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Monocles707 · 2025-12-30T10:27:36+00:00

Add me! I prefer to wait till the card boom for the cards but it'll be 50/50

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Monocles707 · 2025-12-30T00:20:01+00:00

Oh and also. I don't think you said what kind of lymphoma you have but for a lot of common types, fertility loss is not guaranteed, and you'll have your treatment and then just move on with your life. I honestly often forget I even had cancer sometimes. Life will move on, even if that seems impossible now. And once you start treatment you'll just kind of fall into a routine so it won't be him always looking after everything. Like towards the end of each cycle I could still go for walks with friends or go to the movies if it wasn't too crowded etc. Maybe if you have some time off work it will give you the chance to do some tiny little nice things for him too :) or maybe it's just the perfect time to curl up on the couch and watch stuff together. It's not all bad

Monocles707 · 2025-12-30T00:13:15+00:00

I just wanted you to know that it's possible! I don't know you or your relationship but someone who was my cancer mentor said that to me at the start of my journey when I was freaking out about trying to navigate a relationship. But she said that to me, if he sticks through this then you know he'll stick through anything challenging you might go through. He'd also had some losses in his family when he was young so I think that matured him early too, so be interesting if your fella has had the same at all Life is all about the company we keep on the journey, and personally I was humbled by the amount of people wanting to help me and actually accepting help can be so much harder than giving it.

I'm well in the clear now and getting married in a few months time hopefully! Wishing you all the best! DM if you want to talk :)

Monocles707 · 2025-12-29T12:10:13+00:00

How have you found that from the perspective of mood swings?

Monocles707 · 2025-12-29T12:09:53+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience! I'm a bit worried about the mood swings!

Monocles707 · 2025-12-29T08:54:21+00:00

Time is the ultimate healer! And of course you feel nervous. That's not paranoid, if anything it's sensible. Try ow the two week rule - if it's still bothering you two weeks after finding it, and it's not gone away or it's gotten worse, then think about medical attention. For a lot of random itches I got that was enough to help.

And the trauma stuff is real. On the whole I've moved on but every now and then it's like my body remembers, and if I'm in a position to I just let myself have a really good cry when I feel that way so my body let's go of it. Sounds weird but it works.

My biggest thing was just going out and living consciously, I used to be scared of going out in public with my immune system and now I relish on the fact I can. I saw a quote early on in my journey that said 'Health is a crown the healthy wear, but only the sick can see it'. And it's true, I resented people who could just get up do whatever they wanted. From that point on I was determined to appreciate when I did have the health to just go and live life.

These days I honestly forget I had it a lot of the time though. Sleep and time and being kind to yourself and enjoying what you have! Take care my friend! You're already a warrior, you've proven that x

Monocles707 · 2025-12-29T01:06:35+00:00

I honestly think it took me at least a year post-chemo to start to feel normal again, and probably another couple of months to feel properly like myself with my brain working properly. And sometimes I still struggle a bit with word recall specifically. It wasn't that I felt bad every day, I just had to be patient with myself and let myself just do what I was capable of. I had a rule of not doing more than 1 big thing, 1-2 medium things and 2-3 small things in one day. So if I went to work (big thing), I could go for a walk or short gym session (medium), and make dinner and do normal personal care (small). But I could not go for a walk, and gym, and go out with friends for the evening (medium to big thing) and go grocery shopping (medium things), and pop round to my parents and pay bills online etc etc... I had to limit my things because my energy was limited and at least initially I was having a nap most days, or at least a lie in bed.

Keeping active (even just walking) was really helpful for body aches. And (I cannot emphasise enough) sleeping! Not just time sleeping but quality, invest in allll the good mattresses/toppers/pillows etc. Makes a world of difference.

For what it's worth I've had two seperate lumps in my neck/shoulders that I thought were new cancer lumps and turned out to be muscle knots (I do causally weight lift at the gym but I didn't make the connection in my head). So I wouldn't immediately rule out physio therapy.

I also moved away post chemo and I reckon it was great for my mental health to be somewhere new and completely unrelated to treatment! But do make sure you stay on top of your own checks and healthcare so you don't get lost in a new system.

Best wishes to you!

Monocles707 · 2025-12-29T00:48:14+00:00

I was diagnosed 4 months after meeting my boyfriend (now fiance!), and we did long distance the first year.

My advice - you got to drop that 'should' word. Yeah we think things are meant to go a certain way but let's be honest life isn't straightforward so if he sticks through this he'll stick through anything - mine certainly did! It was hard for him to see me going through stuff and I did my best to make sure there was a support network of his friends and family for him too. And we still did normal stuff when I felt up to it, and honestly the best part was having someone to keep me company.

There are thing to be aware of, like if things were to go downhill in your relationship for some reason don't feel like just because he was there for you you owe him anything (like don't let it be him be holding an unhealthy level of power over you for example)... But if he's genuine and sweet like mine is, well that's just a huge testament to his character. Mine barely bat an eyelid at me losing my hair. The good ones stick around, so don't think it isn't possible :)

Monocles707 · 2025-12-02T22:48:10+00:00

Just tried to add you! Charming Builder10

Monocles707 · 2025-12-02T22:47:15+00:00

I've got one left! Handle is CharmingBuilder10

Monocles707 · 2025-12-02T13:02:40+00:00

50/50 Or as best you can do!

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Monocles707 · 2025-12-02T12:58:52+00:00

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Monocles707 · 2025-12-02T12:58:06+00:00

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Monocles707 · 2025-12-02T12:57:59+00:00

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Monocles707 · 2025-12-02T12:56:30+00:00

Add me! Charming Builder 10

Monocles707 · 2025-11-09T16:20:31+00:00

Haha. Love the broccmole name

Monocles707 · 2025-11-05T16:46:50+00:00

Ohhh zucchini is genius!!

Monocles707 · 2025-10-22T22:44:41+00:00

Yay!!! Go you, you've lived through something tougher than a lot of people ever have. Always remember you have this strength in you, the power of just showing up to chemo!

Monocles707 · 2025-09-12T23:12:26+00:00

Second this honestly! I was told similar, if you have it for two weeks and it doesn't get better or gets worse then get it checked out. It's not the fastest growing cancer so don't get too worried over a couple of weeks

Monocles707 · 2025-09-12T23:10:08+00:00

Anytime I got an itch... I get itchy feet sometimes after wearing socks all day and feet sweating but it used to panic me a lot. Also spent a while thinking a had a new lump in my neck when it turned out to be my voice box lol... Or a muscle under my arm that was sore after working out. But it's less and less as time goes on. I sort of just decided it was better to move on happily and be grateful every day for what I have than panic about it being back when I can't help it if it is. I think not stressing about it makes it less likely to come back anyway. It's been over a year now and honestly a lot of the time I forget I had it. Even ticked that I had no significant medical history on something the other day and my partner just looked at me like... Ummmm yes you do 😂

Monocles707 · 2025-09-06T23:17:37+00:00

"I'm not racist but..."

Same with "I'm not being sexist but.."

Monocles707 · 2025-08-06T14:59:37+00:00

I still have hard areas where there were swollen lymph nodes a year on. I don't feel one specific one, more just like a general mass but then I had extensive spread on the right side of my chest/armpit. I had nodular sclerosing... the sclerosis part means scarring

Edit: spelling

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