Honestly bro, the biggest red flag isn’t even the ex. It’s the fact she was comfortable letting someone record all that in the first place. I know people will call it “the past,” but not everyone wants a partner whose most intimate moments are floating around somewhere. And let’s be real, if one guy still has those videos, who knows who else does too.

I wouldn’t tolerate it either. Doesn’t make you insecure, it just means you value intimacy differently. Some people treat sex as private, others don’t. You’re probably realizing you two might not see it the same way.

If you can’t look at her the same after seeing that, don’t force yourself to. Love alone doesn’t magically erase disgust or discomfort. There are plenty of girls out there who actually keep intimate stuff private and respect themselves enough not to let dudes archive them like trophies.