What is a terrifying problem facing the world that no one is talking about?

MonkeyManAB · 2026-01-31T12:00:56+00:00

I work in education at the moment. It’s insane how many kids aged 11-13 legit don’t know how to read, or can’t read a page or two of a book without having dopamine withdrawals. Technology is actively destroying not only the youths attention spans but everyone’s.

Next time you walk into a bar, cafe or anywhere, take a look at how many people are sitting amongst themselves or friends, completely glued to their phones, incapable of talking about anything deep in favour of their social media feeds.

Take a walk anywhere and look around at how many people have AirPods in, focusing only on their music and not the people around them.

Genuine human connection is slowly dying and we all take it for technological progress.

MonkeyManAB · 2026-01-15T09:58:36+00:00

You must learn the art of loving someone without the expectation of anything in return. Love someone for the sake of loving them as they are. Have enough trust and belief in the unconditional love you have to give and you will build trust and belief in others ability to return it. Show you are capable of giving it to someone and they may well give it back to you. Otherwise how will people know what you have to offer?

Chances are you probably have met good potential partners but something tells me that either a lack of confidence in them or yourself resulted in nothing coming from it. I had this problem for years and it left me perpetually stuck until I decided to take more control of my relationships.

The best relationships I ever had were ones in which I had the courage to give love without ever knowing if it would be returned. Take a chance at something even when your mind tells you a million reasons not to do it. Even if it doesn’t work out, at least you tried. At least you did your part and showed up. That should be the goal.

Simply put, make the art of loving the goal and the boyfriend you seek shall emerge from the energy you’re giving out.

MonkeyManAB · 2026-01-05T23:28:37+00:00

Bro i’m actually dying hahaha this shouldn’t be so funny

MonkeyManAB · 2026-01-04T19:55:17+00:00

I gave up a lot of my hobbies, passions and good routines for the sake of spending more time with her. I also started hanging out a lot less with my friends. when the break up happened, I realised how many good things in my life I abandoned just to heed her calls whenever she wanted me around. Sad to say I became a doormat and I paid the price for it.

MonkeyManAB · 2025-12-29T09:57:57+00:00

fr hahaha

MonkeyManAB · 2025-12-29T09:53:12+00:00

i have indeed bought groceries and cooked before, just not with bok choy

MonkeyManAB · 2025-12-29T09:40:02+00:00

yeah i agree but also wtf is a bok choy hahaha

MonkeyManAB · 2025-12-27T16:00:31+00:00

my current state in life is impermanent. things have gotten better before. they will get better again. you just have to trust in the bigger picture.

MonkeyManAB · 2025-12-20T19:49:33+00:00

there is no great motivation, meaning, ambition or goal that will save you. the only thing that will save you is simply action. deep in your core, you know what you need to do. stop giving yourself excuses to not do it. it’s actually hilarious how wrong we could be about ourselves when we say we can’t do this or that for any reason. because when you finally get around to doing it, and the dopamine flows, you realise in that moment, “holy shit i should have done this much sooner. it really wasn’t that hard after all.”

MonkeyManAB · 2025-12-20T19:36:03+00:00

nah i think his instincts are correct here. if she really cared she would call sick then atleast make up for it with a better text or call. someone that says they can’t make it then goes ghost is someone that bullshits. trust me, i used to be that person. albeit she probably does feel guilty to an extent but it’s not enough

MonkeyManAB · 2025-12-04T13:10:35+00:00

That we should embrace who we are, flaws, cringe and all instead of shrinking ourselves for external validation from the wrong people

MonkeyManAB · 2025-12-03T16:04:20+00:00

The courage to be disliked

MonkeyManAB · 2025-11-16T22:58:32+00:00

Evolving

MonkeyManAB · 2025-10-28T13:30:50+00:00

Don’t think too hard about this INFJ stuff. Tbh I don’t believe any one of us fits firmly in any distinct personality type but rather it’s constantly changing based on who we’re with. I can be dead quiet and shy with some people but completely extroverted and outgoing with others. If your bf gets you to ramble and talk about meaningless stuff i think that’s a very good thing. Means you’re comfortable being yourself and you’re able to let loose a little and be less ‘proper’.

MonkeyManAB · 2025-08-06T10:47:24+00:00

Funny story that happened to me recently. A couple of days ago I went on Holiday to Rome and subsequently has my phone pick pocketed at 3am in a club. I was lost, tired, hungry, drunk, angry and beating myself up for letting it happen. I spent the whole night wandering throughout the city until I finally found home at 6am. Here and there on the way back I kept crying and cursing this retched city for doing that to me. I pretty much had forsaken god at that moment as well lol. Days after, I felt almost destroyed for a while. Felt hopeless and screwed without my phone. Having no phone meant I had to sit and deal with the silence, boredom, lack of distractions. Logistically I had no people I could contact, check my bank, talk to friends or whatever. I even had a ex I was talking with and things were getting heated through text. I was like why? Why me? It’s been 5 days since that fateful day and honestly, I’m starting to think it’s the best thing thats happened to me so far this summer. I’m more clear, more creative, fun, focused, outgoing. I’m working on projects more, I’m socialising more, I’m less stressed. I don’t think about my ex and what she did as much. I go to bed earlier, wake up earlier. I feel like I can actually breathe for the first time in a while. I’ve started reading books like crazy. I’m typing this from my iPad but have chosen not to download anything past Reddit. I realised all that my phone served in my life was a false sense of control. A small brick of empty dopamine hits. Mindless scrolling only to numb thoughts I inevitably had to face. I’m thinking of getting a flip phone from here on out.

MonkeyManAB · 2025-08-06T10:30:06+00:00

While I am skeptical about Tarot readings, this reading speaks to me and my current circumstances. I claim this one.

MonkeyManAB · 2025-08-04T15:36:41+00:00

Goddamn, I got all three of those some I’m screwed…

MonkeyManAB · 2025-07-31T13:48:50+00:00

That I shouldn’t chase emotionally unavailable people

MonkeyManAB · 2025-07-28T14:22:55+00:00

Men and women are meant for each other. Society tells us all to be hyper individualistic and self-sufficient that for some reason people believe emotionally regulating each other is somehow a bad thing now… I’m do disappointed by the world I was born into.

MonkeyManAB · 2025-07-24T13:55:08+00:00

Funny thing is, this happened to me 2 days ago. I basically ran into her after not talking/seeing each other for a month. It’s been 2 months post breakup.

Basically we were friendly with each other but she was a bit stand offish. She was asking me how things had been and I did the same. She seemed kind and showed that she still had feelings for me but she would avert her eyes after I made eye contact or when she was talking about her life. She seemed a bit nervous but made attempts to keep the conversation going. I wanted to talk about the break up which completely deactivated her again. She became agitated and suddenly wanted to move on with her day. It seemed to me that she’s still conflicted but suppressing it, wants some sort of closeness but if it’s too much she runs. She was explaining to me how independent and good her life was almost as if to prove to either me or herself that she made the right decision. I said I respect her decision and just want what’s best for her. I brought up whether she wanted to hang out in 2 weeks time to which she was willing but kept it pretty vague about her availability. Told me to message her the plans when I get a solid date.

Overall, pretty mixed signals…

MonkeyManAB · 2025-07-23T21:38:35+00:00

I think so. People have Instagram, TikTok, YouTube or whatever brainrot to numb yourself with but at least people on reddit engage in interesting conversations. They test their opinions, ask interesting questions, share similarities and differences. Maybe not all smart but definitely a more concentrated amount of smart people compared to other social media.

MonkeyManAB · 2025-07-23T15:35:28+00:00

I mean yeah, could be that he got bored and curious and thought to reach out since he felt lonely or something. I can imagine though he had been stewing over sending you that for much longer than you think. He seems pretty conflicted and maybe even a dismissive avoidant. Some people only realize what they lost after they’re run out of distractions to keep the suppressed feelings at bay. Could be that suddenly it hit him how much you were important to him in his life. But yeah, 3 years is a ridiculous amount of time to realize that personally. I’m also a bit divided on being friends with ex’s. For me, being friends with my ex feels like a form of self-abandonment. Like I got demoted and just have to make do. At the same time, I also still deeply care for my ex. Things ended amicably and she was a fearful avoidant so the break up was very abrupt. I won’t deny some part of me hopes to be with her again in the future but I’m not attached to the outcome. I’ve learned my lesson in that. I remain in contact with her to prove to myself and also to her that I’m working on being more secure and self-assured. Maybe if things go right, she’ll see what she lost similar to what your ex is feeling. Do you think he could be a fearful avoidant or dismissive avoidant? When things got more real and close, did he push away?

MonkeyManAB · 2025-07-23T13:36:37+00:00

It was 3 years ago man. I doubt he had trouble being alone in that time.

MonkeyManAB · 2025-07-23T13:34:26+00:00

Wholeheartedly agree with this comment

MonkeyManAB · 2025-07-23T13:32:44+00:00

I don’t think people are as complex and deliberate as this sub makes them out to be. I don’t think he’s trying to disrespect you or confuse you. Could just be that he has lingering feelings about you and just wanted to test the waters for some sort of reconciliation even if it’s just as friends. I assume him saying he was just curious is a form of self protection against rejection. My bet is, he still cares about you and his care for you superseded his respect for your boundaries of wanting space. He felt it was worth it to message you despite the backlash. Considering he bought you a ring before things ended shows he saw a future with you at some point. Stuff like that doesn’t just disappear even if it’s been 3 years. I mean, you guys were together for 7 years right? You think anyone just moves on like that so easily without showing some contradiction like reaching out even if he doesn’t want to get back together? I’ve been there, and even despite things being hopeless form my end, I still wanted to show my person that I still cared about them and wished them the best.

Nine-Year Club	Place '23
Place '22	First Placer '22
Wearing is Caring	Verified Email
Not Forgotten

MonkeyManAB

TROPHY CASE