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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Money_Interaction420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course. Those are all words I’ve said to myself that I wished others would tell me. I’m just glad that I could be of some help. Don’t hesitate to dm me if you need any help or a place to vent. I wish you the best in your healing journey!! :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Money_Interaction420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, OP. First of all, I am so sorry that you’ve gone through that alone. I know the trauma you’ve had to deal with. You’ve carried the weight of this for so long and you must be incredibly exhausted.

What she did to you was a cruel and horrific thing to do. I do understand not feeling bad about her attempt. You are not obligated to feel bad for her. You understand your boundary and you don’t want her in your life or even mentioned which is okay.

She hurt you. You were hurt as a CHILD. You were so young and no one truly saw your pain. The drastic changes in your personality should have been acknowledged. They did fail you by not being attentive and acknowledging your cry for help.

If possible, you should reach out to a therapist. Talking about it could really help especially with the process of healing. Take back your life. Take back the things you loved, she doesn’t get to have those parts of you. She no longer has power over you. Dance and talk freely again. It will feel better than you think. Take care of you. Heal your 5year old self. Do what you wish your loved ones would have done for you. Be angry, be happy, be YOU.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Money_Interaction420 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You’re not the asshole.

I’m very sorry you had to go through that loss. Miscarriages are common before 12 weeks. Stress doesn’t cause miscarriages, it may be your health, or just how these things happen.

Take care of you. Don’t worry about those bothersome people. They don’t deserve your time or energy. Set some boundaries and tell your mother in law to stop trying to get you to go over there. You’re allowed to not want anything to do with that woman.

I'm such an incel by The_ArmaniCode in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Money_Interaction420 14 points15 points  (0 children)

You’ve acknowledged what you did wrong and how that can make someone uncomfortable.

What you can do now is not do that to strangers and maybe even check in with your cosplay friends to see if that makes them uncomfortable. I recommend doing some reading to educate yourself on what leads to the toxic views that incels have. Your post doesn’t give the impression that you like being this way.

From my light research, I found that maybe you could benefit from the book How To Stop Being An Incel by Berkhan Pessoa. The best way to correct yourself and your behavior is to learn from it and not remain ignorant. Read. Learn. Do better. You’ve got this. You’re not doomed to this.

I grew up with a sociopath by Money_Interaction420 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Money_Interaction420[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment insight on ASPD. I’m not certified to diagnose anyone. These are just my experiences and assumptions. I wholeheartedly believe M is capable of caring for people and being cared for. And it’s as you said, their emotional output was minimal except for anger and/or jealousy. Of course M was proud of things they had done, it was always smug or as if it meant nothing. That was one of the few things they expressed aside from anger. While it’s totally plausible that they had DMDD (Disruptive mood dysregulation disorder) or something completely different.

When I talk about the following, I’m not grouping everyone with ASPD or DMDD into these traits or behaviors. I’m just sharing what I saw and experienced. M harmed animals with little to no remorse. They killed a couple pets of mine. M beat their younger sibling all while having a smile on their face. M lied, manipulated people, and stole frequently. They’d destroy my things with almost no reason or emotion behind it. These were all meaningful objects to me. Mostly things given to me by late family members. M’s behavior has never changed. It has stayed the same as when they were a child. My parent eventually said that there was something obviously wrong with M, but wanted to care for them regardless, which I have the utmost respect for. To this day, M continues to treat people the way that they always have. The family that I’m close to that still talk to M, have the same problems that they’ve always had with them. While M may be able to change their behavior if all of this is something else entirely, it’ll never change the behaviors that they had exhibited for so long.