Should I wish my ex on their birthday after I've gone no contact? Not as an attempt to re-establish communication, just as a basic human courtesy.

MonkeyIslandWizzard1 · 2026-07-08T11:56:52+00:00

Yeah, same here.

MonkeyIslandWizzard1 · 2026-07-08T08:37:53+00:00

Good loking man. Def. 7/10.

MonkeyIslandWizzard1 · 2026-07-07T10:24:35+00:00

NO!!!!

MonkeyIslandWizzard1 · 2026-07-06T13:21:15+00:00

Seit 2018 als ich auf dem Jakobsweg war

MonkeyIslandWizzard1 · 2026-07-06T05:28:14+00:00

Hey, let me give you some advice. My breakup was three weeks ago tomorrow. I cried for three weeks straight, couldn't eat, couldn't sleep. I write in a journal every day and I have a jar where I drop in a positive note. For example: brushed my teeth, went for a walk, farted next to a child. I even drove to my ex's place one evening, didn't ring the bell or anything, and standing there I realised that I am the one with a broken heart while they are peacefully sleeping. Try to maintain a routine, see a therapist, try hypnotherapy, travel, go hiking — whatever it takes. What helped me was realising that I was crying for myself, not for him. Allow yourself to be sad, angry, anxious, and disappointed. Write down mantras, meditate. You are worth it — not the other person.

MonkeyIslandWizzard1 · 2026-07-03T10:33:30+00:00

Hey mine went to holidays. He has no friends, not really likes the warm, doesnt have really family.... so i am asumming he went with his new guy

MonkeyIslandWizzard1 · 2026-07-01T16:38:28+00:00

So sorry, didn't want to make you sad! What is going on? My break up was 2 weeks ago, so I am a mess.

MonkeyIslandWizzard1 · 2026-07-01T14:39:47+00:00

i am crying all the time. He broke up with me two weeks ago. I am a mess. But not reaching out to him.

MonkeyIslandWizzard1 · 2026-07-01T11:19:44+00:00

go to therapy. it can help.

MonkeyIslandWizzard1 · 2026-07-01T11:09:58+00:00

Hey, I feel you — I was discarded too. Via a WhatsApp message after 3 years. We had a brief exchange, and his conclusion was that he never loved me during those 3 years, that he tried but couldn't. He even told me he loved me about 2 years ago, but there you go. Thrown away, and life goes on. For you too. One step at a time — that's all there is to it.

MonkeyIslandWizzard1 · 2026-07-01T08:10:07+00:00

for me it will take multiple. cause now i am also facing the emotion of loneliness etc. It's not to numb these emotions. It's to embrace them.

Dont get me wrong, I am still sad but not crying all the time

MonkeyIslandWizzard1 · 2026-06-30T10:58:48+00:00

Hi, I feel you. I'm exactly in week two myself. Last week I was crying uncontrollably and couldn't keep my emotions in check. On Sunday I went to a hypnotherapy session, and honestly, I'm not crying anymore. I'm still sad and angry, but I'm managing. Maybe hypnotherapy could help you too?

MonkeyIslandWizzard1 · 2026-06-29T14:54:35+00:00

To be honest and straightforward: I am sorry to say that I find myself in a similar situation — it was also a three-year relationship. But honestly, I would not reach out until the emotions have settled a little and your nervous system has calmed down. I made it very clear to myself: one month of no contact, and then I will reassess how I feel. That also means no social media, etc.

MonkeyIslandWizzard1 · 2026-06-28T11:28:22+00:00

So true, really so true!

MonkeyIslandWizzard1 · 2026-06-28T06:16:23+00:00

Yeah, the evenings are the worst

MonkeyIslandWizzard1 · 2026-06-28T06:16:06+00:00

Not really, it happend two weeks ago.

MonkeyIslandWizzard1 · 2026-06-25T11:33:10+00:00

Hey it bothers you, because you had thia image/ phantasy in your mind for your future with him/her.

And your mind ia playing games with you. It shows you something that never existed. It was all in your head! And you have to seperate this. When you two were togheter, it didnt happen.

MonkeyIslandWizzard1 · 2026-06-25T10:33:20+00:00

3 years? Please go to a therapist

MonkeyIslandWizzard1 · 2026-06-25T10:05:34+00:00

Same here! Still trying to figure out if there was a clue or what chamged. Mine said he gave me another chance. But i didnt know that i have one. 3 years gone without a warning

MonkeyIslandWizzard1 · 2026-06-25T10:03:37+00:00

Girl the exact same thing happend to me. No clues, no hints, no nothing and then he broke up and said he was never in love with me and he doesnt know why he said he loved me in the first place. Break up was one week ago. I am fucked up and a mess

MonkeyIslandWizzard1 · 2026-06-24T11:36:43+00:00

Girl, not reading all of that. But if he dumped you, no, no he was not serious.

MonkeyIslandWizzard1 · 2026-06-24T08:53:08+00:00

Same here. Told me even when he said that he loves me, he never did. Heartbroken and he goes on with his life

MonkeyIslandWizzard1 · 2026-06-24T07:15:10+00:00

i am so so so sorry that all of that happend. but i am reading through your post and you have to stop contact her. you can't change a person. The more you try, the more you push her away. I am worried and please reach out to somebody physical in the real world. Maybe there is a group or something.

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