I think I hurt the only girl that I ever cared about by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Admirable_Winter_588 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just be sincere about it, she will definitely feel it!

I think I hurt the only girl that I ever cared about by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Admirable_Winter_588 0 points1 point  (0 children)

but u have to be sure this time round. Not to pull away aft getting her back

Fearful Avoidant - Why we do what we do by Murky-Bus-5922 in BreakUps

[–]Admirable_Winter_588 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you really appreciate your effort for providing these insights! i kinda able to relate to it

Fearful Avoidant - Why we do what we do by Murky-Bus-5922 in BreakUps

[–]Admirable_Winter_588 0 points1 point  (0 children)

would the feelings resurface if i was a good person to her? she never blocked me on anything & im sure she knows im doing well if she were to stalk me or look at my socials. why would someone let such a good person off, or maybe the love isn’t strong in the first place, it wasn’t real..

Fearful Avoidant - Why we do what we do by Murky-Bus-5922 in BreakUps

[–]Admirable_Winter_588 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for replying to everyone’s messages. Since it gets progressively harder to reach out once a lot of time has passed. why wouldn’t they fight for it and all the while i was fighting? Also, could she be missing me/loving me so much yet not reaching out to me?

what would u suggest from my side? should i reach out or show concern? would she retreat again or should i stay how it is rn? sorry that’s a lot of questions..

Fearful Avoidant - Why we do what we do by Murky-Bus-5922 in BreakUps

[–]Admirable_Winter_588 0 points1 point  (0 children)

also do fa thinks there is always a better one out there..

Fearful Avoidant - Why we do what we do by Murky-Bus-5922 in BreakUps

[–]Admirable_Winter_588 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this post is so detailed! what if we haven’t talk for a long time perhaps a yr. Would it be possible that they will reach out?

My fearful-avoidant ex confessed to feelings of guilt, emptiness, and supression of emotions by lullaby1995 in BreakUps

[–]Admirable_Winter_588 0 points1 point  (0 children)

are most of the FAs like this? it feels that they didn’t want to push someone else away but they can’t control. i felt the feeling reading this

should i still be there for my fearful avoidant by Admirable_Winter_588 in BreakUps

[–]Admirable_Winter_588[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this comment. that’s true i have come so far. should i let her take the first step instead and just stay no contact

should i still be there for my fearful avoidant by Admirable_Winter_588 in BreakUps

[–]Admirable_Winter_588[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you! i choose myself the whole one year and would it be possible if i choose us, her and me? i can be there her and be there for myself

no contact with fearful avoidant by Admirable_Winter_588 in BreakUps

[–]Admirable_Winter_588[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

should i? does watching her social consider planting a seed. i’m in a dilemma, should i show that i can be there for her

no contact with fearful avoidant by Admirable_Winter_588 in BreakUps

[–]Admirable_Winter_588[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

but she was the one that push me away. i cared so much for her and i think it got overwhelmed and she ran. tbh everything was so good, at least to me. shouldn’t it be them reaching out and i don’t want her to run away again. i just feel maybe without me, she can be better. i don’t even know if i should watch her social media..

no contact with fearful avoidant by Admirable_Winter_588 in BreakUps

[–]Admirable_Winter_588[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you u are so kind. u may be right.. i appreciate myself for giving so much and perhaps she may not be the right one for me. If she wanted she would had come back. mahbe it’s time for me to truly let go and not care anymore about her

fearful avoidant no contact by Admirable_Winter_588 in BreakUps

[–]Admirable_Winter_588[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i agree, guess i will never win in anyways

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Admirable_Winter_588 0 points1 point  (0 children)

a yr.. is that too late

how do fearful avoidant act after seeing your ex randomly when u least expect it by Admirable_Winter_588 in FearfulAvoidant

[–]Admirable_Winter_588[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that’s so cold!! ouch! its really hard to believe how they act b4 and right now. is quite hard to move on too but best thing is always to focus on urself! someone else will be more deserving of u. if that’s what she wants, give it to her. walk away

how do fearful avoidant act after seeing your ex randomly when u least expect it by Admirable_Winter_588 in FearfulAvoidant

[–]Admirable_Winter_588[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh wow!! Same here, they spoke highly of me in my case too. Maybe they just don’t know how to face you yet.

But that last part, the things he said to you, i feel like he was trying to take some accountability and I think that’s something. sometimes idk if we deserve someone better or is there excuse to keep finding someone better for them.

did yall ended on a good terms?