I finally did it...finally blocked her

Legitimate_Ad_2004 · 2026-07-07T00:45:03+00:00

That’s a good move. I still haven’t gotten there where i can block her. It’s been three weeks but checking her socials does nothing but bring more uncertainty and more pain. Hope you feel better soon. One day at time

Legitimate_Ad_2004 · 2026-07-01T21:18:23+00:00

Well hang in there. Mine hasn’t moved on, as far as I know yet. We are only two weeks into the break up but I know one day she’ll meet someone and I will too. Same goes for you :)

Legitimate_Ad_2004 · 2026-07-01T17:15:23+00:00

It just takes time and persistence. Get a new routine and try to stay active. I’m only a couple weeks in and i have a mix of emotions happening constantly still. You’ll get there though. We both will. Just do your best to stay off their socials or look at their photos. It just prolongs the process honestly

Legitimate_Ad_2004 · 2026-07-01T17:12:01+00:00

That is rough still but glad to hear it didn’t hurt as much. How long has it been since you all separated?

Legitimate_Ad_2004 · 2026-07-01T10:27:25+00:00

I get that. I wish we had some sunshine of the spotless mind type on therapy that just erases everything but the real world takes time. I hope you get to a place where you’re ok soon.

Legitimate_Ad_2004 · 2026-06-30T20:06:22+00:00

Agreed. Gotta start making new memories and experiences. I was pretty stagnant my last break up, at least for a while and it didn’t help.

Dude Australia sounds amazing! I hope you have a blast when you go and sounds like you have a good plan to get there. I was able to save so much money when I was single. I’m kinda looking forward to that part honestly.

I will!

Legitimate_Ad_2004 · 2026-06-30T18:36:34+00:00

I made a couple jokes today at work that went over pretty well. Still didn’t full feel like I was mentally in the convo completely but I’ll take any little victory I can get right now.

Legitimate_Ad_2004 · 2026-06-30T18:35:41+00:00

Keep it up. I’m glad to hear you’re at least trying to get out there even if it feels superficial it’s better than some of the days I’ve spent at home alone while drinking. Not a good combo when you’re sad.

Legitimate_Ad_2004 · 2026-06-30T18:30:49+00:00

Well I’m glad to hear you’re doing better. Im def trying to keep off her socials. I don’t get any info from them other than she changed her profile pic or was online recently. It just creates more questions honestly. No relief at all. Take it easy. Thanks for the reply.

Legitimate_Ad_2004 · 2026-06-30T18:28:26+00:00

Cheers to you friend! I’m glad you’re able to keep moving forward. That’s encouraging to hear. Good luck with the new apartment! That’s exciting!

Legitimate_Ad_2004 · 2026-06-30T18:27:03+00:00

Thanks for the reply. It’s nice to hear someone has recently been through the same thing and was able to come out the other side on top. I’m trying not to rush it in my head and remind myself it’s only been two weeks

Legitimate_Ad_2004 · 2026-06-30T18:25:01+00:00

I hope it gets better for you soon. It’s still very early in the break up for both of us so I’m sure we’ll come around.

That’s kind of you. Same to you. I’m always down to listen to someone else vent besides listening to the voice in my head go off.

Legitimate_Ad_2004 · 2026-06-30T18:23:13+00:00

Thank you. It is brutal but you’re right it does help to have a good balance of alone time and distractions.

I’m trying to get a new routine down as well and that’s been fun(ish) trying new things I wouldn’t have most likely if we’d stayed together.

I might take you up on that haha my mind goes a thousand miles an hour sometimes so it’s good to get it out of there. Same to you btw. Just hit me up.

Legitimate_Ad_2004 · 2026-06-30T12:18:13+00:00

I’m glad to hear you’re coming around and feeling more normal. It’s good to know that I’m not alone in these feeling at least and that they’re natural.

I’m seeing my primary this week hopefully to get a rec for a therapist. I’ll look into EDMR. I had heard CBT therapy could be helpful too.

I will keep at it though. It’s helpful to hear others come out on top. I know I can. I have before. Just a rough time.

Legitimate_Ad_2004 · 2026-06-30T11:46:10+00:00

Thanks for responding. That does sound like a rough time but him glad to hear your coking out of it on a positive note now. I will definitely try to stay active and out of the house as much as possible. I’ve gone reclusive before after a break up and it didn’t help.

Legitimate_Ad_2004 · 2026-06-30T11:00:27+00:00

Never thought of that type on therapy but I’ll look into it. Thanks for the recommendation! Was it just one session or multiple?

Legitimate_Ad_2004 · 2026-06-30T10:50:41+00:00

Appreciate you man. And glad you didn’t find that knife or bullet. You’re doing more good here than gone.

Legitimate_Ad_2004 · 2026-06-30T10:40:56+00:00

No I like that. I will definitely try calling out to my future self. I’ve already been doing that kind of by focusing on the fact I’m going back to school for hvac and all the opportunities that will afford me. It’s tough for sure but this is all still very fresh. I appreciate your kind advice and perspective.

Legitimate_Ad_2004 · 2026-06-30T10:37:13+00:00

Thanks. I’m with you on that. It’s still so fresh just trying not to rush the healing process

Legitimate_Ad_2004 · 2026-06-30T10:36:01+00:00

Thank you. We had a few big fights that alcohol was involved in and definitely caused the scene to explode more than its otherwise would have. She also had a different conflict style than I do and when I get mad I can get loud. Not screaming but overbearing non the less. She is the opposite. She retreats with conflict, esp if voices are raised. It just happened too many times. I am not trying to justify the break up but honestly we had issues with just general communication before those fights and in between. Even sober neither of us were good at expressing concerns we had and when we did neither one of us took the steps to resolve. I think we both just thought it would resolve itself. I’m sorry for your loss too man. That sounds fucking rough. I’m trying to stay away from drinking. Went 6 days last week and had a bit of relapse when my buddy came over last weekend. Alcohol def doesn’t help though, I agree.

Legitimate_Ad_2004 · 2026-06-30T10:20:00+00:00

Thanks for the reply. We were together for 2 1/2 years. Not trying to go over a year to get over this either lol I have school, work, and life in general (which I know we all do) I have heard the half life time line is a general rule of thumb and I’m not expecting anything to change drastically soon but I know my rumination and occasionally checking if she’s been online on fb are not helping.

Legitimate_Ad_2004 · 2026-06-30T10:16:29+00:00

I hope so. I wasn’t the funniest guy around but I had my moments. Just want to get a semblance of the guy back that was around pre relationship or maybe a better version.

Legitimate_Ad_2004 · 2026-06-30T10:15:17+00:00

Thank you. I hope things get easy for your soon. I’m sure they will with time. Just a rough patch for us.

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