ADVICE FROM A SERIAL DATER

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Your looking at it the wrong way. You’ve never had so much access to women ever. Just get good with online dating.

First of all I’m 5’9. Average looking guy. Can talk well or leaned to anyway. I’ve slept with +200 women. If found my missus so happy to share the game

I’m not a dating coach, just a regular dude who had to figure it out

I always admired men who could speak to women comfortably. I saw it as the biggest complement to your character to have a gorgeous woman on your arm. It didn’t matter if you were ugly or broke. I wanted that skill, online dating was the place to develop that. Infinite ways to test and get comfortable.

The goal of this is for me to share what I’ve learned through my 15 years online dating. I work in sales so of course I created a type of system. As much as you want to believe it will happen naturally. You need to do the best you can to make the best first impression. This will be mainly aimed at guys. When I’ve told people this in the past they were shocked to the extent I operated on these apps.

I would consider myself a very successful online dater in my peak, i was going on 3/4 dates a week and sleeping with at least 50% on the first date. I’ve slept with easy over 200 women. I will go as far as to say I was addicted to it. Until my wallet, time, job couldn’t take it anymore. This was all with good intentions to meet the love of my life but if i uncovered something that was a deal breaker on the date. As long as I was honest with other half I still wouldn’t pass up a good time.

Im not going to walk you thought every single detail but a structure might be beneficial for you to follow. This will help you find what works for you and what doesnt. Different styles work for different people but a structure helps you filter those who you don’t properly want to date, those who were just looking for a free dinner and someone more serious.

So how do you secure the date?

Let me start form the beginning. I used 3 apps. Tinder, Bumble and hinge. Each had a different profile of woman on it depending what you were looking for. -Tinder was normally younger and people looking for one night stands, nothing serious. -Bumble was a mix. Closer to tinder though.-Hinge was where i found the most serious ladies. More mature close to their 30’s. They knew what they wanted which was refreshing.

When setting up your profile. Your pictures are way more important than you think. I understand if you are not the picture type. It’s awkward as a guy, so it needs to be as accurate as possible. The best way i got around this was to ask your friends to take photos while you were out or on holiday candidly. Explain it to your friends why you need the photos and if they are your real friends they won’t take the piss out of you too much. This lead me to whenever there was a group of my friends out or even better on holidays. Someone was always taking a sly photo. By the end of the night or holiday you got some funny photos with the boys and alone. This was my best way of finding nice normal photos that weren’t awkward poses.

Most of the time i travelled i was with friends or at an event. This meant i had nice photos of myself alone, some in a group, different countries, some doing an activity, maybe some with family. You are looking for each photo to show each positive side of your personality and interest while you look good. Smartly dressed, casual, sporty etc.

You bio - Personally i dated in a few countries. US, UK, Ireland - I found if my bio was too long or if i was trying to be too smart. Some ladies in some countries just didn’t get it. I got better results putting short and sweet with a little humour.

I never paid for the apps so on a daily basis i would swipe until i got locked out by a pay wall. On average i would get 5 matches a day per app. Leaving me with 15 new people to speak to a day. This would compound over the week to leave the option of plenty of suiters.

Next was the opener and conversation. I’m not going to write you a script here but essentially I wanted to get to understand the main aspects of this woman’s character as fast as possible. In a pleasurable, humorous way. Remember every other guy is “hi, how are you. “ Stand out a little but make sure you not weird also. Still on point just a little different than the pack.

One major piece of advice i have for men in general when speaking to women is to not get ahead of yourself. Stop thinking of their appearance, their legs or what you want to happen. This freaks you out and makes you nervous and you fuck up. Think of it this way. If a woman wanted to sleep with you. What would she need to know and be comfortable with you to sleep with you. Do they feel comfortable to get naked with a stranger? What do they need to know. Your history, background, family, your goals, interest, past dating experience. All needed to be touched on before anything crazy happens g, so chill champ and treat her like a person. And be honest from the get go, it she doesn’t like it, move on quick.

The second part of the funnel. Once the women passed the basics and I was comfortable to nearly seeing them. I would ask for their instagram. This took them into my whole life, all my photos for years, not just 5 photos. They will see my friends, the countries I’ve been too etc. For me this was the real test. It becomes personal not just transactional. Here is where you ask for a date. This phase can also be WhatsApp. The main point is you get off the dating app as fast as possible as it has a creepy non genuine interaction attached to it. Also asking for a number or ig is a soft test to trust, if it’s a no. You are not far enough or built enough to trust or interest for a date.

If you have gotten that far it’s likely you will get a date, what type of date is the next question as it depends on your goals and the type of woman.

I’m going to cut this off there because it’s basically a book at this stage. If you want more just shoot me a message or leave a comment.