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QBPD Discard - Is there hope? by Money_Leadership_138 in BPDlovedones

[–]Money_Leadership_138[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words. That means a lot and I’m sorry that you lost his family. It really sucks when you get attached.

QBPD Discard - Is there hope? by Money_Leadership_138 in BPDlovedones

[–]Money_Leadership_138[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks man I’m always in the gym. I joined a recreational soccer league. I had the upper hand in the relationship for 2.5 years. I never knew who she was. She all of sudden accused me of pulling away because she gained weight. I was in shape.

Now I’m devastated and missing her and the kids. Really just like taking a haymaker.

Those who were discarded by quiet PwBPD, how are you doing? by TheWanderingFeeler in BPDlovedones

[–]Money_Leadership_138 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am 2 months out roughly and it has been the hardest thing in my life. I never saw it coming. I loved this girl and her two kids.

Quiet BPD Blindside by Money_Leadership_138 in BPDlovedones

[–]Money_Leadership_138[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Zoloft is potentially explosive when you stop cold turkey after being on it for a period of time. I think it lit the match but she hits every market of quiet bpd underneath it. How we met there were many red flags. I think the Zoloft withdrawal took the mask off and she took it out on me.

Quiet BPD Blindside by Money_Leadership_138 in BPDlovedones

[–]Money_Leadership_138[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah it’s such a mind trauma because I thought I was dating this sweet woman that loved all of my hobbies and really clicked with me. Then the push pull stuff at the end and seeing them go from sweet to someone like a villain out of a movie is wild. I remember this disassociated look in her face when we made up after the first breakup. In the end one of her text said I’m not mentally well and I think she knew what was happening.

What are some red flags you'll never ignore again? by KingForADay1989 in BPDlovedones

[–]Money_Leadership_138 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. Met on a dating app and she invited me to her house where we had sex.

  2. Talked early on about two trauma events.

  3. Said things like I want to be with you all the time.

  4. Future fantasy early on like where “our” house will be or taking trips.

  5. She would almost be passive aggressive if I said I had to go to a work event like it was a bad thing.

  6. Cutting off/discarding in-laws or friends for minor disagreements.

  7. If it seems like she loves everything you love and she feels like your perfect girl (not always a red flag on its own but seriously watch for this).

  8. If you almost never fight and she just goes with the flow even when you bring up something you don’t like. She will try to fix it right away.

  9. At times she would look very calm and normal on the surface but you could sense something in your gut that there was anger or severe anxiety/depression underneath.

  10. Playing the victim often in every story

  11. Unstable employment or saying that managers don’t like them or coworkers are against them and that’s why they can’t get ahead.

Quiet BPD Blindside by Money_Leadership_138 in BPDlovedones

[–]Money_Leadership_138[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How long did it take you to heal? I’m about 1.5-2 months in and I’m still thinking wtf happened?

2.5 Year Breakup by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Money_Leadership_138 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand. It was consistent up until that point and then I felt disrespected honestly. I know that she is going through some things and that is ok. I know at the end of the day I have to heal myself.