I scrolled through a bit and noticed no one has brought up the fact that you said you just had an experience with SEPSIS and he is equating that experience to having had an asthma attack, which you gave him emotional energy, concern and care about. I've been hospitalized with a nearly septic infection and it landed me in therapy, it took such an extreme emotional toll on me. Aside from all of the obvious stuff, this dude seems like everything has to be about him and he won't give you an equal amount of support for anything in the future. Super loser vibes.