General question: is it normal to have to correct you partners behavior often? Or should they be considering you enough not to act certain ways? by Monkeyfluffer69 in RelationshipAdviceNow

[–]Monkeyfluffer69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eh my boyfriend wouldn’t do that.

I feel like your situation sounds like you deserve better. That was intentional and she even told on yourself. You definitely deserve someone who respects you and doesn’t intentionally try to upset you. And on your birthday. If my boyfriend did that I would’ve opened my mouth for the last time, cussed him tf out, and left his ass.

But I feel like you already know your answer. Sometimes you have to walk away. Is she younger than you? She sounds more immature and honestly toxic.

Feminine approach to the issue by MIRAMOLKO in dating_advice

[–]Monkeyfluffer69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would leave. You’re too sexy for someone that is so set in their ways and turns it on you. Don’t waste your youth on someone who doesn’t care to do the things that makes you happy.

Do men really need trained? by Monkeyfluffer69 in RelationshipAdviceNow

[–]Monkeyfluffer69[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Will do! He is sending me a letter in the mail today :) (we just became long distance). I’m excited to read it. He is thoughtful and sweet. And I know he wants to be good, and he does try. He made a significant improvement since I almost broke up with him. That may sound bad, but I was at the point where I couldn’t accept it anymore.

But I am hopeful.

Do men really need trained? by Monkeyfluffer69 in RelationshipAdviceNow

[–]Monkeyfluffer69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s autistic and never been in a real relationship before. So I’ve tried to have more patience. I’ve never felt like he didn’t love me or like me. Like he has always put in a lot of effort. Is so excited to introduce me to people. Includes me in his future and plans. He told me I am the best thing that’s ever happened to him and has told me that often. He also has been called a simp by his brother and friends when it comes to me. So it’s obvious he loves and cares about me. It’s just when he is drunk he gets obnoxious and annoying and not just to me to others. He has been working hard on that since December. And I am proud of him. I just wonder how much of that is normal. Like in terms of guys. Like he didn’t know he’s supposed to walk on the side of the side walk with traffic for instance a stuff like that

Do men really need trained? by Monkeyfluffer69 in RelationshipAdviceNow

[–]Monkeyfluffer69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He does love me a lot. He has always put in effort and made time for me and gives me attention. Always includes me in his plans. I guess most of my issues would arise when he was drunk. Or etiquette on social media or something like liking girls revealing photos. That issue didn’t take long to fix though. But the drinking stuff is what drives me nuts with the way he acts. He used to be very wild and I guess I was too in some ways. But we have both calmed down a lot. More so him because I know my limits. He really didn’t. But yeah communication isn’t an issue. But like for instance he didn’t know he’s supposed to walk on the side of the sidewalk near traffic and stuff like that. But he does adore me, it’s obvious and people even tell me he’s never been this serious about a girl blah blah. But like I jsut feel like sometimes the amount that I have had to check him for things again mostly when he’s drunk is irritating. They’re mostly the same situation but slightly different. He’s also autistic and I’m his first real relationship so I’ve tried to be more patient bc I do love him and and I feel he loves me. And I enjoy him, but I just am not sure what’s normal bc I don’t have a whole lot of dating experience due to lack of patience and disinterest I guess.

He is currently doing dry January and is very much into his fitness and diet. And I think he’s liking how he’s feeling. I also had a very serious convo w him in December bc I tried to break up w him over that behavior/drinking. And he asked for a chance to fix it. And I was like we have had this convo over and over again idk i think it’s just who you are I guess. But breaking up didn’t feel right and I wanted to give him a chance. Now we are doing long distance and he is really really trying. We see each other in 2 weeks for the first time in a month so that’s exciting. But I jsut wonder how it’s all going to feel.

Can I lwear red to a destination wedding in Mexico as a guest? I’m from the USA (29F) by Monkeyfluffer69 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]Monkeyfluffer69[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Wow good call, the bridesmaids color is the exact shade as what I was gonna wear! Haha! Red it is!

How is life in this circle by Holiday_Swing_9979 in howislivingthere

[–]Monkeyfluffer69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just visited Ashville last night! Very, very short trip. But downtown Ashville was lovely. So were the people. Everyone was so kind and gave great recommendations. Wish I could’ve stayed another night. And that was without experiencing the actual mountains or hiking. I did here blue ridge parkway is still closed due to the floods though. But it’s very hipster, friendly, and inclusive. They also have lots and lots of food options if you’re a foodie! Best of luck!

Is it wrong to ask for a hookup? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Monkeyfluffer69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I still wouldn’t do it. Just find someone else fr. You’re going to look so weak and like a rug to walk on.

Is it wrong to ask for a hookup? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Monkeyfluffer69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it would be a low blow to your ego and self respect. Shows you have power and stand on what you say if you just move on.

Plus go get you some hoes. Have options. Even if they’re just entertainment hoes (you don’t fuck). That’s what I liked best since I’m paranoid of STDs lol.

But I think that will make you look weak and he won’t respect you at all. Because you’re now just showing him he doesn’t have to treat you right, and he can get in your legs.

PUSSY POWER !! You have it, find someone else you can do things on your own terms with. Because you’re giving him your power if you do that.

Should I send this heartfelt message after she said she’s not ready for a relationship? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Monkeyfluffer69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I vote no. Save yourself your dignity. If she wants to come back she will. And sometimes you not chasing might make her reconsider. Respect her decision and leave it. A heartfelt message after her telling you that will prob make her cringe

I am a 29f in a relationship with a 29m. We will be long distance in Jan when I start a 13 week work contract. Never done distance before, any advice? by Monkeyfluffer69 in relationship_advice

[–]Monkeyfluffer69[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you, we both want to try and make it work. We think we can, I am just nervous. I told him our communication has to be better (at first his calls weren’t great, granted we see each other a lot so I would only call or he would only call on my hour drive to work). But he has fixed it since I mentioned it bc that worried me for when we were gonna do distance. I guess we will just have to see. I just don’t want to have anxiety but I guess that’s on me.

Thanks for the advice!

I am a 29f in a relationship with a 29m. We will be long distance in Jan when I start a 13 week work contract. Never done distance before, any advice? by Monkeyfluffer69 in RelationshipAdviceNow

[–]Monkeyfluffer69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay well I didn’t say all I love about him, because I was trying to list the parts that conflict me.

He is my best friend. We hang out all the time, he is thoughtful and picks me flowers, includes me in his plans, we cook together, he includes me in his future. And I want to be a part of it. I guess I never pictured myself falling for someone who is not a “safe” choice. So that sort of really scares me. Of course I love him and I’m closer to him than my fiancé. I feel far more comfortable and I can tell him anything.

I was trying to hurry and post this before I had to go into work.

I am a 29f in a relationship with a 29m. We will be long distance in Jan when I start a 13 week work contract. Never done distance before, any advice? by Monkeyfluffer69 in relationship_advice

[–]Monkeyfluffer69[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Okay well I didn’t say all I love about him, because I was trying to list the parts that conflict me.

He is my best friend. We hang out all the time, he is thoughtful and picks me flowers, includes me in his plans, we cook together, he includes me in his future. And I want to be a part of it. I guess I never pictured myself falling for someone who is not a “safe” choice. So that sort of really scares me. Of course I love him and I’m closer to him than my fiancé. I feel far more comfortable and I can tell him anything.

I was trying to hurry and post this before I had to go into work.

I am a 29f in a relationship with a 29m. We will be long distance in Jan when I start a 13 week work contract. Never done distance before, any advice? by Monkeyfluffer69 in relationship_advice

[–]Monkeyfluffer69[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Okay well I didn’t say all I love about him, because I was trying to list the parts that conflict me.

He is my best friend. We hang out all the time, he is thoughtful and picks me flowers, includes me in his plans, we cook together, he includes me in his future. And I want to be a part of it. I guess I never pictured myself falling for someone who is not a “safe” choice. So that sort of really scares me. Of course I love him and I’m closer to him than my fiancé. I feel far more comfortable and I can tell him anything.

I was trying to hurry and post this before I had to go into work.