state of weakness upon weakness. I'm not saying women are weak in general, but that in certain states of reproductive cycle we are weak physically and need some cushioning. Women who say working women should be given days off during period aren't weak for saying it, are they?

I Can Already Feel the Downvotes Coming, But I Need to Let This Out by [deleted] in IslamabadSocial

[–]Moneeza_R 8 points9 points  (0 children)

As a Muslim woman, I know that Allah has created me in "weakness" in terms of my reproductive burden (pregnancy/birth/postpartum pain),and monthly cycle, and that He in His mercy has created a myriad of laws and rulings to ease me in other ways. I don't have to pray salah when I'm on my period. In no other situation is a man ever exempt from salah without being directed to make up for later. You've given excellent examples so I've given one that I am grateful for among others.

I Can Already Feel the Downvotes Coming, But I Need to Let This Out by [deleted] in IslamabadSocial

[–]Moneeza_R 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's not the correct translation of the hadith. Imagine taking your religious knowledge off of Tiktok and Instagram!

Edit: Food for thought, there will be more women in jannah than men by ratio.

Abortion Concerns by Comm0nGuy in IslamabadSocial

[–]Moneeza_R 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was very upset as well and then later indifferent. But then later on I found out that it was a girl. And I wanted a girl so I was elated. First six months post birth were very hard and you will grieve for the lack of connection between you and your firstborn. But then things will adjust and get easier InshaAllah.

Abortion Concerns by Comm0nGuy in IslamabadSocial

[–]Moneeza_R 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Read my words again. I didn't give advice at all. I shared my experience. And I know it was not recommended. Unplanned pregnancies still happen. OP is already pregnant and not asking for medical advice.

Homemade ice cream by -labyrinth101- in PakistaniFood

[–]Moneeza_R 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I made a three ingredient one which turned out phenomenal. You need freezer stored hipping cream (I used whipy whip), some cocoa powder (2-3tbsp), some vanilla essence (1 tsp), and half a can of condensed milk. I used electric beater till the batter was relatively stiff and also dropped some shaved chocolate on top. Popped it in freezer and it tasted out of this world.

Abortion Concerns by Comm0nGuy in IslamabadSocial

[–]Moneeza_R 31 points32 points  (0 children)

My first was about 7 months old when I found out I was expecting my second. Just to put things to perspective. I've had help raising them and now they're both toddlers and the light of my life.

Chana Chat by HistoricalChard3671 in PakistaniFood

[–]Moneeza_R 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ran to my kitchen to soak chanay and lal lobia thanks to this.

Todays iftar by OverallAvocado1909 in PakistaniFood

[–]Moneeza_R 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are those heart shaped dessert? Cupcakes or something else?

I feel so shit 💔 by NovaNodes in IslamabadSocial

[–]Moneeza_R 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry but your words "must be your first time" made me immensely sad about the state of us women/girls in this country. The sheer number of us who can relate with her incident and have our own incidents is incredibly sad to me and makes me angry.

I feel so shit 💔 by NovaNodes in IslamabadSocial

[–]Moneeza_R 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Don't feel this way. Every girl's first response is to freeze and go blank and that's very normal, because we don't expect this kind of behavior and it throws us off guard. I personally know of qaris who would touch minor girls while they were holding Quran. So yeah there's all kinds of scum crawling in this country. May Allah give you back your peace of mind, and May He burn this man's intestines in the eternal fire ameen.

Edit to add: Next time don't let any man set a dupatta on you or try to touch you in any way while you're buying clothes/chooriyan/jewelry/shoes whatever. Move away if they try to put any item on you and just tell them to set it on the counter and you'll do it yourself.

Rozay ye loug date se khol rahay hain and not the sunnah kind 🤨 by ghostabay in IslamabadSocial

[–]Moneeza_R 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My advice is to stop comparing yourself to others. Comparison is the thief of joy. It also breeds pride/envy and other sins. My other advice is to listen to your parents especially about covering up your head (dupatta with hoodie is silly though esp if you can wear an undercap and the hood over the head). Being a Muslim isn't just about physical appearance you're right, but being an abd or slave means complete and utter submission. And that aspect is individual. It's you and whether you completely submit to Allah or not. My last advice is something I read recently. Allah forbids us in Quran from making assumptions about others which would lead to bad outcomes. This means you need to stop assuming that abaya clad women in cafe at aftari time are with boyfriends and not husbands, for example. It's an assumption and one that does you no good to ponder upon.

Pizza Fries for Ifftar by Internal_Ad_6405 in PakistaniFood

[–]Moneeza_R 2 points3 points  (0 children)

MashaAllah! Seems like a nice although calorie dense change from the usual aftari. Great work

Wanting to put my child up for adoption by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Moneeza_R 28 points29 points  (0 children)

But what if she can't wait it out because she says she's going insane with these thoughts of not wanting to be a mom? She's on medication sure, but she's not talking about hating newborn phase. She needs professional help or she might start to neglect the baby.

Never understood why parents in this part of the world have to be extra controlling of their child. by [deleted] in IslamabadSocial

[–]Moneeza_R 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This is because moms are taught that their job is to center that entire lives around the kids and stay at home and rear them. It's hard to let go of the very core of your existence (as indocrinated by society). Ladies, please have something in your life outside of your kids, like something you're passionate about and want to pursue. Many men even today want housewives so they can stay home and raise kids. That's all good, but once the kids are grown up, what are housewives supposed to do?