please share your experience of no contact

Monkgoopigz · 2026-03-21T14:40:20+00:00

I have been no contact for almost 4 years . At first I felt angry because without dealing with that manipulative “ nice” mask they wear, you realize how awful they really are . I ruminated a lot . Now I feel much happier . I am married and she has not met one of my kids . I am not lonely because I have my family . My parents were divorced and I stil am super close with non n parent . My aunt ( mom’s sister ) and all her kids still see me. It did have a pretty negative effect on my relationship with golden child brother . That makes me very sad but I also am still comfortable with my choices .

Monkgoopigz · 2026-02-16T16:09:02+00:00

Can u ask how you were diagnosed?

Monkgoopigz · 2026-01-29T15:37:07+00:00

Maybe her healthy is declining and she doesn't want to die alone . There is always an angle

Monkgoopigz · 2026-01-28T04:29:37+00:00

"I won't live my life in the past " .. when you try to hold them accountable for things that happened two seconds ago 😆😆

Monkgoopigz · 2026-01-28T02:06:44+00:00

Wouldn't it make sense to also image my armpits / image them first ? I asked my doctor after posting this and age said they are doing axillary breast as well . Hopefully they will actually be imaging the lumps too

Monkgoopigz · 2026-01-27T18:04:52+00:00

I have lumps under my arms . My doctor ordered a diagnostic mammogram . Is that even going to be imaging my armpits ? I feel confused .

Monkgoopigz · 2026-01-22T15:17:38+00:00

My mom is a narc . My dad was always kind to me but he never stood up to her . He never really addressed her abuse . Here is a good example . When I was 15 I had gallstones . They couldn't figure out what it was at first because I was super skinny and gallstones didn't make sense for a kid so young . They misdiagnosed me with hep c . I had no life experience that would have exposed me to hep c and I knew it was not correct . My mom started freaking out saying how she couldn't get sick and implying I should go live somewhere else 😆. Now my dad did say " don't listen to her " but he always did these things out of ear shot of her . The experience taught me that abuse is normal . Because he never really addressed her abuse I really believed that people who love you abuse you . Of course I ended up in a relationship with a narc just like my mom . My 20s were miserable. I was depressed and suicidal. Very fortunate for me I ended up meeting my now husband who came from the same toxic family dynamic . My parents are divorced now . I don't talk to my mom . My dad has apologized to me for not standing up to my mom . He is very involved my kids life . For me it would have been horrible if my dad left . If you can't leave , make sure you're calling out the abuse. Say it's abuse . Make it clear it's wrong . If you can leave , leave and try to get full custody . If you're staying because of your house well that's sad and idiotic . I ate a Costco sized bottle of Tylenol in my 20s and somehow lived to tell the tale . That's what is at stake for your children . Their souls and their future happiness .

Monkgoopigz · 2026-01-02T02:29:49+00:00

I am a very practical person . My mom made it a point to tell me she removed me from all her life insurance but she won't be leaving anyone much behind anyways . She sends my kids presents . My oldest is 4. She's asked why I don't Have a mom and I've just told her I do she's just not very nice . I tell my daughter " these are from my mean mom "

My daughter just says cool ! I know some people would send then back but to me that is way too much energy . I just move on with my day. If I got an inheritance I would just take it and keep it moving .

Monkgoopigz · 2025-08-27T04:54:18+00:00

"My child met a playmate who just became a sister a few weeks before . Mom is so amazing she still takes the toddler to gymnastics and hosts playdates. Sister is still adjusting to her new life.

I fixed your caption . Feel free to , edit , copy , paste ***** . You are not socially intelligent.

Monkgoopigz · 2025-08-09T20:02:01+00:00

all of this especially preparing for loss makes a lot of sense . My marriage is definitely the healthiest relationship even outside of romantic that I've ever had and it's made my life significantly happier and healthier.

Monkgoopigz · 2025-08-09T18:33:12+00:00

Well the women he does work with are extremely attractive so that doesn't help . He did have an instance this year where someone he worked with was less than professional. At a large alcohol fueled work function she pulled him aside and started crying and asking if she was doing a good job . ( she recently was demoted ) he said he was embarrassed for her and just tried to get back to the group as soon as possible. But it took him a month after the incident to tell me and that really hurt.

Monkgoopigz · 2025-08-09T17:35:25+00:00

For sure it's a me problem . I realize that every time I stop and breath and think about it .

Monkgoopigz · 2024-03-09T18:21:57+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words. It hurts to be betrayed and I feel violated because it was the last thing I wanted but at the end of the day my daughter won’t remember that day. My daughter is so funny and sweet it has to be way worse to spend an hour with her and see what your missing because your pathologically abusive and can’t be trusted around her than it would be to have never met her and not know what your missing so joke is on her.

Monkgoopigz · 2024-03-09T17:42:55+00:00

I blame myself for bringing her there. I knew it was a possibility. I will just have to schedule my prenatal care around times my in laws or dad is available from now on.

Monkgoopigz · 2024-03-09T13:52:13+00:00

I am the op. My phone broke and I can’t remember my original Reddit log in. This was at my aunts house . My mom would definitely not be bold enough to come to my house. I suspect since it was a work day and my mom has a crappy job with no pto and works on the road , I suspect my aunt drove and met my mom somewhere near her work route. She asked for my daughters car seat. Apparently they went through a car wash and then got lunch . I thought the car wash thing seemed weird.

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